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In a message dated 1/18/03 7:13:30 AM Pacific Standard Time,
[email protected] writes:


> That is amazing that the judge would rule like that.
> I was so lucky in my first divorce that my husband and
> I were able to be so fair with each other. Nobody
> could believe it. We had married at 17 and had been
> married almost 17 years and it wasn't easy on either
> of us to divorce but we wanted to keep things as easy
> as we could. We did a do-it-yourself divorce for $75
> and I let him have the house and basically everything
> in it, traded our weekends with the kids when we
> needed to... The judge sure seemed to have not seen
> such an easy divorce. Of course, we weren't
> homeschooling...
>
>
We had the opportunity to do our divorce so simply. Because he was military
we could have lawyers on base advise us, and we just would have to pay the
filing fees. I tried to do that, but each time I'd present the papers to
Russ he'd spend over a month with them, and then do them incorrectly. He was
messing with me - as he had the house, and all the military retirement going
to him (by law half was mine, but he didn't have to give it to me until the
divorce was final). Russ' orginal family history was that control of the
money was tied to "love". He was mad, and I was to suffer. It didn't matter
that the kids were suffering too. He constantly re-enforced my decision to
end the marriage!

Connie



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