Re: Port Townsend and sad family situation
Cheryl Flohe
<<<Date: Thu, 09 Jan 2003 14:17:40 -0800
From: Heidi Wordhouse-Dykema <heidi@...>
Subject: Re: Digest Number 677
Hey! I was recently up in Port Townsend to pick up
our yurt! You have the most adorable downtown
(although I zipped in, got the yurt loaded up and
zipped back out again to get to relatives near
portland.)
I wish I could have stayed longer!
Heidi>>>
Yes, Port Townsend is a very cool town. When we moved
over to the Peninsula last summer from Seattle, Port
Townsend was my first choice but unfortunately too
expensive. Sequim is basically the next big town to
the west and that's where my parents live but then I
discovered Port Angeles, a beautiful place also. We
found this place just west of Port Angeles on March
15th after the surprise snow storm in western WA and
we fell in love with this place before we walked in
the door... a little snow all the way here and then
as we drove up this road past farms, more and more
snow, until we got here to a log house on 10 acres and
a foot of snow! The town is beautiful too and when
you drive out onto Ediz Hook almost to the Coast Guard
station and look back at the town of Port Angeles and
at the Olympic Mountains towering over the town it
takes your breath away. The kids (2 boys, one just
turned 13 and the other is 9) and I love it here! Not
as many children to play with as living in a
neighborhood but since we've been homeschooling the
last couple years there weren't as many children to
play with anyway because they were either at school or
doing homework!
By the way, I also read the note about the sad
situation with the manipulative father and wanted to
put my 2 cents in. I saw a divorce lawyer about a
year ago and he said that the courts won't force a
family to put the children in school so the Mom can go
to work but they may adjust what the Mom gets if it's
proven that she could make a certain amount of money
by working outside the home and decides not to. In my
case, I decided to move over here with the kids and my
husband stays in our trailer in Seattle coming home on
weekends only. Too long of a story for here but I
felt that it would work out better if I didn't have a
divorce situation where I had to send the kids to be
alone with their Dad on weekends (VERY controlling!!).
Anyway, just wanted to say that there are jobs a
woman can do from home now if there must be a divorce.
It's also wonderful to have a positive influence
family for those children to be around to show that
their life at home is not the way it is in all
families.
Cheryl
From: Heidi Wordhouse-Dykema <heidi@...>
Subject: Re: Digest Number 677
Hey! I was recently up in Port Townsend to pick up
our yurt! You have the most adorable downtown
(although I zipped in, got the yurt loaded up and
zipped back out again to get to relatives near
portland.)
I wish I could have stayed longer!
Heidi>>>
Yes, Port Townsend is a very cool town. When we moved
over to the Peninsula last summer from Seattle, Port
Townsend was my first choice but unfortunately too
expensive. Sequim is basically the next big town to
the west and that's where my parents live but then I
discovered Port Angeles, a beautiful place also. We
found this place just west of Port Angeles on March
15th after the surprise snow storm in western WA and
we fell in love with this place before we walked in
the door... a little snow all the way here and then
as we drove up this road past farms, more and more
snow, until we got here to a log house on 10 acres and
a foot of snow! The town is beautiful too and when
you drive out onto Ediz Hook almost to the Coast Guard
station and look back at the town of Port Angeles and
at the Olympic Mountains towering over the town it
takes your breath away. The kids (2 boys, one just
turned 13 and the other is 9) and I love it here! Not
as many children to play with as living in a
neighborhood but since we've been homeschooling the
last couple years there weren't as many children to
play with anyway because they were either at school or
doing homework!
By the way, I also read the note about the sad
situation with the manipulative father and wanted to
put my 2 cents in. I saw a divorce lawyer about a
year ago and he said that the courts won't force a
family to put the children in school so the Mom can go
to work but they may adjust what the Mom gets if it's
proven that she could make a certain amount of money
by working outside the home and decides not to. In my
case, I decided to move over here with the kids and my
husband stays in our trailer in Seattle coming home on
weekends only. Too long of a story for here but I
felt that it would work out better if I didn't have a
divorce situation where I had to send the kids to be
alone with their Dad on weekends (VERY controlling!!).
Anyway, just wanted to say that there are jobs a
woman can do from home now if there must be a divorce.
It's also wonderful to have a positive influence
family for those children to be around to show that
their life at home is not the way it is in all
families.
Cheryl
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**By the way, I also read the note about the sad
situation with the manipulative father and wanted to
put my 2 cents in. I saw a divorce lawyer about a
year ago and he said that the courts won't force a
family to put the children in school so the Mom can go
to work but they may adjust what the Mom gets if it's
proven that she could make a certain amount of money
by working outside the home and decides not to.**
I'm glad that lawyer thinks so, that his experience says that in your state,
but I'd like to caution that this makes it sound as if that would be
universally true, across the U.S. true, true in most situations. It's not.
The most common scenario is that dad asks the court to order his children
schooled, hoping to avoid paying support. Even dads who previously supported
and encouraged homeschooling have been know to do this. At least one divorce
court judge has also stepped in and ordered children into school when neither
parent requested that outcome. There are probably other families we don't
know about who didn't raise a fuss and went along with it.
In the family being discussed, one of the problems is the dad is trying to
force a child into school who doesn't want to go. If they end up in court,
he's more likely to get his way than the children and mom are to get theirs.
The odds of getting a homeschool sympathetic court are pretty darn low.
Deborah in IL
situation with the manipulative father and wanted to
put my 2 cents in. I saw a divorce lawyer about a
year ago and he said that the courts won't force a
family to put the children in school so the Mom can go
to work but they may adjust what the Mom gets if it's
proven that she could make a certain amount of money
by working outside the home and decides not to.**
I'm glad that lawyer thinks so, that his experience says that in your state,
but I'd like to caution that this makes it sound as if that would be
universally true, across the U.S. true, true in most situations. It's not.
The most common scenario is that dad asks the court to order his children
schooled, hoping to avoid paying support. Even dads who previously supported
and encouraged homeschooling have been know to do this. At least one divorce
court judge has also stepped in and ordered children into school when neither
parent requested that outcome. There are probably other families we don't
know about who didn't raise a fuss and went along with it.
In the family being discussed, one of the problems is the dad is trying to
force a child into school who doesn't want to go. If they end up in court,
he's more likely to get his way than the children and mom are to get theirs.
The odds of getting a homeschool sympathetic court are pretty darn low.
Deborah in IL