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In a message dated 11/8/02 6:23:42 PM Central Standard Time,
[email protected] writes:

<< I think every family will find the solution that works best for them. >>

Well then why don't we just quit giving advice and send all the kids to
school?
Why don't we tell people that spank to just "do what works best for them".
Doing what works best for whom? The adults or the children?
I think the kids would have a different view on this. And I think their view
is just as important as yours.


Ren
Unschooling support at pensacolaunschoolers.com
And remember,
"A life lived in fear is a life half lived"

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In a message dated 11/8/02 9:15:01 PM, starsuncloud@... writes:

<< I think the kids would have a different view on this. And I think their
view
is just as important as yours. >>

Perhaps more. I'll be dead before the views of my children have stopped
influencing the world. That's the good news and the bad news. If I screw
them up, the world has three times as much screw-up as when it was just me.

-=-Why don't we tell people that spank to just "do what works best for them".
Doing what works best for whom? The adults or the children?-=-

That's the biggest question.

Yahoo didn't shake the poor mom loose who was determined to limit the video
games and determined to get away from here. She saw some more posts (maybe
still seeing some) and wasn't happy.

So I woke up this morning, thinking, and thought that if ANY mother went away
from this list "happy" and determined to keep controlling her children's time
and thoughts, I would feel like a failure.

On a list I don't own, I have to scoot over and sit next to things I think
are wrong. Here I don't.



Sandra

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In a message dated 11/8/2002 10:14:58 PM Central Standard Time,
starsuncloud@... writes:

> <<I think every family will find the solution that works best for them. >>
>
> Well then why don't we just quit giving advice and send all the kids to
> school?
> Why don't we tell people that spank to just "do what works best for them".
> Doing what works best for whom? The adults or the children?
> I think the kids would have a different view on this. And I think their
> view
> is just as important as yours.
>

While I agree with you, Ren, I think that sentence you quoted is quite handy
when dealing face to face with hot button issues like breastfeeding and
spanking, etc. I know it's saved my behind and the atmosphere in the room
over and over again. whew.

BTW, and this is more important than just a BTW, but I'm reminded. If anyone
here practices Attachment Parenting, that organization lost a very important
member this week. Christie Watts Kelly, who wrote 6 books and collaborated
with Dr. Sears on some of those, was killed in a car accident near her home
in Memphis this week. She was pregnant with her third child, who was removed
from her body at 26 weeks gestation. Baby Ian is in critical, non-stable
condition. She leaves behind her husband and two young children. The AP
community here is rallying to see what they can do to help Ian and the family
survive.

Some of her books you might recognize were Baby On The Way, and What Baby
Needs. She also founded the Memphis chapter of Attachment Parenting, Int'l.,
taught yoga, and people who know her said she was the sort of person who
glowed. She was the kind of person the world needs more of, that's for sure.

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Just thought I'd pass on the sad news.

Tuck


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Kate Green

>If anyone
>here practices Attachment Parenting, that organization lost a very important
>member this week. Christie Watts Kelly, who wrote 6 books and collaborated
>with Dr. Sears on some of those, was killed in a car accident near her home
>in Memphis this week.


What sad news for her family and for the AP community. Words can't express
it really.

Kate