Kirby, my oldest, is 22. He spoke at the HENA conference in Arizona on March 7. He said three things that surprised me. One was that he explained that when he was young his parents (me, one of them, and I was sitting there) hadn't told him no much, but had helped him see the possible outcomes of various decisions, and then supported what he decided. So he was saying we had helped him figure out how to make decisions, early on. And now that he's grown, I've seen him make some really good ones. He's just moved into a house with his apartment-mate and another friend, and a fourth is moving in next month, I think. They did a great job, it seemed, of deciding whether, how and when to move, and pulling it off in an efficient way (in the two days before he left for the conference in Arizona).The other two surprising things, for the record, were he totally bragged up his brother Marty (who wasn't there), and he credited Pokemon for the trajectory that led him to the job he's in now. I hadn't thought of it that way, but when he told it, the whole picture came flooding back, of why he started hanging out at Active Imagination in the first place (the gaming shop in which he worked from 14 to 19).
Sandra