At the ALL Unschooling Symposium in Minnesota, a question was asked May 3, 2013, of the participants:
Who inspired you? Who helped you move toward better parenting and unschooling?
They might not even be unschoolers. They might have said one thing, one time.
Below that are additions from Just Add Light and Stir
My favorite quotes from that session:
"I'm more interested in learning what they think of the world than in telling them about the world."
I asked the same questions on Just Add Light and Stir, in April 2015, and got these responses:.
The blogger dad from"Free Your Kids" introduced me to the lifestyle refered to as radical unschooling. I don't even know how I stumbled upon his Facebook page, but my family and I will forever be glad I did! His words were simple, warm and hit me like a truth smack in the head. A huge "duh" moment. I have not even raised my voice in anger in almost 4 years and I love the way our family lives with joy in everything.
Life is bliss, even when it's not. :D
You, Sandra Dodd. Through your lectures at conferences, your books, your website, and Just Add Light and Stir. Your words help me stay on track with how "simple" it really can be, and how fundamental just listening to and respecting your children are to the process.
Dawn Holtan for being my friend in the trenches, and my sounding board. The many hours of conversation we have had about "how" we live with our children in a learning lifestyle have been invaluable to me. Thank you for always being there with an open ear, heart and mind!
I think I was inspired by you and all the unschoolers, because you guys believe in something positive and beautiful - life and learning.
He is now 17 and my daughter is 13 and they've never been to school...pure bred!! And now we enjoy that light hearted, close connection and aspire to be awake in our moments, open and playful. We live on a small island and 2 other families have followed this path, inspired by Janaya and her parents. Our hearts are FULL of gratitude!
A few years later I came across the term Radical Unschooling over the internet which became a further eye opener and mind expander offering a new perspective on all aspects of living. Reading the various writings involved walking off at times due to some particular topics that touched a nerve or pushed a button, stepping back and watching what is happening, learning to see things in a different light and always feeling a pull towards returning to seek further understanding.
I am very grateful for Sandra, Joyce, Pam L, Pam S and all other experienced Radical Unschooling mothers who share their understanding, experiences and wisdom with such clarity.
I credit my friend Jennifer with empowering me to try homeschooling. We were both middle school teachers at the time. She was taking a few years off to be at home with her young son, then 4, but was up at school one day for a meeting. At the time, my son was 2. She had been teaching for 25 years. Me, for three. In my classroom after her meeting, she said in passing that she might homeschool. Really? I asked. Yea, she said. I think it would be fun and, I don't know, I'm not sure all this--she swept her hand in the air indicating the whole the classroom, maybe the whole school, the whole model?--is the best thing for them.
It's funny, Jennifer's life took her in a different direction. She took a job at a very prestigious private school, where her son also attends, and she feels like they both get a lot out of the high performance expectations. But the moment years ago that she considered something else and shared that thought with me opened up a possibility that I had hitherto not even considered. Here was this master teacher--my friend--who was considering homeschooling not to close off her child or teach fundamental Christianity or something like that, but because she suspected his life might be BETTER that way.
Her opening that door for herself gave me a kind of permission to do the same. I will always be grateful for that.
When I decided to find an alternative to traditional schooling, I had very little personal support, especially in the beginning: I didn't know anyone who was unschooling and only a very few homeschoolers at all, and most of them were schooling at home through an independent study program. When I withdrew my son from school altogether, my family thought I was crazy, but, fortunately, held their tongues most of the time. While my son seemed to sleep his way through ages 13 and 14 (more accurately, he slept all day and played video games all night), my husband worried that I was ruining him. However, I had faith and kept the course, and as time went on, exciting things started to happen, and there were successes that could not be denied: my son, when awake, was a delight to be around; he looked for ways to exercise independence; he got his learner's permit and then his driver's license, and then his first job, one in an area of his passion, gemology; he took a second, related, job (though he quickly decided that working full time and a half wasn't for him!). Today, he's working 28 hours a week, and he's more than halfway through the certification program to be a gemologist (by far the youngest in his class and getting all As)...and he's not even 18 yet!
But even if my son hadn't experienced the more "tangible successes" (the jobs, the early college classes, etc.), I would still laud radical unschooling as espoused by Sandra Dodd. The relationship between my son and I has always been good, but since adopting radical unschooling principles, it has absolutely blossomed, and is even better than it was before.
My family is living proof that radical unschooling can benefit anyone. We are religious (LDS) and generally "conservative"; my husband and I both are products of public schooling, and my husband is a tenured professor at a community college. Sadly (and a bit inexplicably), no one in my immediate peer group unschools, and yet, it has worked/is working so beautifully for us. In my heart of hearts, I believe radical unschooling provides the kind of life that our Creator intended us to live. It is the Golden Rule put into practice. It is how I live the change I want to see.
Caren Knox, 2024:
Before Evan was born, or maybe when he was teeny-tiny, Stephanie Love & I went with a friend of Stephanie’s somewhere I’m not remembering right now, with their kids. We shared a hotel room, and in the middle of the night, Stephanie’s son Forrest fell out of the bed, and was crying.
I did not know my whole body was tensed, waiting for Stephanie to yell at or hit Forrest, until instead, she spoke very sweetly to him &comforted him. It just… opened up something in me, seeing that you could be kind to your kids. I had no idea. I’d *seen* that, in other families when I was growing up, but I didn’t consciously know that it was OK to do so, that it was a choice *I* could make.
Forrest was a toddler, or younger, and I expected that she’d be angry. She was always sweet with him, it was just, in that moment, I thought he was “in trouble”. Because as a kid, I would have been.
I’m tearing up, remembering that moment. It changed my life.—Caren Knox
on her facebook page,
in reference to this collectionCátia Maciel sent this:
In our homeschooling group, there is this young couple, Tânia and João, with twins. The parents could (maybe?) be my kids and the tweens my sweet grandchildren. They are so kind, creative, happy, their interactions with all the children are precious, like they always have the right word to say, in such a gentle way, with so much presence.
I admire them both. I see my daughter navigate towards Tânia when she needs help. They are safe. I want to be that safe person, the one who is helpful, with no judgement, when needed. I remember being around them, with so much patience, and shifting to a more gentle self, like by magic.—Cátia
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