Ali Kat

I have been slowly trying to move toward saying "yes" more often when DD says she's hungry and asks for foods. I have tried to quit saying "after you eat dinner" for sweets requests, offered suggestions or given her things to snack on while waiting for dinner, and have in general changed a lot of how we've dealt with food.

Last night, as I was preparing dinner, DD started to head toward the fridge.

I asked, "What are you doing?"

She said, "I'm hungry."

"I'm making dinner. It'll be done in about 10 minutes, can't you wait?" I replied (getting slightly annoyed).

"But I'm hungry now," she said, starting to whine.

Now, I'm starting to think that this is crazy and wondering why she can't just wait 10 or 15 more minutes, yada yada yada... Then, I stop. Maybe she is hungry, maybe her stomach hurts a little, maybe it won't hurt if she does eat something first...

"I was going to save the pineapple for dinner, but if you'd like you can have it now," I offered.

"Yeah, I'll take that!" She says, ecstatic because she loves pineapple.

Wow... that was easy. She ate her pineapple, I finished making the chicken nuggets and green beans (which were her requests too), and we ate our dinner - peacefully.

The big thing that I realized this morning is that she never asked for dessert. That used to be her whole concern - even from waking up in the morning. She would ask "What are we having for dinner? What's for dessert?" Now, if she wants some, she eats it. And, I am doing the same. Sometimes I will want something when she does, other times I won't - so I don't.

Later on, we were working on a computer game that we'd gotten from the library. It was particularly challenging, and we'd switch off and on taking turns trying to figure it out. At one point, while it was my turn, I heard her munching on something. I didn't say a word. She had grabbed the bag of chips and had eaten 2 or 3 - then was off and wanting her turn.

She had also gotten out the remainder of some carrot cake we had bought (her newly discovered favorite and my long-time weakness...) and 2 forks. I suggested I make some coffee, and she was so excited. We shared the remainder, and she actually stopped at some point. I am the one who finished, and consequently had to admit, "I ate wayyyy too much! I feel full & extremely sugared!" She giggled and said, "I'm not!"

It was nice and amazing.

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--- In [email protected], Ali Kat
<sweetgypsiedncer@y...> wrote:
> It was nice and amazing.
Isn't it though? We often do "courses" of a sort (similar to what
you did with the pineapple) - maybe set out some crisp veggies/salad
or slices of cheese or something (that coordinates with the meal)
and DS will munch on that for the last few minutes while dinner is
finishing up. Often (because we love chili and fajitas and stuff)
I'll be grating cheese and DS will wander through and ask for a
slice or grab a small "squeeze" of the shredded stuff. Or, he'll
grab a few slices of bell pepper while DH is slicing them up for
fajitas. Whatever. It's so much easier and calmer and all to not
have to fuss over 5 or 10 minutes. On Sunday we went to a restaurant
and DS ate a salad, a bowl of spinach artichoke dip and a bowl of
mac & cheese and decided that he was full enough and skipped dessert
(DH and I also skipped dessert). We double checked in case we
misunderstood because he loves the worms/dirt pudding dessert they
have at this place and he said yeah he was full and ready to leave.
He's so much less likely to get himself over full than we are and
we're slowly (re)learning to eat that way too.

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In a message dated 9/29/2004 12:45:55 PM Eastern Daylight Time,
sweetgypsiedncer@... writes:

> She giggled and said, "I'm not!"
> It was nice and amazing.

Wow! Great! Glad to hear things are moving along well!


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