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-=-On my way to pick up my child I was pulling into the drive

way and almost hit her 18 month old. Alone, playing in the front

yard, no mother in sight,-=-

So her mom was in the back yard taking good care of YOUR daughter.
That's not an unschooling issue.
I've found two loose toddlers in my life, and once the mother yelled at me
for having her baby. Waddly diaper baby, headed for the cattail swamp at the
side of the Rio Grande, across a dike road. I stopped my van, picked the baby
up, and walked over to the yard where the mom was hanging out her laundry. She
was angry. She wasn't an unschooler, so who can we blame? No diaper-baby
is "unschooled." They're babies. So that's not an unschooling story.

A distant relative of mine had a baby crawl up on the train tracks behind her
house. Their older kids were in school. Does that make it a
neglect-of-schooled-kids story? No, the baby was a baby.

If you find unschoolers who haven't washed their cars, will you come and
lecture us about how stupid it is not to wash a car, therefor unschoolers are
stupid? Thoughtful logic is a really good thing to model for your children.



-=-takers her sons in a room to spank them for not watching thier

sister. . . Then I learn she unschools.-=-

Maybe you could share with her this website:

http://sandradodd.com/spanking
If she doesn't have internet access, maybe you could print out some of the
good parts and take them to her. It could help her children a lot.

Part of deciding how we will be with our own children is looking at how other
moms are. That mom will stand as a bad example for you, and probably will
intensify your non-spanking and your watchfulness. That's good. You might find
good examples to emulate, too. But if you decide now what you will believe
in ten years, that's not a good thing. It could keep you from growing into the
best mom you could be.

Sandra