moving back to the country
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We have recently been struggling with the choice of giving up my husband's
job near a large city in NY State and taking a much lower paying job close to
family and several hours from a large town or city. After growing up focused on
getting out of the small town and going away to college and "a real life",
we've realized that living in the suburbs isn't all that great afterall. So
we've finally decided to make the move and give up the "extra" income. We
already live on a lot less than most of our neighbors since I'm a SAHM, not too many
around these parts. It will be a struggle for me to be able to stay home
with the kids, but I'm hoping we'll find ways to make ends meet as many other
families have had to.
We want our children to grow up surrounded by nature, not just visiting it a
few times a year. Although $ will be much tighter, I believe my children will
benefit from being around extended family who adore them. I look forward to
getting back into hiking, skiing, and using our canoe again.
We are a bit concerned about giving up my friends in the area(I belong to
MOMS Club) and homeschooling groups as well as the museums and GREAT libraries
that we frequent. But I hope life in a more rural area will have much to offer
in other ways, even if the municipal & economic resources are less.
When I write all this out, it seems like such a "no-brainer", and I'm asking
myself why have I been having such a hard time making this decision? I did
not grow up near extended family & when people told me about Sunday dinners at
grandma's or spending the night at the cousin's house, it seemed so strange to
me. Now I want those things for my children.
Sorry, I'm rambling on and on. What I'm wondering is if any of you have made
similar decisions with your families (to move to be with extended families,
to move to the country, to live on less $) and how it's been for you. I would
apprecitate any insight you might have on this issue.
Thanks so much!
Amanda
mom to Justin 4, and Madison 1, & hopefully another on the way soon
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job near a large city in NY State and taking a much lower paying job close to
family and several hours from a large town or city. After growing up focused on
getting out of the small town and going away to college and "a real life",
we've realized that living in the suburbs isn't all that great afterall. So
we've finally decided to make the move and give up the "extra" income. We
already live on a lot less than most of our neighbors since I'm a SAHM, not too many
around these parts. It will be a struggle for me to be able to stay home
with the kids, but I'm hoping we'll find ways to make ends meet as many other
families have had to.
We want our children to grow up surrounded by nature, not just visiting it a
few times a year. Although $ will be much tighter, I believe my children will
benefit from being around extended family who adore them. I look forward to
getting back into hiking, skiing, and using our canoe again.
We are a bit concerned about giving up my friends in the area(I belong to
MOMS Club) and homeschooling groups as well as the museums and GREAT libraries
that we frequent. But I hope life in a more rural area will have much to offer
in other ways, even if the municipal & economic resources are less.
When I write all this out, it seems like such a "no-brainer", and I'm asking
myself why have I been having such a hard time making this decision? I did
not grow up near extended family & when people told me about Sunday dinners at
grandma's or spending the night at the cousin's house, it seemed so strange to
me. Now I want those things for my children.
Sorry, I'm rambling on and on. What I'm wondering is if any of you have made
similar decisions with your families (to move to be with extended families,
to move to the country, to live on less $) and how it's been for you. I would
apprecitate any insight you might have on this issue.
Thanks so much!
Amanda
mom to Justin 4, and Madison 1, & hopefully another on the way soon
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Burton Bunch
We moved from a large city to the country almost 8 years ago and have never
regretted it. Our extended family actually came to join US in the last 3
years. While we may not have the museums, libraries, concert halls etc. at
our back door (within a few hours drive if we feel the need for something
"bigger") there are so many other avenues to explore and things to do that
enrich us everyday. We discovered an old refurbished church that was turned
into an art center that hosts many intimate events..not on the grand scale
of a large city but ones in which the kids can be right there involved in
the performance and asking questions etc. For me it's all in how I choose
to see where we are and why we are here. In the city we were living a much
more limiting lifestyle than we ever have here --- we just have a real sense
of freedom now that wasn't there before the move. Life seems to move a bit
slower here and I truly love that. Hope that makes some sense.
Jinger
-----Original Message-----
From: Mattamandab@... [mailto:Mattamandab@...]
Sent: Wednesday, April 14, 2004 3:17 PM
To: [email protected]
Subject: [UnschoolingDiscussion] moving back to the country
We have recently been struggling with the choice of giving up my husband's
job near a large city in NY State and taking a much lower paying job close
to
family and several hours from a large town or city. After growing up
focused on
getting out of the small town and going away to college and "a real life",
we've realized that living in the suburbs isn't all that great afterall. So
we've finally decided to make the move and give up the "extra" income. We
already live on a lot less than most of our neighbors since I'm a SAHM, not
too many
around these parts. It will be a struggle for me to be able to stay home
with the kids, but I'm hoping we'll find ways to make ends meet as many
other
families have had to.
We want our children to grow up surrounded by nature, not just visiting it a
few times a year. Although $ will be much tighter, I believe my children
will
benefit from being around extended family who adore them. I look forward to
getting back into hiking, skiing, and using our canoe again.
We are a bit concerned about giving up my friends in the area(I belong to
MOMS Club) and homeschooling groups as well as the museums and GREAT
libraries
that we frequent. But I hope life in a more rural area will have much to
offer
in other ways, even if the municipal & economic resources are less.
When I write all this out, it seems like such a "no-brainer", and I'm asking
myself why have I been having such a hard time making this decision? I did
not grow up near extended family & when people told me about Sunday dinners
at
grandma's or spending the night at the cousin's house, it seemed so strange
to
me. Now I want those things for my children.
Sorry, I'm rambling on and on. What I'm wondering is if any of you have
made
similar decisions with your families (to move to be with extended families,
to move to the country, to live on less $) and how it's been for you. I
would
apprecitate any insight you might have on this issue.
Thanks so much!
Amanda
mom to Justin 4, and Madison 1, & hopefully another on the way soon
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regretted it. Our extended family actually came to join US in the last 3
years. While we may not have the museums, libraries, concert halls etc. at
our back door (within a few hours drive if we feel the need for something
"bigger") there are so many other avenues to explore and things to do that
enrich us everyday. We discovered an old refurbished church that was turned
into an art center that hosts many intimate events..not on the grand scale
of a large city but ones in which the kids can be right there involved in
the performance and asking questions etc. For me it's all in how I choose
to see where we are and why we are here. In the city we were living a much
more limiting lifestyle than we ever have here --- we just have a real sense
of freedom now that wasn't there before the move. Life seems to move a bit
slower here and I truly love that. Hope that makes some sense.
Jinger
-----Original Message-----
From: Mattamandab@... [mailto:Mattamandab@...]
Sent: Wednesday, April 14, 2004 3:17 PM
To: [email protected]
Subject: [UnschoolingDiscussion] moving back to the country
We have recently been struggling with the choice of giving up my husband's
job near a large city in NY State and taking a much lower paying job close
to
family and several hours from a large town or city. After growing up
focused on
getting out of the small town and going away to college and "a real life",
we've realized that living in the suburbs isn't all that great afterall. So
we've finally decided to make the move and give up the "extra" income. We
already live on a lot less than most of our neighbors since I'm a SAHM, not
too many
around these parts. It will be a struggle for me to be able to stay home
with the kids, but I'm hoping we'll find ways to make ends meet as many
other
families have had to.
We want our children to grow up surrounded by nature, not just visiting it a
few times a year. Although $ will be much tighter, I believe my children
will
benefit from being around extended family who adore them. I look forward to
getting back into hiking, skiing, and using our canoe again.
We are a bit concerned about giving up my friends in the area(I belong to
MOMS Club) and homeschooling groups as well as the museums and GREAT
libraries
that we frequent. But I hope life in a more rural area will have much to
offer
in other ways, even if the municipal & economic resources are less.
When I write all this out, it seems like such a "no-brainer", and I'm asking
myself why have I been having such a hard time making this decision? I did
not grow up near extended family & when people told me about Sunday dinners
at
grandma's or spending the night at the cousin's house, it seemed so strange
to
me. Now I want those things for my children.
Sorry, I'm rambling on and on. What I'm wondering is if any of you have
made
similar decisions with your families (to move to be with extended families,
to move to the country, to live on less $) and how it's been for you. I
would
apprecitate any insight you might have on this issue.
Thanks so much!
Amanda
mom to Justin 4, and Madison 1, & hopefully another on the way soon
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queenjane555
--- In [email protected], Mattamandab@a... wrote:
michigan in january with my 7 yr old son. It was a pretty agonizing
decision, because his father lives in cincinnati, and moving meant he
would not see his father every day like he was used to. I quit a job
where i was making almost $30,000 a year (probably not a huge income
to most people, but for me it was my first "real" job), gave up our
three-story house with tons of space (it was falling apart anyway),
we even had to leave our little dog with seamus' father's mother.
Cincinnati had tons of stuff to do, great restaurants, bookstores,
the zoo, the aquarium, museums, tons of HSers, everything within 10
or 20 miles of us.
Now we live with my brother in his 2 bd apt, we have much less space
and i have to deal with having a roommate again. I work for my mom,
taking care of her (disabled from a stroke)about four days a week. I
have to say, our lives are great...seamus and i are almost always
together, he surrounded by complete love and acceptance from my
mother, two sisters, two of my brothers who live close, and his very
best friend in the world, my 8 yr old niece. He didnt have that in
Cincy. He still sees his father every month. Its not the same though.
When i moved down to Cincinnati when seamus was 3, i went through the
same agonizing decision (should he live near his father? Or my close
family??) I am very happy with what i chose this time.
My opinion is that having the memories of growing up having "Sunday
dinner at Grandma's house" (which, like you, i did NOT have as a
child)is priceless. And if you actually like your family and get
along well, having that kind of supportive atmosphere around is also
totally worth the move. Much more important than money and museums.
Katherine
> Sorry, I'm rambling on and on. What I'm wondering is if any of youhave made
> similar decisions with your families (to move to be with extendedfamilies,
> to move to the country, to live on less $) and how it's been foryou. I would
> apprecitate any insight you might have on this issue.I havent made the rural vs. city move, but i did move back to
michigan in january with my 7 yr old son. It was a pretty agonizing
decision, because his father lives in cincinnati, and moving meant he
would not see his father every day like he was used to. I quit a job
where i was making almost $30,000 a year (probably not a huge income
to most people, but for me it was my first "real" job), gave up our
three-story house with tons of space (it was falling apart anyway),
we even had to leave our little dog with seamus' father's mother.
Cincinnati had tons of stuff to do, great restaurants, bookstores,
the zoo, the aquarium, museums, tons of HSers, everything within 10
or 20 miles of us.
Now we live with my brother in his 2 bd apt, we have much less space
and i have to deal with having a roommate again. I work for my mom,
taking care of her (disabled from a stroke)about four days a week. I
have to say, our lives are great...seamus and i are almost always
together, he surrounded by complete love and acceptance from my
mother, two sisters, two of my brothers who live close, and his very
best friend in the world, my 8 yr old niece. He didnt have that in
Cincy. He still sees his father every month. Its not the same though.
When i moved down to Cincinnati when seamus was 3, i went through the
same agonizing decision (should he live near his father? Or my close
family??) I am very happy with what i chose this time.
My opinion is that having the memories of growing up having "Sunday
dinner at Grandma's house" (which, like you, i did NOT have as a
child)is priceless. And if you actually like your family and get
along well, having that kind of supportive atmosphere around is also
totally worth the move. Much more important than money and museums.
Katherine