Gary & Lisa Williams

> Date: Thu, 4 Sep 2003 14:37:41 GMT
> From: Ren <starsuncloud@...>
> Subject: Aaaaarrrrggghhhh!
Ren~
These are some really good ideas!! Thanks for sharing. I am going to do
the BHAG with my dd tomorrow. I love these out-of-the-box ideas because it
is great to use non-schoolish solutions to "schoolish desires." Besides, I
wonder what kind of BHAGs I can come up with for myself. <g>
Lisa (in IL)

>Maybe his desire to fit in (a normal thing) is just stronger right now? Too
bad you don't have >some COOL unschoolers to hang with!
> But what about buying the Peter Kowalke documentary on grown unschoolers?
Maybe finding >some stories of cool grown unschoolers would help him see the
possibilities and help him feel >not so unusual.
> Another thing I did with the kids last year (and I want to do it with them
again) is BHAG'S. Big Hairy Audacious Goals. Someone wrote about it in HEM I
believe (sorry for not remembering the name) and I thought it was really
cool. We'd always written down ideas and goals, but I loved the NAME! So we
sat down and said what we'd really, really like to do if there were not
limits in our lives. Some were reasonable, some were outrageous, but it gave
us a way to focus on that person's dreams and needs.
> We had things like a trip to Disneyworld, building a robot, learning
guitar (he DID!) and such. Some of them we accomplished, others are still
pending and yet others have become non-important in that time.
> So maybe instead of giving into his schoolish desires (which it sounds
like he's not really all that into) ask him for his BHAG'S and share yours
with him.