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In a message dated 8/31/03 4:47:42 PM, adonai@... writes:

<< So it's ok for him to have a responsibility to others, but not OK
for him to have a responsibility to ME?

<<This is just making me crazy? >>

Can't you just read it and think about it a day or two without always coming
back and seeming to accuse us of something? No one is trying to hurt you.
We're trying to help. You seem angry with your children and your husband,
and
now you seem angry with us.

I hope you will re-read what people have written, knowing that people are
trying voluntarily to help you have a more peaceful and productive
relationship
with your family.

Sandra

Judie C. Rall

> Can't you just read it and think about it a day or two without always coming
> back and seeming to accuse us of something? No one is trying to hurt you.
> We're trying to help. You seem angry with your children and your husband,
> and
> now you seem angry with us.

I'm really not. We've been unschooling over two years, We haven't
done anything remotely like school. My older son is 18, we consider
him "graduated" but he chose this computer repair course as a way to
possible make money in the future. I ordered this course for my 13
year old last month and it has just sat here on the table. I haven't
said anything to him, nothing has happened, there has been no
disaster, we've had no conflict, I was just asking some simple
what-if type questions about why he possibly hasn't done anything
with it yet. Last night I went to bed feeling really crappy like I
was a failure, and today I got up realizing that really our
lives are very pleasant and lovely. We DON'T argue about chores, or
anything else. My kids know they are free to do whatever they want.
I feel some simple questions about responsibility have gotten blown
out of proportion.

I appreciate your responses, and am sorry to have troubled you.

Judie