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In a message dated 8/31/2003 9:47:03 AM Eastern Standard Time,
[email protected] writes:

> >Here's one way of looking at it: You're probably about 3 times as old as
> he
> >is, so a 2 year commitment to him is like a 6 year commitment to you. What
> >if you signed up for something you realized you didn't like after a couple
> >of months? How would you feel if your husband insisted you stick with it
> for
> >the next 6 years because you signed up for it?
>
> I totally agree with what everyone is saying on this, but what about
> following through on something you commit yourself to? What if he
> gets a job and signs a two year contract to work for someone, he
> can't just quit, because he signed a contract to work for that
> person. This kind of speaks to a real life situation.
>

I understand your fears, but think of it this way: if he were in that
situation, it'd be a real-world situation, and there he'd be. (And really, there
aren't that many of those in the world.) In this case, it's a pretend situation,
because he COULD quit. Why not let him have that opportunity if he wants.

There might be an out on the whole program. If not, he'll still have the
materials, and without the pressure, he might or might not be able to use them as
resources for studying photography the way he wants to. He can take a lot of
pictures, get better, and use those materials to learn how to make them better
or to market them. Or maybe he'll do something else entirely.

Thirteen is awfully young to commit to two years, much less what he wants to
do for the rest of his life.

Besides, both of you have learned something really valuable here: sometimes
before making a long, expensive commitment, it's a good idea to explore other
options, and really think about how you want to do something.

{{{Judie!}}}} Thanks for trying so hard to find what your kids need.

Kathryn



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