susan

Ron and Stephanie wrote:

> I cannot speak for the reasons that my DH would
> rather I not nurse, only that we have discussed it (in length) and that we
> have agreed on expressing milk for the baby.

my dh was this way about circumcision (he was really hoping for a girl so we
wouldn't have to deal with this decision but we got a boy:) but after
experiencing it (an uncircumcised penis) he can't see way it was ever a problem
for him so the reality proved to be nothing it was just the thought of it that
has difficult for him. perhaps the same will be true for your dh.

> Is that not the next best
> thing? Not one person has even complemented him on that decision.

you're right your dh does most definitely deserve a big pat on the back because
he is trying to stretch - a truly difficult task.

> I just
> wanted more information about LLL so I could help him with any ?? he may
> have in the future. That didn't even happen. I know that this entire process
> has been a joint venture, DH and I, since I could not get pregnant without a
> medical staff (and DH). Since EVERYTHING regarding a pregnancy has been a
> joint effort, why is it not right for him to join in the bonding and
> feeding?

you're a family i think consensus and flexibility are vital to maintaining a
healthy bond/foundation. i also expressed milk just so my dh could feed/bond
from the very beginning, he loved it and imo it was worth it. we just made
sure we got good bottles that made rene' work a bit, like breastfeeding, so he
wouldn't get 'lazy' and want only the bottle. if we had to do it again we
would do it the same way.

> I hope that since this is my DH we are speaking about, that this
> would now go to the dead topic section, for it is a finished topic in our
> home.
> Thank you for all your opinions-
> Ron and Stephanie

well breastfeeding as a topic goes way beyond your dh he is actually mild
compared to many people and men in particular. breastfeeding has become both a
public and a private issue and is highly emotional. i hope your dh does not
take the discussion personal.

-susan
austin,tx
'unity through diversity'

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