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In a message dated 8/7/2003 6:01:11 PM Eastern Daylight Time,
Heatherette@... writes:


> What do the rest of you do for *me* time?

I see a massage therapist every Thursday morning. I *could* spend that money
on a housekeeper or a WHOLE lot of chocolate or maybe a little less wine! <G>
But it's what keeps me up and loose and happy. I've tried to forego it; I'm
miserable. Going on weekly for eight years in December.

But I have older kids. And I never had two 'littluns" at the same time (eight
years in between mine). Ben occasionally takes the boys camping or visiting
his mom for the weekend. So I get several days alone. I like to be by myself,
so it's nice. And he gets the boys without me. That's good for them too.

But as they get older, they *require* your presence less and less (not that
they don't NEED you! <G>), so enjoying what you've got when you've got it is a
healthy way to look at it. They'll soon want to do so much on their own--and
you'll get PLENTY of alone time *then*! <g>

Cameron's best friend died in a bus accident when they were five. A day
hasn't gone by in ten years that I haven't thought of Jacob's mom, Lisa. Whenever I
start to feel "put upon" by one or both of the boys, a quick glimpse into how
I would feel without one of them QUICKLY puts things into perspective. I
*can* give just a little more. I *can* do just a little more. What in the world
would I do without them?

~Kelly


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Dave and Shannon

-----Original Message-----
From: kbcdlovejo

>Cameron's best friend died in a bus accident when they were five. A day
hasn't gone by in ten years that I haven't thought of Jacob's mom, Lisa.
Whenever I
start to feel "put upon" by one or both of the boys, a quick glimpse into
how
I would feel without one of them QUICKLY puts things into perspective. I
*can* give just a little more. I *can* do just a little more. What in the
world
>would I do without them?

This is so true, Kelly. My second son died from meningitis when he was
12mos 22days old three years ago. It is amazing how much I think about him
and miss him everyday. And I thank G*d that I had Connor to wake up to and
had a reason to get out of bed every morning. I felt completely lost for
the longest time because I didn't have this little person running around
signing for "more". Now I have another little blessing running around
signing for "more". At the time, I felt like I had been robbed. And now,
with Quinn, it's like I have been given back what was taken away from me
three years ago. Babies are such blessings and create such a bright spot in
our lives.

Shannon Buckley
Mom to Connor 3-15-97, Carsten born at home 4-27-99/5-19-00 and Quinn born
at home 8-08-02




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In a message dated 8/7/2003 6:48:17 PM Eastern Daylight Time,
davenshan@... writes:


> This is so true, Kelly. My second son died from meningitis when he was
> 12mos 22days old three years ago.

I'm so sorry for your loss, Shannon.

~Kelly


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