Sorta OT Question
closeknitfamilyof3
Seeming people do come on here and ask questions off topic, I figured
I would ask one that is off topic but has to do with our son.
Has anyone here had an alcoholic in their family or has been an
alcoholic that fears that their child will be too or has actually
turned out to be one?
I'm a bit concerned about this after I received the following e-mail:
<<I was raised by abusive parents but ones that never drank, as a
matter of fact I don't know one person in my family that even has
alcohol in their home. >>
<<That is a red flag right there, since it is so unusual in our
culture to NEVER drink. Unless the use of alcohol is forbidden by
your religion, it is likely that your family stays away from it for a
reason!>>
Maybe it's just the worried mom in me but my family honestly never
drank and they were not closet drinkers and now I wonder about when
our son gets older. Am I missing the red flag somewhere? Does anyone
here feel that it is unusual to never drink?
Kim
I would ask one that is off topic but has to do with our son.
Has anyone here had an alcoholic in their family or has been an
alcoholic that fears that their child will be too or has actually
turned out to be one?
I'm a bit concerned about this after I received the following e-mail:
<<I was raised by abusive parents but ones that never drank, as a
matter of fact I don't know one person in my family that even has
alcohol in their home. >>
<<That is a red flag right there, since it is so unusual in our
culture to NEVER drink. Unless the use of alcohol is forbidden by
your religion, it is likely that your family stays away from it for a
reason!>>
Maybe it's just the worried mom in me but my family honestly never
drank and they were not closet drinkers and now I wonder about when
our son gets older. Am I missing the red flag somewhere? Does anyone
here feel that it is unusual to never drink?
Kim
Shelley & Donald Wurst
>Maybe it's just the worried mom in me but my family honestly neverKim, my family are not drinkers either. I didn't even have more than an occassional single beer until I was in college, and even then it was just a couple drinks at an occassional party. Today, I will have a drink out socially, but we don't even usually have alcohol in the house. My brother and his wife never drink, my sister and her husband never drink and regularly hold parties with absolutely no alcohol. My parents almost never drink -- I've seen my dad have a beer socially, and my Mom a glass of wine. None of these folks is a "closet drinker".
>drank and they were not closet drinkers and now I wonder about when
>our son gets older. Am I missing the red flag somewhere? Does anyone
>here feel that it is unusual to never drink?
So no, I don't think it's unusual to never drink.
--Shelley, Mommy to Jacob (2 1/2 yrs) and Gabriel (4 1/2 mos)
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In a message dated 7/21/03 5:34:34 AM, harvest.moon@... writes:
<< Today, I will have a drink out socially, but we don't even usually have
alcohol in the house. My brother and his wife never drink, my sister and her
husband never drink and regularly hold parties with absolutely no alcohol. >>
We had a party here in a few weeks back and it didn't even occur to me to buy
alcohol. We had asked some people to contribute stuff if they wanted to, and
those who brought things brought salad and soda. It was a party so people
could see our friend Helena who's living in London. Helena had brought us a
bottle of Pimm's and we all tasted that, and made drinks with Sprite and Pimm's
and she told us stories about who did and didn't drink Pimm's and when, and we
tried to guess what it was and what was in it (it's spiced gin, I think).
There were unfinished drinks here and there, and it was totally no big deal.
I know I lucked out in the genetic crapshoot. My sister has been alcoholic
and used cocaine. I don't much like alcohol anyway, and when I tried cocaine
it hurt my nose and I thought it was disgusting. We have the same parents,
same grandparents, but she got bits I didn't, and vice versa. She smokes
cigarettes like crazy, but it keeps her thin so she justifies it that way.
If my sister had been here she would NOT have had Pimm's and Sprite, but just
Sprite, because she doesn't touch cocaine or alcohol anymore.
Sandra
<< Today, I will have a drink out socially, but we don't even usually have
alcohol in the house. My brother and his wife never drink, my sister and her
husband never drink and regularly hold parties with absolutely no alcohol. >>
We had a party here in a few weeks back and it didn't even occur to me to buy
alcohol. We had asked some people to contribute stuff if they wanted to, and
those who brought things brought salad and soda. It was a party so people
could see our friend Helena who's living in London. Helena had brought us a
bottle of Pimm's and we all tasted that, and made drinks with Sprite and Pimm's
and she told us stories about who did and didn't drink Pimm's and when, and we
tried to guess what it was and what was in it (it's spiced gin, I think).
There were unfinished drinks here and there, and it was totally no big deal.
I know I lucked out in the genetic crapshoot. My sister has been alcoholic
and used cocaine. I don't much like alcohol anyway, and when I tried cocaine
it hurt my nose and I thought it was disgusting. We have the same parents,
same grandparents, but she got bits I didn't, and vice versa. She smokes
cigarettes like crazy, but it keeps her thin so she justifies it that way.
If my sister had been here she would NOT have had Pimm's and Sprite, but just
Sprite, because she doesn't touch cocaine or alcohol anymore.
Sandra
CloseKnitFamilyOf3
Thanks Shelly for responding to my question. Many thanks to all the
wonderful people on this list that e-mailed me with their thoughts
and opinions. It truly shows that you all want to help others on
their
unschooling journey, even if it's a bit OT.<g>
Kim
wonderful people on this list that e-mailed me with their thoughts
and opinions. It truly shows that you all want to help others on
their
unschooling journey, even if it's a bit OT.<g>
Kim
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In a message dated 7/21/2003 2:32:26 AM Eastern Standard Time,
CabinOnTheLedge@... writes:
mechanism or other. Do I think worry two kids are at risk considering that
both their parents had problems in the past? Of course. One of the things
I've done is bring them to Narcotics Anonymous meetings that allow kids because I
think they hear things that are a lot more effective than any school based
program I ever heard of. (I'd take them to AA too, but in my area these almost
never allow kids.) As they get older I will educate them as best I can,
including teaching them the latest findings about the genetic and biochemical
factors involved. But in the long run it will have to be their choice.
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CabinOnTheLedge@... writes:
> Has anyone here had an alcoholic in their family or has been anAll I can say is that practically everyone thinks it runs in families by some
> alcoholic that fears that their child will be too or has actually
> turned out to be one?
mechanism or other. Do I think worry two kids are at risk considering that
both their parents had problems in the past? Of course. One of the things
I've done is bring them to Narcotics Anonymous meetings that allow kids because I
think they hear things that are a lot more effective than any school based
program I ever heard of. (I'd take them to AA too, but in my area these almost
never allow kids.) As they get older I will educate them as best I can,
including teaching them the latest findings about the genetic and biochemical
factors involved. But in the long run it will have to be their choice.
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