Our own bully version
Have A Nice Day!
My son has been hanging out with the "wrong" kids..the kind that beat him up and make fun of him. I've tried to get him interested in other friends, but there just arent that many available and he doesn't want to be involved in "stuff" right now.
The other night, one of them lit one of those rubber lizards on fire and as it was melting, dripped the hot rubber on my son's neck, giving him second degree burns.
Then this same kid has the nerve to show up here today. I told him he'd better never do it again or I'd come after him and do it to him. Then I told him to leave and not come back.
It just so happened his grandfather showed up about that time. I went out and told HIM what happened too and the kid even admitted it. His grandfather starts telling me how he has had to yell at my son and his *other* grandson for lighting up paint cans.
Ooookkkaaaayyyy. So what does that have to do with it? Not that its right, but it wasn't happening HERE, it was happening at HIS house (and nobody was getting HURT). AHEM. And if that was going on, it was WEEKS ago because Andrew hasn't been down at all in a few weeks.
Sure did shed a whole new light on this particular "parent".
So I told him again, in front of his grandfather not to bother to come down anymore.
I REALLY like the idea of just dealing with the kids and not necessarily the parents (though, I'll do that too if I need to). If I was a pushover before, I'm done being one now.
Kristen
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The other night, one of them lit one of those rubber lizards on fire and as it was melting, dripped the hot rubber on my son's neck, giving him second degree burns.
Then this same kid has the nerve to show up here today. I told him he'd better never do it again or I'd come after him and do it to him. Then I told him to leave and not come back.
It just so happened his grandfather showed up about that time. I went out and told HIM what happened too and the kid even admitted it. His grandfather starts telling me how he has had to yell at my son and his *other* grandson for lighting up paint cans.
Ooookkkaaaayyyy. So what does that have to do with it? Not that its right, but it wasn't happening HERE, it was happening at HIS house (and nobody was getting HURT). AHEM. And if that was going on, it was WEEKS ago because Andrew hasn't been down at all in a few weeks.
Sure did shed a whole new light on this particular "parent".
So I told him again, in front of his grandfather not to bother to come down anymore.
I REALLY like the idea of just dealing with the kids and not necessarily the parents (though, I'll do that too if I need to). If I was a pushover before, I'm done being one now.
Kristen
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Have A Nice Day!
Thought I should clarify that the burning incident took place in town somewhere...not at my house.
Kristen
Kristen
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From: Have A Nice Day!
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Sent: Thursday, June 12, 2003 4:03 PM
Subject: [Unschooling-dotcom] Our own bully version
My son has been hanging out with the "wrong" kids..the kind that beat him up and make fun of him. I've tried to get him interested in other friends, but there just arent that many available and he doesn't want to be involved in "stuff" right now.
The other night, one of them lit one of those rubber lizards on fire and as it was melting, dripped the hot rubber on my son's neck, giving him second degree burns.
Then this same kid has the nerve to show up here today. I told him he'd better never do it again or I'd come after him and do it to him. Then I told him to leave and not come back.
It just so happened his grandfather showed up about that time. I went out and told HIM what happened too and the kid even admitted it. His grandfather starts telling me how he has had to yell at my son and his *other* grandson for lighting up paint cans.
Ooookkkaaaayyyy. So what does that have to do with it? Not that its right, but it wasn't happening HERE, it was happening at HIS house (and nobody was getting HURT). AHEM. And if that was going on, it was WEEKS ago because Andrew hasn't been down at all in a few weeks.
Sure did shed a whole new light on this particular "parent".
So I told him again, in front of his grandfather not to bother to come down anymore.
I REALLY like the idea of just dealing with the kids and not necessarily the parents (though, I'll do that too if I need to). If I was a pushover before, I'm done being one now.
Kristen
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In a message dated 6/12/03 4:33:28 PM Eastern Daylight Time,
litlrooh@... writes:
though, just being a little.. uhmm."too aggressive" in sparring in karate.
He kicked JP in the groin one time.. Then the next time he sparred with him,
the kid kicked his arm and left a whopper of a bruise. They are supposed to
have a "no contact" rule when they are sparring, and I know they are bound to
occasionally get carried away. After all karate IS a contact sport. But, those
two incidents left JP not wanting to spar with this particular kid. They are
about the same size, two of the smallest kids in the class ( actually, there
is only one kid smaller than them) And, I think that the kid is not afraid of
really going to town on JP because JP is not bigger than him. At first I
told JP that I would mention it to Mr Wilson, but I really didnt want to make a
big deal out of it. I know the kid's mom and she is very nice and I thought
about mentioning it to her.. But, instead, right before class when the kids
were just playing around, I just casually said to Zack,"hey, buddy, take it easy
on JP today, you bout beat him up the last time you guys fought" ( kinda
grinning and good natured tone) The kid grinned sheepishly at me and said "'OK!"
And that was that. I have stayed for the whole class the last several
times, and there has been no more "overt" sparring.
Now, there were some very rude kids at the pool at the Y the other day. They
were "drop off" kids.. no parents there. And they kept splashing A LOT. So
much that you just about got drowned every few seconds. A few times I said..
"hey, watch out guys, you'redrowning us!" Then we would move out of their way..
But, they kept on not paying attention and ending up splashing us over and
over. I kept reminding them that they were splashing us, but they really didnt
seem to care. Finally, I told the lifegaurd. "Can you ask them to stop
splashing so much, we can't get away from them" He called them down and they let
up for about 5 mins, then they were back to horseplay. We were fed up by
then, so we just left that pool and went to the outdoor pool. In that
situation, there was really nothing else to do.. Luckily we did have an option, but it
was not our first choice. The kids really wanted to stay indoors where the
water was much warmer. But they didnt want to get a face full of water every
few seconds.
Teresa
Who has never dropped her kids off at the pool. HEY, I like the pool myself
too much to miss out!
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litlrooh@... writes:
> I REALLY like the idea of just dealing with the kids and not necessarilyI did that recently, went straight to the kid. He wasn't really being a bully
> the parents (though, I'll do that too if I need to). If I was a pushover
> before, I'm done being one now.
>
> Kristen
>
though, just being a little.. uhmm."too aggressive" in sparring in karate.
He kicked JP in the groin one time.. Then the next time he sparred with him,
the kid kicked his arm and left a whopper of a bruise. They are supposed to
have a "no contact" rule when they are sparring, and I know they are bound to
occasionally get carried away. After all karate IS a contact sport. But, those
two incidents left JP not wanting to spar with this particular kid. They are
about the same size, two of the smallest kids in the class ( actually, there
is only one kid smaller than them) And, I think that the kid is not afraid of
really going to town on JP because JP is not bigger than him. At first I
told JP that I would mention it to Mr Wilson, but I really didnt want to make a
big deal out of it. I know the kid's mom and she is very nice and I thought
about mentioning it to her.. But, instead, right before class when the kids
were just playing around, I just casually said to Zack,"hey, buddy, take it easy
on JP today, you bout beat him up the last time you guys fought" ( kinda
grinning and good natured tone) The kid grinned sheepishly at me and said "'OK!"
And that was that. I have stayed for the whole class the last several
times, and there has been no more "overt" sparring.
Now, there were some very rude kids at the pool at the Y the other day. They
were "drop off" kids.. no parents there. And they kept splashing A LOT. So
much that you just about got drowned every few seconds. A few times I said..
"hey, watch out guys, you'redrowning us!" Then we would move out of their way..
But, they kept on not paying attention and ending up splashing us over and
over. I kept reminding them that they were splashing us, but they really didnt
seem to care. Finally, I told the lifegaurd. "Can you ask them to stop
splashing so much, we can't get away from them" He called them down and they let
up for about 5 mins, then they were back to horseplay. We were fed up by
then, so we just left that pool and went to the outdoor pool. In that
situation, there was really nothing else to do.. Luckily we did have an option, but it
was not our first choice. The kids really wanted to stay indoors where the
water was much warmer. But they didnt want to get a face full of water every
few seconds.
Teresa
Who has never dropped her kids off at the pool. HEY, I like the pool myself
too much to miss out!
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