A pushover was: sense of own power
Mary
From: "Susan Fuerst" <fuerst@...>
<<I had been doing so much better in this area last year! I even got
called a "hothead" for the first time in my 38 (then) years! Joe says I
need to maintain some of that 'hotheadedness' ...meaning say what I
think and don't be concerned about how the other people feel.>>
I wanted to respond to you the first time you wrote about this. I seem to
have a hard time with things like this too. I'm very outspoken when it comes
to certain things, mostly that would be my kids. I won't stand for anyone
offending them. But for me, that's another story. I seem to be somewhat of a
pushover. And what bothers me is I never was. I was always very able to
stand up for myself, sometimes being bitchy but hey it got me what I wanted
or needed. Not in nasty way mind you just to the point. I would let people
know if they said something out of line. Now I find I let so much go that I
stay up some nights just seething as to why I didn't say this or that.
My husband is very sarcastic and very very quick to say what's on his mind,
even if it's "your an asshole." That's one reason why I tend to be gentler,
I think to make up for what he might say! Well in the process I've lost
myself. I really avoid conflict at all costs. And because of this, I feel
like I get stepped on more than I should allow.
I'm wondering if there is a 12 step program for people like us???
Mary B
<<I had been doing so much better in this area last year! I even got
called a "hothead" for the first time in my 38 (then) years! Joe says I
need to maintain some of that 'hotheadedness' ...meaning say what I
think and don't be concerned about how the other people feel.>>
I wanted to respond to you the first time you wrote about this. I seem to
have a hard time with things like this too. I'm very outspoken when it comes
to certain things, mostly that would be my kids. I won't stand for anyone
offending them. But for me, that's another story. I seem to be somewhat of a
pushover. And what bothers me is I never was. I was always very able to
stand up for myself, sometimes being bitchy but hey it got me what I wanted
or needed. Not in nasty way mind you just to the point. I would let people
know if they said something out of line. Now I find I let so much go that I
stay up some nights just seething as to why I didn't say this or that.
My husband is very sarcastic and very very quick to say what's on his mind,
even if it's "your an asshole." That's one reason why I tend to be gentler,
I think to make up for what he might say! Well in the process I've lost
myself. I really avoid conflict at all costs. And because of this, I feel
like I get stepped on more than I should allow.
I'm wondering if there is a 12 step program for people like us???
Mary B
Susan Fuerst
If not we'll make one up.....maybe with less steps for one so simple
minded as myself!
-----Original Message-----
From: Mary [mailto:mummy124@...]
Sent: Wednesday, June 11, 2003 1:22 PM
To: [email protected]
Subject: [Unschooling-dotcom] A pushover was: sense of own power
From: "Susan Fuerst" <fuerst@...>
<<I had been doing so much better in this area last year! I even got
called a "hothead" for the first time in my 38 (then) years! Joe says I
need to maintain some of that 'hotheadedness' ...meaning say what I
think and don't be concerned about how the other people feel.>>
I wanted to respond to you the first time you wrote about this. I seem
to
have a hard time with things like this too. I'm very outspoken when it
comes
to certain things, mostly that would be my kids. I won't stand for
anyone
offending them. But for me, that's another story. I seem to be somewhat
of a
pushover. And what bothers me is I never was. I was always very able to
stand up for myself, sometimes being bitchy but hey it got me what I
wanted
or needed. Not in nasty way mind you just to the point. I would let
people
know if they said something out of line. Now I find I let so much go
that I
stay up some nights just seething as to why I didn't say this or that.
My husband is very sarcastic and very very quick to say what's on his
mind,
even if it's "your an asshole." That's one reason why I tend to be
gentler,
I think to make up for what he might say! Well in the process I've lost
myself. I really avoid conflict at all costs. And because of this, I
feel
like I get stepped on more than I should allow.
I'm wondering if there is a 12 step program for people like us???
Mary B
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minded as myself!
-----Original Message-----
From: Mary [mailto:mummy124@...]
Sent: Wednesday, June 11, 2003 1:22 PM
To: [email protected]
Subject: [Unschooling-dotcom] A pushover was: sense of own power
From: "Susan Fuerst" <fuerst@...>
<<I had been doing so much better in this area last year! I even got
called a "hothead" for the first time in my 38 (then) years! Joe says I
need to maintain some of that 'hotheadedness' ...meaning say what I
think and don't be concerned about how the other people feel.>>
I wanted to respond to you the first time you wrote about this. I seem
to
have a hard time with things like this too. I'm very outspoken when it
comes
to certain things, mostly that would be my kids. I won't stand for
anyone
offending them. But for me, that's another story. I seem to be somewhat
of a
pushover. And what bothers me is I never was. I was always very able to
stand up for myself, sometimes being bitchy but hey it got me what I
wanted
or needed. Not in nasty way mind you just to the point. I would let
people
know if they said something out of line. Now I find I let so much go
that I
stay up some nights just seething as to why I didn't say this or that.
My husband is very sarcastic and very very quick to say what's on his
mind,
even if it's "your an asshole." That's one reason why I tend to be
gentler,
I think to make up for what he might say! Well in the process I've lost
myself. I really avoid conflict at all costs. And because of this, I
feel
like I get stepped on more than I should allow.
I'm wondering if there is a 12 step program for people like us???
Mary B
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