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I don't actually tell him he is lazy etc. at least not as rule. I may
have in anger once. I wish I was perfect LOL Itell him he is bright and
smart. Sometimes I think he feels like my telling him he is smart puts pressure on
him and that is not my intent. Geez, hormones at 15! Sometimes the more I
try to encourage the more hegets frustrated. Actually, he and I are very close.
He loves to hang out with me. We go to the mall and bookstore and stuff. He
says he wants to take summer classes to make up what he got Fs in. We just found
out this morning that all of the day classes are full. I have no idea what he
will decide. Maybe night time is better for him. I have told him he has so
many options. He wants to go to college by the way, it is not just my dream for
him. I think in the past he just wasn't very interested in the way they do
school, and unfortunatley I was not ready to HS. I had not learned about it.
Then we got thiscomputer and I met people here that HS and I gained the
confidence to try. Then I had to convine dh. I don't think I totally have yet but I got
the courage to as Nike says.....just do it! oh back to my original thot LOL
(sorry I type as it comes out of my brain!) I think he is not so much
disinterested (which may be still part of it) but more just undecided and feels
frustrated? At ps you can't just try a class then change your mind in the middle
cuz you don't like it or don't like the instructor. I wish he would give HS
another try. I am still learning and make mistakes just like he does. It has taken
me a while to deschool too! Old habits die hard!
Bye the way I am an ENFP could ya tell?

Londa <A HREF="www.mymomishome.com">www.mymomishome.com</A>


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In a message dated 6/10/03 10:59:43 AM, Loniam@... writes:

<< I wish I was perfect LOL Itell him he is bright and
smart. >>

Just because you're not perfect doesn't mean you shouldn't try to do the best
you can do.

Maybe telling him he's bright and smart isn't going to be very helpful right
now either.

<<Sometimes the more I
try to encourage the more he gets frustrated. >>

Kinda like that. <g>
When encouragement and praise are actually part of manipulation and cajoling
one to be one way instead of another, it's anoter step back.

<<At ps you can't just try a class then change your mind in the middle
cuz you don't like it or don't like the instructor. >>

You can't? When I taught, kids changed teachers. Teachers changed kids.
Maybe instead of make-up classes, he could take some community college
classes with people of varying ages who WANT to be there, not who are forced to be
there. Non-academic, fun, REAL stuff.

He can make those credits up later IF he stays in school, and if he doesn't
stay in school it never has to be done, ever.

Sandra