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In a message dated 5/24/2003 2:46:53 AM Eastern Daylight Time,
SandraDodd@... writes:
> All these kids are teens now. But when Caiti, her #2, was two or so and
> Marty was two or so, she confided in me that she and her husband use to
> think I
> had NO idea what I was doing, since Kirby was as he was, and Lily was as she
>
> was. But when we had our #2 set, Caiti was crazy, loud, destructive, and
> generally unrepentant (way worse than Kirby had ever been), while MY #2 was
> every bit
> as calm and cooperative as her "expert" #1.

Cameron was *such* an easy child. I, too, thought that *I* was the perfect
parent. Everyone else was just doing it WRONG!

Then I had Duncan. <g>

~Kelly


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averyschmidt

> Cameron was *such* an easy child. I, too, thought that *I* was the
perfect
> parent. Everyone else was just doing it WRONG!
>
> Then I had Duncan. <g>

My first was my hardest! I was 22yo and into attachment parenting
and La Leche League, and family and friends blamed his personality
and "behavior" on that. In other words I was "too nice" and let
him "control me."
I also had a friend with 2 girls, and when we'd get together, even
at a playground, they'd sit on a blanket and play with dolls while
my son ran around like a wild man. :-) I can still remember how
shitty and frustrated I felt when she said things like "my kids
would *never* do that." I've since lost touch with her but know
that she later had a son and I wonder if she ever had to eat her
words.
My youngest son is my calmest and easiest.
Whenever I see a mother with a busy or active or "difficult" toddler
I go out of my way to say something nice and affirming to her since
I remember how difficult it was and how judged I always felt.

Patti

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In a message dated 5/25/2003 7:31:23 PM Eastern Daylight Time,
rubyprincesstsg@... writes:


> My younger son (18) always tells me when he signs he pro contract he's
> building a huge house with everyone having their own "wing" with only ONE
> kitchen so
> we will always be there together... nice dream and who knows one day we
> might
> all hold him too it!

That's our NEW house. The boys have their own wing. They can stay with us as
long as they'd like. But this way they can have privacy too. We figure
Cameron,15, will never move out. Duncan, now seven, will be gone in a year or two! <G>


~Kelly


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