Re: Feeling unequal to the task of parenting/unschooling
Rob Wight
Hi Nicholina
Yes, I do this to myself sometimes too. I set myself high standards and then
get soooooo disappointed when I fall short. I have come to accept that I
will never be the perfect parent and this has been so freeing! When I mess
up, I apologise, still feel disappointed but not devasted and go on.
Ironically, accepting that I am never going to be the "perfect" parent has
enabled me to be a better parent!
Susan
Original message:
catigory. :)
posting. I feel like I should be reading everything to make an informed
decision before putting my 2 bits out there, but just don't always find the
time to get through them all.
discovered Taking Children Seriously, which, while I think it's a nice
ideal, I have some trouble with it. My problem is if I'm not meeting an
ideal, I feel like a failure. Anyway, I try my best to be respectful and
thoughful toward Davan and try not to beat myself up too much. Where I was
trying to go with that was to say, it lead me toward unschooling, which is
something I can work with and is a great way of life.
quite a bad seance at a store today. I think Davan was hungry, which led to
some of the difficulties, but it gets me so down when she ends up crying and
angry and I end up angry and not the nicest of people in return. Do any of
you ever feel like you don't have enough patience for this job? Sometimes I
wonder about myself....
Yes, I do this to myself sometimes too. I set myself high standards and then
get soooooo disappointed when I fall short. I have come to accept that I
will never be the perfect parent and this has been so freeing! When I mess
up, I apologise, still feel disappointed but not devasted and go on.
Ironically, accepting that I am never going to be the "perfect" parent has
enabled me to be a better parent!
Susan
Original message:
> Date: Sun, 18 May 2003 20:44:47 -0700myself as one of those non-posters, there-by removing myself from that
> From: "Nicholina ODonnell" <arodonn@...>
> Subject: One Lurker Says Hi
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> With all the talk about those who don't post, I thought I'd introduce
catigory. :)
>occationally do mass deletes to catch up. That is the reason for my lack of
> I've been lurking for about a month now and enjoy the list, though
posting. I feel like I should be reading everything to make an informed
decision before putting my 2 bits out there, but just don't always find the
time to get through them all.
>school at home sense she was about 2 and I discovered unschooling. I first
> I'm mom to a 5 year old and have intended not to send her to school nor do
discovered Taking Children Seriously, which, while I think it's a nice
ideal, I have some trouble with it. My problem is if I'm not meeting an
ideal, I feel like a failure. Anyway, I try my best to be respectful and
thoughful toward Davan and try not to beat myself up too much. Where I was
trying to go with that was to say, it lead me toward unschooling, which is
something I can work with and is a great way of life.
>and creative enough with problem solving with Davan. We ended up having
> I have to say, though, that lately I've been feeling like I am not patient
quite a bad seance at a store today. I think Davan was hungry, which led to
some of the difficulties, but it gets me so down when she ends up crying and
angry and I end up angry and not the nicest of people in return. Do any of
you ever feel like you don't have enough patience for this job? Sometimes I
wonder about myself....
>post, there will be more to follow. :)
> So, here I am, and I imagine that now I've broken the ice with my first
>
> Nicholina
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