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In a message dated 5/12/2003 2:14:36 PM Eastern Standard Time,
jmcseals@... writes:

> <<I
> SUV's
> or not counting what is in their cart at the store. I know the grass looks
> greener on the other side and no I dont want to be them but it all does way
> heavy on my heart.>>
>
> (((Laura))),
>
> It IS hard. We spent the first seven years of marriage dirt poor. Lost
> our
> first house to foreclosure and often wondered where our next meal was
> coming
> from. We were renting a house with a terrible landlord and spent three
> months in a sewage backup, not having the money to hire an attorney to get
> us out. We had a four bedroom home and could only use one room. About
> that
> time, my mom lost her job and didn't want to lose her house, so we moved in
>
> and took over payments, which she didn't send in and now we are in HER
> foreclosure.
>
> My husband fell into an high paying job and I really thought things would
> turn around for us. I wasn't really worried about getting forced out of
> this house because we now have the money to buy any house we want, well
> cover the payments, lol. Problem is, we can't get anyone to look at us
> because of our credit. Renting/leasing looks even worse. They see our
> foreclosure and dumped lease house and won't even consider us, even with a
> sizeable downpayment/security deposit.
>
> The other side of the coin is that my husband is NEVER home. Chloe is 7.5
> months old and Chis has been home a collective 2 months of that time. I'm
> thankful we don't have the financial struggles but the price is too high.
> When he's home, Caeleb and Chloe take a few days to warm up to him. I
> really believe they don't recognize him when he gets back from trips. Just
>
> when they warm up to him again, he's gone on another trip. We've talked
> about him finding another job where he can be home more but he can't find
> anything in the middle. It's either this job or something that won't cover
>
> the bills, much less food.
>
> Ironic that you should mention te grocery store outing. The last time I
> went grocery shopping, I was standing behind a family of four. Mom, Dad,
> and two girls. They were sifting through their coupons and the mom was
> adding everything up on the calculator, hoping (aloud) that they wouldn't
> have to put anything back. Dad was playing with the baby who was smiling
> and cooing at him and the older girl was riding piggyback laughing over his
>
> shoulder. Here I was, the person NOT paying attention to what was in the
> cart, wishing like hell I had to count coupons because it would mean my
> husband would be there, helping me with the kids, playing with our babies.
>
> It's a double edged sword and it cuts no matter where you touch it.
>
> Wouldn't it be nice if we could all just fall in the middle? I long to
> live
> in a cooperative community. Commune?? Where everyone shares the load,
> barters for what they need and all the families live happily. Is there
> even
> such a place?
>
> Jennifer

Thank you for everyone's support!
Jennifer as for the house that's what I am trying to avoid. My lawyer cant
answer me as to weather would loose it. I think im just going to file and
hope for the best, I cannot take the stress anymore. It is leaving me angry.
Yes, there is such a place. I saw an email on it a few weeks ago. I do think
though that they where all book HS'ers. But it did sound kinda neat.

I think today I am looking at things a bit better.


Laura D


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becqui

> Wouldn't it be nice if we could all just fall in the middle? I long to
> live
> in a cooperative community. Commune?? Where everyone shares the load,
> barters for what they need and all the families live happily. Is there
> even
> such a place?


Actually there are several in Ann Arbor...so do not give up hope :-)

Becqui


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