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In a message dated 5/13/2003 12:50:40 AM Eastern Standard Time,
[email protected] writes:

> My DH and I had a sort of fight tonight and I need some help on how to
> speak to him about homeschooling. He says that he is all for
> homeschooling Karen and that he does not want her to go to public
> school. But, I think that if I told him tomorrow that I wanted her to
> go to public school, he would say that was fine as well. His biggest
> problem with homeschooling has always been that he doesn't think she
> will get to socialize enough with other kids. So (not only for him
> but, for me and my dd as well) I joined a local homeschooling group
> that meets once a week.
>
> Any time I mention getting together at parties or field trips that
> they go on, he backs out. For example....there is a camp out in July
> that is only about 1/2 hour from us (sounded like fun to me). I told
> him tonight that I would like to go (even though DD is only 2) so that
> we can start to get to know the local homeschoolers and he does not
> want to go. His reasoning (if you can call if that) is that he
> doesn't want to go because he doesn't know anyone! I asked him how he
> thought we were going to get to know anyone if we never went to these
> things to get to know people?! He didn't really have an answer except
> that he has only ever camped with family.
>
> Anyway, I'm hoping you all might be able to help me. If nothing else,
> let me know that I'm not the only one with a spouse who isn't as open
> minded as he says he is.
>
>

My first reaction to this is that I bet your husband's shy. My partner is
comfortable talking in front of huge groups of people. But given a gathering
of people she doesn't know very well where she needs to make conversation,
she hates it. She has been known to hide. LOL

Can YOU go to the event and take your daughter? Maybe you'll get to know
someone you'll like, then you can invite them to dinner and they can get to
know your husband. Or maybe if you happily start planning to go, he'll get
tempted and join you.

It also doesn't sound like he's not open-minded about homeschooling. What it
really sounds like is that he trusts your judgement about what will be good
for your daughter. That's a very cool thing. Thank him! If you want him more
involved, or you want to share your excitement about this stuff, tell him.

Kathryn


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melissa4123

Kathryn,
You're right, I'm just going to start planning to go with my DD (not
putting any pressure on him to go) and I'd be willing to bet money on
the fact that he'll be going with us before it's all said and done. :)

Melissa
--- In [email protected], KathrynJB@a... wrote:
> In a message dated 5/13/2003 12:50:40 AM Eastern Standard Time,
> [email protected] writes:
>
> > My DH and I had a sort of fight tonight and I need some help on how to
> > speak to him about homeschooling. He says that he is all for
> > homeschooling Karen and that he does not want her to go to public
> > school. But, I think that if I told him tomorrow that I wanted her to
> > go to public school, he would say that was fine as well. His biggest
> > problem with homeschooling has always been that he doesn't think she
> > will get to socialize enough with other kids. So (not only for him
> > but, for me and my dd as well) I joined a local homeschooling group
> > that meets once a week.
> >
> > Any time I mention getting together at parties or field trips that
> > they go on, he backs out. For example....there is a camp out in July
> > that is only about 1/2 hour from us (sounded like fun to me). I told
> > him tonight that I would like to go (even though DD is only 2) so that
> > we can start to get to know the local homeschoolers and he does not
> > want to go. His reasoning (if you can call if that) is that he
> > doesn't want to go because he doesn't know anyone! I asked him how he
> > thought we were going to get to know anyone if we never went to these
> > things to get to know people?! He didn't really have an answer except
> > that he has only ever camped with family.
> >
> > Anyway, I'm hoping you all might be able to help me. If nothing else,
> > let me know that I'm not the only one with a spouse who isn't as open
> > minded as he says he is.
> >
> >
>
> My first reaction to this is that I bet your husband's shy. My
partner is
> comfortable talking in front of huge groups of people. But given a
gathering
> of people she doesn't know very well where she needs to make
conversation,
> she hates it. She has been known to hide. LOL
>
> Can YOU go to the event and take your daughter? Maybe you'll get to
know
> someone you'll like, then you can invite them to dinner and they can
get to
> know your husband. Or maybe if you happily start planning to go,
he'll get
> tempted and join you.
>
> It also doesn't sound like he's not open-minded about homeschooling.
What it
> really sounds like is that he trusts your judgement about what will
be good
> for your daughter. That's a very cool thing. Thank him! If you want
him more
> involved, or you want to share your excitement about this stuff,
tell him.
>
> Kathryn
>
>
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