relaxhsmomof3

could someone please tell me the three steps to unschooling? I caught the end of the post and missed the steps. Also is there any unschoolers in the Gastonia, NC area? We have three a ten year old boy, seven year old daughter and a 22 month son would like to get up with others around the same age. thanks kimberly

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In a message dated 5/2/03 8:12:02 PM, kdl45@... writes:

<< could someone please tell me the three steps to unschooling? >>

If only there were just three steps! <g>

Have you tried going into the archives and reading back a bit from the time
you joined? It was something written in the course of a discussion a few
days ago, not a FAQ or anything.

If you don't find it and nobody steps forward to volunteer to dig it out,
there are lots of ideas for getting to unschooling here:

http://sandradodd.com/articles

Sandra

Sandra

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In a message dated 5/2/2003 10:11:37 PM Eastern Daylight Time, kdl45@...
writes:


>
> could someone please tell me the three steps to unschooling? I caught the
> end of the post and missed the steps. Also is there any unschoolers in the
> Gastonia, NC area? We have three a ten year old boy, seven year old
> daughter and a 22 month son would like to get up with others around the
> same age. thanks kimberly


Kimberly,

You're in the hotbed of unschooling in the South! There are several in your
neck of the woods. I'm sure they'll contact you soon. E-mail me privately and
maybe we can hook up too! I'm in Columbia, SC.

~Kelly
Kelly Lovejoy, Coordinator
Schools Out Support
mailto:coordinator@...
803-776-4849
Fax: 803-776-7006
http://www.schoolsoutsupport.org


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Fetteroll

on 5/2/03 10:10 PM, relaxhsmomof3 at kdl45@... wrote:

> could someone please tell me the three steps to unschooling? I caught the end
> of the post and missed the steps. Also is there any unschoolers in the
> Gastonia, NC area? We have three a ten year old boy, seven year old daughter
> and a 22 month son would like to get up with others around the same age.
> thanks kimberly

Here you go. (And for those who think more is better, There's also Fives
Steps to Unschooling
(http://www.home-ed-magazine.com/HEM/171.00/jf_art_unsch.html) :-)

on 4/29/03 11:49 AM, Robin Clevenger at diamondair@... wrote:

> Okay, here's unschooling in three easy steps:
>
> 1. Stop reading this list. Honestly, I think it is making you crazy right
> now. I can sympathize, there are times in my life that I've worked myself
> into a lather about what random other people in cyberspace have to say. It's
> never healthy. Just do it. Unsubscribe! At least for a few days. Just be
> with yourself and with your family. Stop worrying about what anyone on the
> Unschooling list here thinks. Really! Do it now!
>
> 2. Remove every single worry or doubt about how your children's lives will
> turn out without you helping them make it so. Release them all. If it helps,
> sit down and have a long meditation session and picture yourself dropping
> them into a well, or a river, or a garbage dump and running them over with a
> bulldozer. Or write them all on paper and crumple each one and burn it, or
> throw it into the trash. Examine every single one and drop it. Do so
> consciously. Now go out and make it so. You are hereby released from taking
> the responsibility for your children's future happiness. Live right here,
> right now, in today. Help them accomplish whatever makes them happy today,
> whether that does or does not add up to some future goal or plan. Go to a
> park, have a picnic, sit and snuggle and watch a movie, or let them do
> whatever it is they want to do. Just release them from the pressure of your
> wants, wishes, desires, and goals. Let them build their own.
>
> 3. Sit down and make a goal of your own desires, wishes, goals FOR YOURSELF.
> Find one of them and start working towards it, today! Want to learn to knit
> an afgan? TODAY, go out and find a beginning knitting class, or just buy a
> knitting book or just some needles and yarn. Want to run a marathon? TODAY,
> go out and get some running shoes. Want to read all the classics? Go check
> Jane Eyre out of the library TODAY. Just do it. Start building your own
> life. Not your world that has been about your children for twenty-three
> years. Your OWN wants, needs, desires. Just do it. Now. The only way to stop
> meddling in your children's futures is to build your own. Start today.
>
>
> That's it. Really, that's all there is to it. Come back to this list when
> you truly feel it will not unbalance your life. I'm not saying this to be
> cruel. This is a high-volume, high-intensity list. I've been subscribed to
> it on and off for years. There have been times I've taken a break of a week,
> a month, or a year when it has been necessary for the balance in my life.
> The trick is to know when the list is helping you and when it is consuming
> you. I suspect deeply that right now this list is not helping you. So ditch
> it. Follow the three steps above, and you'll begin to see the paradigm shift
> that is necessary to unschool. You really have to release all of that and
> build your own life to see it. You cannot see it when you are trapped in an
> existence of trying to control your kid's lives and futures.
>
> Best of luck to you, really. It can be a beautiful and joyous journey for
> you. Let it be so!
>
> Blue Skies,
> -Robin-

Heidi

but somebody DID post something about three steps, within the past
week

suggestions.

was it Julie?

Heidi


--- In [email protected], SandraDodd@a... wrote:
>
> In a message dated 5/2/03 8:12:02 PM, kdl45@a... writes:
>
> << could someone please tell me the three steps to unschooling? >>
>
> If only there were just three steps! <g>
>
> Have you tried going into the archives and reading back a bit from
the time
> you joined? It was something written in the course of a
discussion a few
> days ago, not a FAQ or anything.
>
> If you don't find it and nobody steps forward to volunteer to dig
it out,
> there are lots of ideas for getting to unschooling here:
>
> http://sandradodd.com/articles
>
> Sandra
>
> Sandra

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In a message dated 5/2/03 10:12:03 PM Eastern Daylight Time, kdl45@...
writes:

> Also is there any unschoolers in the Gastonia, NC area?

We live in Valdese, about a 30-45 min drive from Gastonia but travel that way
probably once every week to every other week. We love the Martha Rivers
Park, thanks Teresa. We would love to meet up sometime. My boys are 6 and
almost 9. Just name the day.
Pam G.


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In a message dated 5/3/03 7:43:51 AM, fetteroll@... writes:

<< > 1. Stop reading this list. Honestly, I think it is making you crazy right
> now. I can sympathize, there are times in my life that I've worked myself
> into a lather about what random other people in cyberspace have to say. It's
> never healthy. Just do it. Unsubscribe! At least for a few days. Just be
> with yourself and with your family. Stop worrying about what anyone on the
> Unschooling list here thinks. Really! Do it now! >>

That wasn't general advice for the non-lathered-up, though.


Sandra

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In a message dated 5/3/03 7:45:17 AM, bunsofaluminum60@... writes:

<< but somebody DID post something about three steps, within the past

week >>

Yes, but it was part of a particular discussion, not THE three (3) steps to
unschooling for anyone from any situation.

Sandra

Heidi

. Unsubscribe! At least for a few days. Just be
> > with yourself and with your family. Stop worrying about what
anyone on the
> > Unschooling list here thinks. Really! Do it now! >>
>
> That wasn't general advice for the non-lathered-up, though.
>
>

It IS excellent advice for the lathered up, however! I should know ;)

HeidiC, the formerly lathered-up

MARK and JULIE SOLICH

> but somebody DID post something about three steps, within the past
> week
>
> suggestions.
>
> was it Julie?
>
> Heidi
>
> Nope, it wasn't me, I think it was Robyn.

Julie
> --- In [email protected], SandraDodd@a... wrote:
> >
> > In a message dated 5/2/03 8:12:02 PM, kdl45@a... writes:
> >
> > << could someone please tell me the three steps to unschooling? >>
> >
> > If only there were just three steps! <g>
> >
> > Have you tried going into the archives and reading back a bit from
> the time
> > you joined? It was something written in the course of a
> discussion a few
> > days ago, not a FAQ or anything.
> >
> > If you don't find it and nobody steps forward to volunteer to dig
> it out,
> > there are lots of ideas for getting to unschooling here:
> >
> > http://sandradodd.com/articles
> >
> > Sandra
> >
> > Sandra
>
>
>
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Robin Clevenger

> From: "MARK and JULIE SOLICH" <mjsolich@...>
> > but somebody DID post something about three steps, within the past
> > week
> >
> > suggestions.
> >
> > was it Julie?
> >
> > Heidi
> >
> > Nope, it wasn't me, I think it was Robyn.

Close, Robin :-) (there's a lot of us Robins and Robyns here)

I posted this, in response to someone asking for specific ways to unschool.
It was really aimed at one person's specific needs and questions that they
had posted, but maybe there's part of it that others might find helpful.

=============

Okay, here's unschooling in three easy steps:

1. Stop reading this list. Honestly, I think it is making you crazy right
now. I can sympathize, there are times in my life that I've worked myself
into a lather about what random other people in cyberspace have to say. It's
never healthy. Just do it. Unsubscribe! At least for a few days. Just be
with yourself and with your family. Stop worrying about what anyone on the
Unschooling list here thinks. Really! Do it now!

2. Remove every single worry or doubt about how your children's lives will
turn out without you helping them make it so. Release them all. If it helps,
sit down and have a long meditation session and picture yourself dropping
them into a well, or a river, or a garbage dump and running them over with a
bulldozer. Or write them all on paper and crumple each one and burn it, or
throw it into the trash. Examine every single one and drop it. Do so
consciously. Now go out and make it so. You are hereby released from taking
the responsibility for your children's future happiness. Live right here,
right now, in today. Help them accomplish whatever makes them happy today,
whether that does or does not add up to some future goal or plan. Go to a
park, have a picnic, sit and snuggle and watch a movie, or let them do
whatever it is they want to do. Just release them from the pressure of your
wants, wishes, desires, and goals. Let them build their own.

3. Sit down and make a goal of your own desires, wishes, goals FOR YOURSELF.
Find one of them and start working towards it, today! Want to learn to knit
an afgan? TODAY, go out and find a beginning knitting class, or just buy a
knitting book or just some needles and yarn. Want to run a marathon? TODAY,
go out and get some running shoes. Want to read all the classics? Go check
Jane Eyre out of the library TODAY. Just do it. Start building your own
life. Not your world that has been about your children for twenty-three
years. Your OWN wants, needs, desires. Just do it. Now. The only way to stop
meddling in your children's futures is to build your own. Start today.

That's it. Really, that's all there is to it. Come back to this list when
you truly feel it will not unbalance your life. I'm not saying this to be
cruel. This is a high-volume, high-intensity list. I've been subscribed to
it on and off for years. There have been times I've taken a break of a week,
a month, or a year when it has been necessary for the balance in my life.
The trick is to know when the list is helping you and when it is consuming
you. I suspect deeply that right now this list is not helping you. So ditch
it. Follow the three steps above, and you'll begin to see the paradigm shift
that is necessary to unschool. You really have to release all of that and
build your own life to see it. You cannot see it when you are trapped in an
existence of trying to control your kid's lives and futures.

Best of luck to you, really. It can be a beautiful and joyous journey for
you. Let it be so!

Blue Skies,
-Robin-