Unschooling in Three Easy Steps, was Re: The math-phobia thread
Robin Clevenger
From: rubyprincesstsg@...
1. Stop reading this list. Honestly, I think it is making you crazy right
now. I can sympathize, there are times in my life that I've worked myself
into a lather about what random other people in cyberspace have to say. It's
never healthy. Just do it. Unsubscribe! At least for a few days. Just be
with yourself and with your family. Stop worrying about what anyone on the
Unschooling list here thinks. Really! Do it now!
2. Remove every single worry or doubt about how your children's lives will
turn out without you helping them make it so. Release them all. If it helps,
sit down and have a long meditation session and picture yourself dropping
them into a well, or a river, or a garbage dump and running them over with a
bulldozer. Or write them all on paper and crumple each one and burn it, or
throw it into the trash. Examine every single one and drop it. Do so
consciously. Now go out and make it so. You are hereby released from taking
the responsibility for your children's future happiness. Live right here,
right now, in today. Help them accomplish whatever makes them happy today,
whether that does or does not add up to some future goal or plan. Go to a
park, have a picnic, sit and snuggle and watch a movie, or let them do
whatever it is they want to do. Just release them from the pressure of your
wants, wishes, desires, and goals. Let them build their own.
3. Sit down and make a goal of your own desires, wishes, goals FOR YOURSELF.
Find one of them and start working towards it, today! Want to learn to knit
an afgan? TODAY, go out and find a beginning knitting class, or just buy a
knitting book or just some needles and yarn. Want to run a marathon? TODAY,
go out and get some running shoes. Want to read all the classics? Go check
Jane Eyre out of the library TODAY. Just do it. Start building your own
life. Not your world that has been about your children for twenty-three
years. Your OWN wants, needs, desires. Just do it. Now. The only way to stop
meddling in your children's futures is to build your own. Start today.
That's it. Really, that's all there is to it. Come back to this list when
you truly feel it will not unbalance your life. I'm not saying this to be
cruel. This is a high-volume, high-intensity list. I've been subscribed to
it on and off for years. There have been times I've taken a break of a week,
a month, or a year when it has been necessary for the balance in my life.
The trick is to know when the list is helping you and when it is consuming
you. I suspect deeply that right now this list is not helping you. So ditch
it. Follow the three steps above, and you'll begin to see the paradigm shift
that is necessary to unschool. You really have to release all of that and
build your own life to see it. You cannot see it when you are trapped in an
existence of trying to control your kid's lives and futures.
Best of luck to you, really. It can be a beautiful and joyous journey for
you. Let it be so!
Blue Skies,
-Robin-
>So, I would LOVE to see your advice followed, that someone would giveOkay, here's unschooling in three easy steps:
>specific ways to unschool, not just read and listen.
1. Stop reading this list. Honestly, I think it is making you crazy right
now. I can sympathize, there are times in my life that I've worked myself
into a lather about what random other people in cyberspace have to say. It's
never healthy. Just do it. Unsubscribe! At least for a few days. Just be
with yourself and with your family. Stop worrying about what anyone on the
Unschooling list here thinks. Really! Do it now!
2. Remove every single worry or doubt about how your children's lives will
turn out without you helping them make it so. Release them all. If it helps,
sit down and have a long meditation session and picture yourself dropping
them into a well, or a river, or a garbage dump and running them over with a
bulldozer. Or write them all on paper and crumple each one and burn it, or
throw it into the trash. Examine every single one and drop it. Do so
consciously. Now go out and make it so. You are hereby released from taking
the responsibility for your children's future happiness. Live right here,
right now, in today. Help them accomplish whatever makes them happy today,
whether that does or does not add up to some future goal or plan. Go to a
park, have a picnic, sit and snuggle and watch a movie, or let them do
whatever it is they want to do. Just release them from the pressure of your
wants, wishes, desires, and goals. Let them build their own.
3. Sit down and make a goal of your own desires, wishes, goals FOR YOURSELF.
Find one of them and start working towards it, today! Want to learn to knit
an afgan? TODAY, go out and find a beginning knitting class, or just buy a
knitting book or just some needles and yarn. Want to run a marathon? TODAY,
go out and get some running shoes. Want to read all the classics? Go check
Jane Eyre out of the library TODAY. Just do it. Start building your own
life. Not your world that has been about your children for twenty-three
years. Your OWN wants, needs, desires. Just do it. Now. The only way to stop
meddling in your children's futures is to build your own. Start today.
That's it. Really, that's all there is to it. Come back to this list when
you truly feel it will not unbalance your life. I'm not saying this to be
cruel. This is a high-volume, high-intensity list. I've been subscribed to
it on and off for years. There have been times I've taken a break of a week,
a month, or a year when it has been necessary for the balance in my life.
The trick is to know when the list is helping you and when it is consuming
you. I suspect deeply that right now this list is not helping you. So ditch
it. Follow the three steps above, and you'll begin to see the paradigm shift
that is necessary to unschool. You really have to release all of that and
build your own life to see it. You cannot see it when you are trapped in an
existence of trying to control your kid's lives and futures.
Best of luck to you, really. It can be a beautiful and joyous journey for
you. Let it be so!
Blue Skies,
-Robin-
Robyn Coburn
These steps are so wonderful, especially the lovely ritual you have
designed in step 2, that I have printed the post for future reference. I
believe that the latter two steps would be useful for just about
everyone. Thank you.
Robyn Coburn
-----Original Message-----
From: Robin Clevenger [mailto:diamondair@...]
Sent: Tuesday, April 29, 2003 8:50 AM
To: [email protected]; rubyprincesstsg@...
Subject: [Unschooling-dotcom] Unschooling in Three Easy Steps, was Re:
The math-phobia thread
Okay, here's unschooling in three easy steps:
1. Stop reading this list. Honestly, I think it is making you crazy
right
now. I can sympathize, there are times in my life that I've worked
myself
into a lather about what random other people in cyberspace have to say.
It's
never healthy. Just do it. Unsubscribe! At least for a few days. Just be
with yourself and with your family. Stop worrying about what anyone on
the
Unschooling list here thinks. Really! Do it now!
2. Remove every single worry or doubt about how your children's lives
will
turn out without you helping them make it so. Release them all. If it
helps,
sit down and have a long meditation session and picture yourself
dropping
them into a well, or a river, or a garbage dump and running them over
with a
bulldozer. Or write them all on paper and crumple each one and burn it,
or
throw it into the trash. Examine every single one and drop it. Do so
consciously. Now go out and make it so. You are hereby released from
taking
the responsibility for your children's future happiness. Live right
here,
right now, in today. Help them accomplish whatever makes them happy
today,
whether that does or does not add up to some future goal or plan. Go to
a
park, have a picnic, sit and snuggle and watch a movie, or let them do
whatever it is they want to do. Just release them from the pressure of
your
wants, wishes, desires, and goals. Let them build their own.
3. Sit down and make a goal of your own desires, wishes, goals FOR
YOURSELF.
Find one of them and start working towards it, today! Want to learn to
knit
an afgan? TODAY, go out and find a beginning knitting class, or just buy
a
knitting book or just some needles and yarn. Want to run a marathon?
TODAY,
go out and get some running shoes. Want to read all the classics? Go
check
Jane Eyre out of the library TODAY. Just do it. Start building your own
life. Not your world that has been about your children for twenty-three
years. Your OWN wants, needs, desires. Just do it. Now. The only way to
stop
meddling in your children's futures is to build your own. Start today.
That's it. Really, that's all there is to it. Come back to this list
when
you truly feel it will not unbalance your life. I'm not saying this to
be
cruel. This is a high-volume, high-intensity list. I've been subscribed
to
it on and off for years. There have been times I've taken a break of a
week,
a month, or a year when it has been necessary for the balance in my
life.
The trick is to know when the list is helping you and when it is
consuming
you. I suspect deeply that right now this list is not helping you. So
ditch
it. Follow the three steps above, and you'll begin to see the paradigm
shift
that is necessary to unschool. You really have to release all of that
and
build your own life to see it. You cannot see it when you are trapped in
an
existence of trying to control your kid's lives and futures.
Best of luck to you, really. It can be a beautiful and joyous journey
for
you. Let it be so!
Blue Skies,
-Robin-
[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
designed in step 2, that I have printed the post for future reference. I
believe that the latter two steps would be useful for just about
everyone. Thank you.
Robyn Coburn
-----Original Message-----
From: Robin Clevenger [mailto:diamondair@...]
Sent: Tuesday, April 29, 2003 8:50 AM
To: [email protected]; rubyprincesstsg@...
Subject: [Unschooling-dotcom] Unschooling in Three Easy Steps, was Re:
The math-phobia thread
Okay, here's unschooling in three easy steps:
1. Stop reading this list. Honestly, I think it is making you crazy
right
now. I can sympathize, there are times in my life that I've worked
myself
into a lather about what random other people in cyberspace have to say.
It's
never healthy. Just do it. Unsubscribe! At least for a few days. Just be
with yourself and with your family. Stop worrying about what anyone on
the
Unschooling list here thinks. Really! Do it now!
2. Remove every single worry or doubt about how your children's lives
will
turn out without you helping them make it so. Release them all. If it
helps,
sit down and have a long meditation session and picture yourself
dropping
them into a well, or a river, or a garbage dump and running them over
with a
bulldozer. Or write them all on paper and crumple each one and burn it,
or
throw it into the trash. Examine every single one and drop it. Do so
consciously. Now go out and make it so. You are hereby released from
taking
the responsibility for your children's future happiness. Live right
here,
right now, in today. Help them accomplish whatever makes them happy
today,
whether that does or does not add up to some future goal or plan. Go to
a
park, have a picnic, sit and snuggle and watch a movie, or let them do
whatever it is they want to do. Just release them from the pressure of
your
wants, wishes, desires, and goals. Let them build their own.
3. Sit down and make a goal of your own desires, wishes, goals FOR
YOURSELF.
Find one of them and start working towards it, today! Want to learn to
knit
an afgan? TODAY, go out and find a beginning knitting class, or just buy
a
knitting book or just some needles and yarn. Want to run a marathon?
TODAY,
go out and get some running shoes. Want to read all the classics? Go
check
Jane Eyre out of the library TODAY. Just do it. Start building your own
life. Not your world that has been about your children for twenty-three
years. Your OWN wants, needs, desires. Just do it. Now. The only way to
stop
meddling in your children's futures is to build your own. Start today.
That's it. Really, that's all there is to it. Come back to this list
when
you truly feel it will not unbalance your life. I'm not saying this to
be
cruel. This is a high-volume, high-intensity list. I've been subscribed
to
it on and off for years. There have been times I've taken a break of a
week,
a month, or a year when it has been necessary for the balance in my
life.
The trick is to know when the list is helping you and when it is
consuming
you. I suspect deeply that right now this list is not helping you. So
ditch
it. Follow the three steps above, and you'll begin to see the paradigm
shift
that is necessary to unschool. You really have to release all of that
and
build your own life to see it. You cannot see it when you are trapped in
an
existence of trying to control your kid's lives and futures.
Best of luck to you, really. It can be a beautiful and joyous journey
for
you. Let it be so!
Blue Skies,
-Robin-
[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
Robin Clevenger
> From: "Robyn Coburn" <dezigna@...>Thanks for saying that, I'm glad you found it useful. Especially since the
> These steps are so wonderful, especially the lovely ritual you have
> designed in step 2, that I have printed the post for future reference. I
> believe that the latter two steps would be useful for just about
> everyone. Thank you.
person who *asked* for some simple, easy steps to follow totally ignored it
in favor of more argument about sheet-spraying.
Blue Skies!
-Robin-