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I don't have a solid answer to this but I thought I would chime in on
personal experiences.

I was public schooled, I attend all low level classes, I disliked school to
the point of prob. depression. My last year I took all classes I thought I
may have an interest in. Psych, Contract Law, Drafting etc... I graduated a
half a year early with High Honors. All this from a student that was told I
was LD and stuffed in a resource room for years.. Only because I disliked the
big classes, I couldn't think let alone learn any thing from all the antics
in class. Did I continue with any of these subjects in adult hood? NO
I didn't go to college, I joined the Marines still lost from school and a
messy childhood of abuse and divorce.
What's my point?
Well, after the Military and dead end jobs, I had my children, married and
still felt lost. Because I was never able to lean what interested me I found
my self not completing tasks. Frustrated with all the control others had over
me. Work, rules, what was expected being the biggest.

At 28 I quit my job, pulled my son from school and showed him you can do
whatever you set your mind too. I asked him ok what do you want to do. He
said open a business.
So we did for 2 1/2 years we where on top of the world. We both learned how
to design a web site, market products, become top sellers in high end
children's products and have our name and Logo known in many places. He will
most likely in his adult life not work for anyone but himself and for his
family.
What is a deadline?
We all have to be places at a certain time and I think for the most part
schooled or unschooled we all do it to some extent or another.
Personally school makes one bitter in the hustle and bustle all day long to
move to cattle (term used by our principal in a conversation I had with him)
from one room to the next. Why do we need to cover every subject every day?
Punishment if your late? In the adult world it just doesn't work like that
all day long.

I have a sister with 4 children in public school who all feel stressed,
harassed at times and admit they cant remember what they did or learned last
month. Her son has an IQ score that only a few have. He landed in the Alt
school because his teacher said he didn't turn in his papers. None of his
talents are being used at all.
Her oldest Daughter loves stage crew and has run it for a couple years now,
has quit because her teacher changed her grade from an A+ to an F because she
disagreed with a situation. (This wasn't a disrespect situation nor did it
have anything to do with her work performance)

The third child has a voice and a dream that she has wanted to follow for
years and has never been able to go after that. If she was at home she would
prob. have her own record by now.
My sister has politely disagreed for years as to my choices and said I should
go get a job. She works for a well known investment company and is successful
but not happy. She is now opening her own business and plans to leave her
job. She calls weekly with issues about her children's school and is now
considering pulling them all from school.
As one medicine is not a cure all for everyone neither is school the only
choice..

I am new to this group and posted my intro last week but I don't think
everyone received it as I didn't.

Laura
Maine

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> Not a homeschooler / unschooler. Just gathering information at this
> point. I have a three-year-old and my second (and last!) child is
> due in July.
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> I've enjoyed the posts so far and can tell that people care deeply
> about their kids are are trying to provide the environment that
> allows their fullest potentials as humans (not just students / cogs)
> to be realized. My question is, how do unschooled children learn to
> work to deadlines?
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> In the workplace, performance is measured partly by honoring
> commitments in a timely manner. External pressure (reviews - like
> grades, and disciplinary action) can be severe, but as a parent it
> seems like it would be hard to enforce deadlines on unschooled
> children. Often the workplace choice is to do the best job possible
> in the time available while constantly facing other deadlines;
> prioritizing among alternative ways to achieve the greatest overall
> output seems to result in workplace success, although there is no
> final say on the one best approach (except the boss's maybe).
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> Maybe my conventional education is clouding my judgement here and
> employees should work to their own values, standards and interests
> alone, although this could conflict with the reward system of the
> employer? As an outsider, it seems like part of the appeal of
> homeschooling / unschooling is allowing the children to direct their
> own learning and to take the time needed to really grasp each
> subject, but does that create problems in adapting to the workplace
> where having an adequate result on time often outweighs having a
> better result later? How do parents help homeschooled / unschooled
> children work to deadlines, if indeed it is even a consideration?
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