Re: Another parenting question (was Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] TheChristian A...
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In a message dated 4/14/2003 8:51:26 PM Eastern Daylight Time,
SandraDodd@... writes:
call, kids sometimes want to experience so many different things and to see
for themselves what it is really all about.
Sometimes it's better for them to actually see what it's about so they can
know why others disapprove of it or why others go to them.
Depends on the age of the child and if a parent is in close proximity to said
event and can kinda of "shadow" monitor the child for danger. Sometimes
those things do get out of hand and there can be violence. I only know this
from seeing it on TV.
I guess it goes back to allowing our kids freedom to think on their own and
experience and learn on their own but are you imposing your thoughts if you
deny them such an event. Hmmm, it would be easy to just say under no
circumstances let him go. They are a terrible lot and no good can come of
it. But that might be a step away from censoring their TV and books. I'm
just not sure what the "correct" stance would be as an unschooler. As a
mother, I would ask lots of questions and try to come up with a compromise
that would be fairly acceptable to parent and child.
Good luck to you!
glena
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SandraDodd@... writes:
> Here, you'd be going to a neo-Nazi white-power thing and be given Ku KluxMaybe the mother is saying that's exactly what her son wants to attend. Hard
> Klan literature at a little booth on the side.
>
call, kids sometimes want to experience so many different things and to see
for themselves what it is really all about.
Sometimes it's better for them to actually see what it's about so they can
know why others disapprove of it or why others go to them.
Depends on the age of the child and if a parent is in close proximity to said
event and can kinda of "shadow" monitor the child for danger. Sometimes
those things do get out of hand and there can be violence. I only know this
from seeing it on TV.
I guess it goes back to allowing our kids freedom to think on their own and
experience and learn on their own but are you imposing your thoughts if you
deny them such an event. Hmmm, it would be easy to just say under no
circumstances let him go. They are a terrible lot and no good can come of
it. But that might be a step away from censoring their TV and books. I'm
just not sure what the "correct" stance would be as an unschooler. As a
mother, I would ask lots of questions and try to come up with a compromise
that would be fairly acceptable to parent and child.
Good luck to you!
glena
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In a message dated 4/14/03 9:37:13 PM, rubyprincesstsg@... writes:
<< Hmmm, it would be easy to just say under no
circumstances let him go. They are a terrible lot and no good can come of
it. But that might be a step away from censoring their TV and books. I'm
just not sure what the "correct" stance would be as an unschooler. >>
There's not a correct stance for an unschooler.
I am no more obligated to drive someone somewhere than I obligate Marty to go
places of my choosing.
A kid who can't drive himself is never going to be guaranteed of a ride to a
place where the driver doesn't want to go.
<<Maybe the mother is saying that's exactly what her son wants to attend.>>
"The mother" was me. I brought it up first. And I was writing to Shyrley,
who was talking about something altogether different.
<<Good luck to you!>>
It was entirely hypothetical and rhetorical. There is no skinhead rally. It
was an example.
Sandra
<< Hmmm, it would be easy to just say under no
circumstances let him go. They are a terrible lot and no good can come of
it. But that might be a step away from censoring their TV and books. I'm
just not sure what the "correct" stance would be as an unschooler. >>
There's not a correct stance for an unschooler.
I am no more obligated to drive someone somewhere than I obligate Marty to go
places of my choosing.
A kid who can't drive himself is never going to be guaranteed of a ride to a
place where the driver doesn't want to go.
<<Maybe the mother is saying that's exactly what her son wants to attend.>>
"The mother" was me. I brought it up first. And I was writing to Shyrley,
who was talking about something altogether different.
<<Good luck to you!>>
It was entirely hypothetical and rhetorical. There is no skinhead rally. It
was an example.
Sandra
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<I have a sincere question for anyone here.
Assuming that you have bent over backwards to be respectful of your children,
and give them the freedom they need to make decisions, what *would* you do if
your child wanted to go to a skinhead rally or do something else
objectionable?
I realize that some of you will answer that its not an issue at your home.
But
it *is* an issue here at the present moment and I could use some ideas.
Kristen>
Sandra is THIS you? This starts out by stating they have a sincere question,
they say they realize it might not be an issue at someone else's house but it
IS at theirs, and right NOW.
I believe it WAS/IS a real issue we were dealing with. Maybe yours was
hypothetical but Kristen seems to be saying her issue is very real.
glena
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Assuming that you have bent over backwards to be respectful of your children,
and give them the freedom they need to make decisions, what *would* you do if
your child wanted to go to a skinhead rally or do something else
objectionable?
I realize that some of you will answer that its not an issue at your home.
But
it *is* an issue here at the present moment and I could use some ideas.
Kristen>
Sandra is THIS you? This starts out by stating they have a sincere question,
they say they realize it might not be an issue at someone else's house but it
IS at theirs, and right NOW.
I believe it WAS/IS a real issue we were dealing with. Maybe yours was
hypothetical but Kristen seems to be saying her issue is very real.
glena
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