Paula Sjogerman

on 4/9/03 8:34 AM, [email protected] at
[email protected] wrote:

> I would think the show that we watch which has the most sex is Buffy: the
> Vampire Slayer.


Sometimes, if I'm in a mood, I will say that we follow the Buffy curriculum
<ggg>.

We have seasons 1,2 and 3 on DVD now - and I highly recommend watching lots
of them in a row! Joss Whedon is a genius and we have all learned a lot
about excellent writing and character from it.

Paula

PS -Oh yeah, that sex thing is true.

Kelly Lenhart

>Sometimes, if I'm in a mood, I will say that we follow the Buffy curriculum
><ggg>.


LOL!! I wonder what my friends would say to that!

>We have seasons 1,2 and 3 on DVD now - and I highly recommend watching lots
>of them in a row! Joss Whedon is a genius and we have all learned a lot
>about excellent writing and character from it.

He is a genius and the actors and writers he's assembled are amazing, too.
Just watching it has inspired me to write again. I'm going to mourn big
time when this season is over.

Kelly

[email protected]

In a message dated 4/9/03 9:39:29 AM Eastern Daylight Time,
[email protected] writes:

> I would think the show that we watch which has the most sex is Buffy: the
>
> Vampire Slayer.

Actually, these are the types of shows that I was originally referring to.
Buffy, Charmed, Friends, etc. These shows are adventurous, interesting,
funny, etc., respectively. I really think that my son would enjoy them, but
they do seem to have an awful lot of sex. My son is comfortable with what he
can stand in terms of violence, and has no problem changing the channel or
foregoing a movie or program because it's more than he has a tolerance for.
I have never really given him the chance to gauge his preferences regarding
sexual content. Now I feel that I have made a mistake. Truly, though, there
are some things that I would simply not want him exposed to (Howard Stern
definitely comes to mind), but some shows (Dharma and Greg, Friends,
Everybody loves Raymond, etc.) deal with sex in a light and fairly realistic
manner (which is good). I know that this is more about my own hang ups than
anything else, I just don't want to pass those hang ups on to my son. Hmm.
I'm not sure where I'm going with this, I guess that I just don't want to
shield him unnecessarily or, on the other hand, be neglectful. I'm hoping
for a healthy balance. Is that possible??? LOL! Thanks for all the
feedback! I'm open to any ideas.

Wendy in FL


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Kelly Lenhart

> I'm hoping
>for a healthy balance. Is that possible??? LOL! Thanks for all the
>feedback! I'm open to any ideas.
>Wendy in FL

I think the thing about Buffy, Charmed, etc is that they put sex in the
context of grown up relationships. That's not to say there is no casual
sex. But it used to be that there was either married sex or fornication.
Then any sex was ok. Now it seems like there are some shows where it's all
fornication (night time soap opera kinds of stuff) or shows that demonstrate
the wider variety of sex that actually happens in life. IE, some people
wait until they get married, some don't, some play around, etc. Shows like
Buffy really show how each of those choices affect a person.

In the same way that you'd talk about WHY a person is acting violently, I
think it's important to talk about WHY a person would choose to be sexual in
that situation. The balance comes less from what he sees, and more from how
you react to it.

Kelly