questions/punishment
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In a message dated 3/19/03 12:54:41 PM Central Standard Time,
[email protected] writes:
<< This is not abandament because we are in agreement that we cannot live
together and I also have on my side that he has created an environment that
children and I cannot live in without emotional/mental probs as a result.
Thoughts please??????? >>
Whether it is truly abandonment or not isn't the issue, it's how the courts
will view things now.
You CAN make him move out. But you need a good lawyer.
He is emotionally abusive, that is grounds for removing him from the house
and it will proabably be a bit easier on the kids if you don't have to move.
One thing you absolutely can not do right now is leave for even a night.
If you go ANYWHERE, take the kids with you. Any absence by a mother without
the children quickly gets labeled abandonment and can hurt custody
proceedings for you.
Even if he agrees totally, to give you a night or two off, do not go without
the children.
Please.
He obviously has major control issues from what you've said, I don't think it
would be hard to get a ruling in your favor to remove him from the home.
It's far easier for one person to start over, than for two.
Ideally, you all need to get into counseling. He could learn how to deal with
these issues and from where they are stemming.
But if he won't get help then I would personally make him leave. I would have
a fit if my dh tried to "punish" me...no one deserves to live in a horrible
environment like that.
Ren
"The sun is shining--the sun is shining. That is the magic. The flowers are
growing--the roots are stirring. That is the magic. Being alive is the
magic--being strong is the magic The magic is in me--the magic is in
me....It's in every one of us."
----Frances Hodgson Burnett
[email protected] writes:
<< This is not abandament because we are in agreement that we cannot live
together and I also have on my side that he has created an environment that
children and I cannot live in without emotional/mental probs as a result.
Thoughts please??????? >>
Whether it is truly abandonment or not isn't the issue, it's how the courts
will view things now.
You CAN make him move out. But you need a good lawyer.
He is emotionally abusive, that is grounds for removing him from the house
and it will proabably be a bit easier on the kids if you don't have to move.
One thing you absolutely can not do right now is leave for even a night.
If you go ANYWHERE, take the kids with you. Any absence by a mother without
the children quickly gets labeled abandonment and can hurt custody
proceedings for you.
Even if he agrees totally, to give you a night or two off, do not go without
the children.
Please.
He obviously has major control issues from what you've said, I don't think it
would be hard to get a ruling in your favor to remove him from the home.
It's far easier for one person to start over, than for two.
Ideally, you all need to get into counseling. He could learn how to deal with
these issues and from where they are stemming.
But if he won't get help then I would personally make him leave. I would have
a fit if my dh tried to "punish" me...no one deserves to live in a horrible
environment like that.
Ren
"The sun is shining--the sun is shining. That is the magic. The flowers are
growing--the roots are stirring. That is the magic. Being alive is the
magic--being strong is the magic The magic is in me--the magic is in
me....It's in every one of us."
----Frances Hodgson Burnett
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In a message dated 3/19/03 1:25:28 PM, starsuncloud@... writes:
<< One thing you absolutely can not do right now is leave for even a night.
If you go ANYWHERE, take the kids with you. >>
Right. Moms who get angry and leave without taking kids can lose custody
bigtime.
Sandra
<< One thing you absolutely can not do right now is leave for even a night.
If you go ANYWHERE, take the kids with you. >>
Right. Moms who get angry and leave without taking kids can lose custody
bigtime.
Sandra
Mary
From: SandraDodd@...
<<Right. Moms who get angry and leave without taking kids can lose custody
bigtime.>>
And sometimes moms who do make arrangements because they are thinking of the kids lose custody too. DO NOT leae those kids for one second.
Mary B
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<<Right. Moms who get angry and leave without taking kids can lose custody
bigtime.>>
And sometimes moms who do make arrangements because they are thinking of the kids lose custody too. DO NOT leae those kids for one second.
Mary B
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