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Sorry about that last blank message. I got mixed up.Then I lost what I wrote.
I am sure it was quite profound.
My journey to an unschooling way of life continues.I have been reading
everything on this list and at sites recommended here and can see that I have
a long way to go.
I seem to struggle with controlling my children. I have done a lot of work in
this area since the birth of my first child, but I can see that there are
many things I can do differently. I am appreciating what I read on this list,
keep it coming!!
I am reading John Holt's'"How Children Fail" and find it very interesting. I
see myself as a child in school in this book, and I also see the mistakes I
have made with my son. He is seven, and I hope I can make up for these
mistakes from now on.
Thank you for your collective wisdom.
Nancy L. in Cold Canada


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ed hodgins

----- Original Message -----
From: <LOWRIEK@...>
To: <[email protected]>
Sent: Friday, March 07, 2003 2:21 AM
Subject: [Unschooling-dotcom] It's Hard to Be a Newbie!


> Sorry about that last blank message. I got mixed up.Then I lost what I
wrote.
> I am sure it was quite profound.
> My journey to an unschooling way of life continues.I have been reading
> everything on this list and at sites recommended here and can see that I
have
> a long way to go.
> I seem to struggle with controlling my children. I have done a lot of work
in
> this area since the birth of my first child, but I can see that there are
> many things I can do differently. I am appreciating what I read on this
list,
> keep it coming!!
> I am reading John Holt's'"How Children Fail" and find it very interesting.
I
> see myself as a child in school in this book, and I also see the mistakes
I
> have made with my son. He is seven, and I hope I can make up for these
> mistakes from now on.
> Thank you for your collective wisdom.
> Nancy L. in Cold Canada
>
>
> [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
>
>
> ~~~~ Don't forget! If you change topics, change the subject line! ~~~~
>
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>
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>
>
> I am in tottenham ontario. I have 2 1/2 yr daughter and 20 mth son. The
both seem to be advanced in the milestones. People in town keep asking me
there ages. I try to treat my daughter as an equally and talk to her as much
as possible. i believe in time out when nessisary. She pushes my buttons and
is clever. I find the more i get mad or fustrated they get worse. I
sometimes put on a movie or get them etertain a walk out of the room and
make a tea. My patience level has change the more I talk to other parents
and share ideas. This is what I luv about this site. So may ideas and were
all going through a lot of the same struggles and fustrations. People seem
to be supportive here.

MARK and JULIE SOLICH

It's good to know I'm not the only 'newbie' out there! Control is something
I've had to work on heaps too.
My oldest (8yrs) is a control freak and I know I helped create that in him.
Seeing my kids relax and enjoy making their own choices and at times
reveling in new found freedoms has been joyous!!
I'm finding too that as I seek to undo what I've done to my kids, I am
freeing myself at the same time.

Julie

----- Original Message -----
From: "ed hodgins" <ed.hodgins@...>
To: <[email protected]>
Sent: Saturday, March 08, 2003 10:55 AM
Subject: Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] It's Hard to Be a Newbie!


>
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: <LOWRIEK@...>
> To: <[email protected]>
> Sent: Friday, March 07, 2003 2:21 AM
> Subject: [Unschooling-dotcom] It's Hard to Be a Newbie!
>
>
> > Sorry about that last blank message. I got mixed up.Then I lost what I
> wrote.
> > I am sure it was quite profound.
> > My journey to an unschooling way of life continues.I have been reading
> > everything on this list and at sites recommended here and can see that I
> have
> > a long way to go.
> > I seem to struggle with controlling my children. I have done a lot of
work
> in
> > this area since the birth of my first child, but I can see that there
are
> > many things I can do differently. I am appreciating what I read on this
> list,
> > keep it coming!!
> > I am reading John Holt's'"How Children Fail" and find it very
interesting.
> I
> > see myself as a child in school in this book, and I also see the
mistakes
> I
> > have made with my son. He is seven, and I hope I can make up for these
> > mistakes from now on.
> > Thank you for your collective wisdom.
> > Nancy L. in Cold Canada
> >
> >
> > [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
> >
> >
> > ~~~~ Don't forget! If you change topics, change the subject line! ~~~~
> >
> > If you have questions, concerns or problems with this list, please email
> the moderator, Joyce Fetteroll (fetteroll@...), or the list
owner,
> Helen Hegener (HEM-Editor@...).
> >
> > To unsubscribe from this group, click on the following link or address
an
> email to:
> > [email protected]
> >
> > Visit the Unschooling website: http://www.unschooling.com
> >
> > Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to
http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
> >
> >
> > I am in tottenham ontario. I have 2 1/2 yr daughter and 20 mth son. The
> both seem to be advanced in the milestones. People in town keep asking me
> there ages. I try to treat my daughter as an equally and talk to her as
much
> as possible. i believe in time out when nessisary. She pushes my buttons
and
> is clever. I find the more i get mad or fustrated they get worse. I
> sometimes put on a movie or get them etertain a walk out of the room and
> make a tea. My patience level has change the more I talk to other parents
> and share ideas. This is what I luv about this site. So may ideas and were
> all going through a lot of the same struggles and fustrations. People seem
> to be supportive here.
>
>
>
> ~~~~ Don't forget! If you change topics, change the subject line! ~~~~
>
> If you have questions, concerns or problems with this list, please email
the moderator, Joyce Fetteroll (fetteroll@...), or the list owner,
Helen Hegener (HEM-Editor@...).
>
> To unsubscribe from this group, click on the following link or address an
email to:
> [email protected]
>
> Visit the Unschooling website: http://www.unschooling.com
>
> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
>
>

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In a message dated 3/8/03 2:00:53 AM Eastern Standard Time,
mjsolich@... writes:

> I'm finding too that as I seek to undo what I've done to my kids, I am
> freeing myself at the same time.
>
> Julie
>
>

that's powerful!

Ang <-----recovering control freak myself


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In a message dated 3/7/03 11:59:24 PM, mjsolich@... writes:

<< My oldest (8yrs) is a control freak and I know I helped create that in
him. >>

Could be only by genetics, though. Some people really like to line stuff up
parallel to edges and make schedules.

We have a young friend who's one of four, and ever since she was tiny,
pre-verbal toddler, her thing was putting things where they went. When moms
and kids were at the park, she would toddle around putting the right baby
blanket with the right diaper bag, and handing people their own car keys if
they had been lying on the table, and putting trash in the trash can.
Patiently and happily, but always sorting, sorting, matching, replacing. At
the children's museum her fun was putting the blocks back up, putting the
markers back up, stacking the papers, etc.

Her siblings were merrily messy, but Hana persevered in bringing order to the
world.

Sandra