Lucie Caunter

>What's wrong with considering that you're including yourself in the process
>is that if others aren't equally included in the process, what's happening?
>Empowering children makes them powerful. Commanding them makes them small
>and dependent.
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>Sandra
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Yes, yes, yes. Equally is the key to me too. In our family, as opposed
to the family I and my Dh grew up in, we try to make decision and to do
things together. We each grew up in families were the parents were the
ultimate authority and were the children should be seen but not heard.
It was normal for their generation, and I realize that it is still
normal for a lot of family out there.
And yes, empowering people makes them powerful. Commanding them
makes them small and dependent. Schooling is a commanding and
controlling system. Unschooling perhaps imply that it is not.
But I also get the feeling (wrongly perhaps) that some parents want to
go from one extreme to the other. Instead of all the control in the
hand of one or two parents they have no control, Chaos? No commanding
system can mean that the activities are accomplished and decided by
consensus or never together. I prefer consensus. I find other
options... lonely. Beside I love doing things with my sons.
Did I make more sense? Anyway, they're waiting for me to go shovel
more snow. Bye for now.
Lucie


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