Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] learning from life
Lucie Caunter
Thank you Melisa. I though I was the only one thinking this way all of
sudden. It is hard if you did not start with that philosophy from the
start. If you did, then the children first learned by seeing you do it,
later by doing it too. They get the idea that it is a "particip-action"
thing. It is not so much a chore as part of living. By now my 16 years
old can do anything "housework" including some home maintenance and
maintenance of the family vehicles. They have their own accounts and
budget. They have enough life skills to take care of themselves.
Lucie
mcole_1305 wrote:
sudden. It is hard if you did not start with that philosophy from the
start. If you did, then the children first learned by seeing you do it,
later by doing it too. They get the idea that it is a "particip-action"
thing. It is not so much a chore as part of living. By now my 16 years
old can do anything "housework" including some home maintenance and
maintenance of the family vehicles. They have their own accounts and
budget. They have enough life skills to take care of themselves.
Lucie
mcole_1305 wrote:
>I just guess I have to disagree on some points. I see unschooling as
>learning from life. Life may mean some things that have to get
>done. We have to wash dishes or we dont have anything to eat off of,
>or to cook with. We have to change the oil in the car or it wont go.
>We have to wash clothes, or we will all have to go naked. (Nobody
>wants that). I also believe that by teaching my sons these life
>tasks they are learning things that will benefit them. I teach them
>to cook, to keep the house decent, to do their laundry, to balance a
>checkbook, ect. Is this not unschooling? I have to say that it is.
>It is general responsibility and though I do agree that they get to
>choose and their day is centered around that, they must also learn
>that some things just have to happen in life. I would be
>irresponsible as a parent if I didnt teach them what it took to
>live. To pay bills and to take care of what it takes to take care of
>their families if and when they have them.
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>Melissa
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Heidi Wordhouse-Dykema
Pam S,
Please, don't *ever* regret choosing a book or computer game or whatever
attracts you over cleaning your house. If you feel the desire to read,
then read! If a game calls your name, then play! If your child wants to
snuggle, then snuggle!
I think that maybe if you let yourself really enjoy your non-cleaning
choices as you make them (and later), then you'll find it easier to later
(maybe even months or years later!) choose to tidy up. I mean, if 'tidying
up' keeps you from books and sun and kids and games, then sure, why
*wouldn't* you avoid it! How awful! 'Tidying up' sounds like such an
inhibiting thing when it should be freeing, and fun and
satisfaction-bringing!!!
Maybe let yourself decompress from thinking tidying up is more important
than books and games.
It's just another choice, is all. Right?
HeidiWD (Who's off to the library herself in just a little bit.)
Please, don't *ever* regret choosing a book or computer game or whatever
attracts you over cleaning your house. If you feel the desire to read,
then read! If a game calls your name, then play! If your child wants to
snuggle, then snuggle!
I think that maybe if you let yourself really enjoy your non-cleaning
choices as you make them (and later), then you'll find it easier to later
(maybe even months or years later!) choose to tidy up. I mean, if 'tidying
up' keeps you from books and sun and kids and games, then sure, why
*wouldn't* you avoid it! How awful! 'Tidying up' sounds like such an
inhibiting thing when it should be freeing, and fun and
satisfaction-bringing!!!
Maybe let yourself decompress from thinking tidying up is more important
than books and games.
It's just another choice, is all. Right?
HeidiWD (Who's off to the library herself in just a little bit.)
Have a Nice Day!
Something else that works for me is to do what I want and then commit myself to 10 minutes of cleaning or doing one cleaning thing (like washing dishes). Then go back to what I was doing for awhile.
Or, on my way to the bathroom or whatever, just do whatever is in my path.
Kristen
Or, on my way to the bathroom or whatever, just do whatever is in my path.
Kristen
----- Original Message -----
From: Heidi Wordhouse-Dykema
To: [email protected]
Sent: Wednesday, March 05, 2003 1:49 PM
Subject: [Unschooling-dotcom] Pam S and her books
Pam S,
Please, don't *ever* regret choosing a book or computer game or whatever
attracts you over cleaning your house. If you feel the desire to read,
then read! If a game calls your name, then play! If your child wants to
snuggle, then snuggle!
I think that maybe if you let yourself really enjoy your non-cleaning
choices as you make them (and later), then you'll find it easier to later
(maybe even months or years later!) choose to tidy up. I mean, if 'tidying
up' keeps you from books and sun and kids and games, then sure, why
*wouldn't* you avoid it! How awful! 'Tidying up' sounds like such an
inhibiting thing when it should be freeing, and fun and
satisfaction-bringing!!!
Maybe let yourself decompress from thinking tidying up is more important
than books and games.
It's just another choice, is all. Right?
HeidiWD (Who's off to the library herself in just a little bit.)
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