Robyn Carter

I just want to offer this about your son. Yes, sometimes they do need to cry
in your arms. My oldest daughter sometimes needed to cry for over an hour at
a time when she was 2, for longer when she was an infant. There is a
brilliant woman, Aletha Solter, who has written a number of books on the
subject of why children (humans!) need to cry, with someone who loves them
listening. Her web site is "Aware Parenting", and there's also The Parent
Leadership Institute, which was founded by Patty Wipfler, another brilliant
parent. I have met both of these women, and Aletha's children, and raised
all 3 of my beautiful children using this way of parenting. That's all...
Robyn

Mary Bianco

I really don't know what to say to you but didn't want you to think no one
was listening. I can't say I've had the same problem. I think maybe if it
were me, I'd look elsewhere as to what's going on around the house. Sounds
like maybe he just wants some control or even attention. I'm just talking
out loud here. But I do know that sometimes behaviors that stump us come
about for other reasons. The kids just aren't "wanting" to be bad. Hopefully
you will figure it out and he will too and all will be okay again.

Mary B






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Manon (Hotmail)

Thanks so much. I will look at those websites.

Manon
----- Original Message -----
From: Robyn Carter
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Sent: Thursday, February 27, 2003 10:53 AM
Subject: [Unschooling-dotcom] Manon...


I just want to offer this about your son. Yes, sometimes they do need to cry
in your arms. My oldest daughter sometimes needed to cry for over an hour at
a time when she was 2, for longer when she was an infant. There is a
brilliant woman, Aletha Solter, who has written a number of books on the
subject of why children (humans!) need to cry, with someone who loves them
listening. Her web site is "Aware Parenting", and there's also The Parent
Leadership Institute, which was founded by Patty Wipfler, another brilliant
parent. I have met both of these women, and Aletha's children, and raised
all 3 of my beautiful children using this way of parenting. That's all...
Robyn



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Manon (Hotmail)

Thank you Mary. I was starting to feel alone out here lol. I know what you mean about the attention. He requires a whole lot and some days I just don't have the energy. I have read the thread about being with your kids Sandra was talking about a couple of days ago. It has helped tremendously. I feel like I have to learn a whole new way of being and living because that is not the way I was raised. I will have to be patient with myself. I know I will figure it out because I have already figured out so much and I am always open to learning and changing. Reading the posts on this list and wonderful books are definitely helping me. My son is also a great teacher.

Manon
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Sent: Thursday, February 27, 2003 12:36 PM
Subject: Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] Manon...


I really don't know what to say to you but didn't want you to think no one
was listening. I can't say I've had the same problem. I think maybe if it
were me, I'd look elsewhere as to what's going on around the house. Sounds
like maybe he just wants some control or even attention. I'm just talking
out loud here. But I do know that sometimes behaviors that stump us come
about for other reasons. The kids just aren't "wanting" to be bad. Hopefully
you will figure it out and he will too and all will be okay again.

Mary B






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Jeff & Kate Kerr

****He requires a whole lot and some days I just don't have the energy.
I will have to be patient with myself.
Manon****

Hi,

I don't know when this original post came in (my account went nuts and
refused to send me anything for days before I figured out what was going
on), but I have a daughter who sounds very much like your son (I didn't
get how old he is).

When she was really young she would leave the room and I would jump up
and follow her because se would be into stuff (like the garage climbing
up the shelves to get to the spray paint which was kept near the roof,
or pulling all the pins out of my pincushion and throwing them around
the room, finding my paints and painting over my paintings, etc...)

She is, and was, a wonderful kid. Full of life, curious about
everything, articulate, funny, but would constantly put herself into
sometimes dangerous positions. We had to lock the spray paint up, bolt
the shelves to the walls so they wouldn't fall on her, and be with her
constantly.

It was a lot of work and sometimes my husband would come home from work
and I would have to leave for 1/2 an hour or so, just to gather myself
before I went nutso.

She's easier to be with now and doesn't require constant attention. So,
consequently, my life is easier.

I guess what I'm saying is be patient, life changes and kids grow. I'm
glad we chose to homeschool and she has me to be patient with her
instead of a teacher who doesn't think she's a little wonderful goddess.

Your child is lucky, as are all the kids of the people on this list.

Kate
who spent the day with her kids at the beach - we were the only ones
there! It was wonderful! I took loads of photos.

Manon (Hotmail)

Oh this is too funny. I was laughing my head when you were describing your daughter because my son is exactly like that. He is 2 1/2 and I too have to jump up and follow him around. I had a good reminder of that the other day when he fell from the counter on his head on the ceramic (thank god he only got a bump on the head). He is always climbing on top of everything and he still gets up on the counter (you would think he would have learned his lesson). He already broke one arm too. I guess I'm not done covering up gray hairs. How old is your daughter? Thank you for your wonderful encouragement.

Manon
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****He requires a whole lot and some days I just don't have the energy.
I will have to be patient with myself.
Manon****

Hi,

I don't know when this original post came in (my account went nuts and
refused to send me anything for days before I figured out what was going
on), but I have a daughter who sounds very much like your son (I didn't
get how old he is).

When she was really young she would leave the room and I would jump up
and follow her because se would be into stuff (like the garage climbing
up the shelves to get to the spray paint which was kept near the roof,
or pulling all the pins out of my pincushion and throwing them around
the room, finding my paints and painting over my paintings, etc...)

She is, and was, a wonderful kid. Full of life, curious about
everything, articulate, funny, but would constantly put herself into
sometimes dangerous positions. We had to lock the spray paint up, bolt
the shelves to the walls so they wouldn't fall on her, and be with her
constantly.

It was a lot of work and sometimes my husband would come home from work
and I would have to leave for 1/2 an hour or so, just to gather myself
before I went nutso.

She's easier to be with now and doesn't require constant attention. So,
consequently, my life is easier.

I guess what I'm saying is be patient, life changes and kids grow. I'm
glad we chose to homeschool and she has me to be patient with her
instead of a teacher who doesn't think she's a little wonderful goddess.

Your child is lucky, as are all the kids of the people on this list.

Kate
who spent the day with her kids at the beach - we were the only ones
there! It was wonderful! I took loads of photos.


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ed hodgins

----- Original Message -----
From: "Manon (Hotmail)" <manon_brisson@...>
To: <[email protected]>
Sent: Friday, February 28, 2003 4:08 PM
Subject: Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] Re: Manon...


> Oh this is too funny. I was laughing my head when you were describing
your daughter because my son is exactly like that. He is 2 1/2 and I too
have to jump up and follow him around. I had a good reminder of that the
other day when he fell from the counter on his head on the ceramic (thank
god he only got a bump on the head). He is always climbing on top of
everything and he still gets up on the counter (you would think he would
have learned his lesson). He already broke one arm too. I guess I'm not
done covering up gray hairs. How old is your daughter? Thank you for your
wonderful encouragement.
>
> Manon
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: Jeff & Kate Kerr
> To: [email protected]
> Sent: Thursday, February 27, 2003 7:54 PM
> Subject: [Unschooling-dotcom] Re: Manon...
>
>
>
> ****He requires a whole lot and some days I just don't have the energy.
> I will have to be patient with myself.
> Manon****
>
> Hi,
>
> I don't know when this original post came in (my account went nuts and
> refused to send me anything for days before I figured out what was going
> on), but I have a daughter who sounds very much like your son (I didn't
> get how old he is).
>
> When she was really young she would leave the room and I would jump up
> and follow her because se would be into stuff (like the garage climbing
> up the shelves to get to the spray paint which was kept near the roof,
> or pulling all the pins out of my pincushion and throwing them around
> the room, finding my paints and painting over my paintings, etc...)
>
> She is, and was, a wonderful kid. Full of life, curious about
> everything, articulate, funny, but would constantly put herself into
> sometimes dangerous positions. We had to lock the spray paint up, bolt
> the shelves to the walls so they wouldn't fall on her, and be with her
> constantly.
>
> It was a lot of work and sometimes my husband would come home from work
> and I would have to leave for 1/2 an hour or so, just to gather myself
> before I went nutso.
>
> She's easier to be with now and doesn't require constant attention. So,
> consequently, my life is easier.
>
> I guess what I'm saying is be patient, life changes and kids grow. I'm
> glad we chose to homeschool and she has me to be patient with her
> instead of a teacher who doesn't think she's a little wonderful goddess.
>
> Your child is lucky, as are all the kids of the people on this list.
>
> Kate
> who spent the day with her kids at the beach - we were the only ones
> there! It was wonderful! I took loads of photos.
>
>
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> my daughter 2 1/2 and a son 20 mths