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In a message dated 2/5/03 11:54:02 AM Eastern Standard Time,
hindar@... writes:

> Is the talk about moving her in with someone
> or would that be too hard on her too? To give up her independence and her
> home.
>

Well, thats the problem.. She does NOT want to leave her house.. I know she
feels like, she's lost her husband, she doesnt want to lose EVERYTHING this
is hers.. But, its not really feasible for her children to continue to rotate
staying with her. They love her and they want her to be happy and healthy,
but its not really fair to give up thier lives, their spouses, jobs,
children, grandchildren. Every one of her 6 remaining children (oldest
daughter died of ovarian cancer at 63) would gladly, happily take her to
thier home.. even rotating among families would be good. As of now, we just
dont know. Several of the grandchildren ( myself included) have offered to
stay with her as much as we can.. Mom said IF Grandma wont leave, then the
grandchildren will have to pitch in too.. Its going to be tought.. thanks
for your thoughts

Teresa


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**Well, thats the problem.. She does NOT want to leave her house.. I know she
feels like, she's lost her husband, she doesnt want to lose EVERYTHING this
is hers.. But, its not really feasible for her children to continue to rotate
staying with her. They love her and they want her to be happy and healthy,
but its not really fair to give up thier lives, their spouses, jobs,
children, grandchildren. Every one of her 6 remaining children (oldest
daughter died of ovarian cancer at 63) would gladly, happily take her to
thier home.. even rotating among families would be good. As of now, we just
dont know. Several of the grandchildren ( myself included) have offered to
stay with her as much as we can.. Mom said IF Grandma wont leave, then the
grandchildren will have to pitch in too.. **

Does your Grandma need someone staying with her all the time, or does she
just need some help? My Grandma has an aide who comes every weekday for a
couple hours. She cleans, cooks, talks. Family drops by to visit, do the
shopping, and do the heavy work regularly. When she first started having the
woman come in she wouldn't let her actually DO much but she's since seen the
benefits of laying down the load. :)

Deborah

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In a message dated 2/6/03 1:44:09 AM Eastern Standard Time,
dacunefare@... writes:

> Does your Grandma need someone staying with her all the time, or does she
> just need some help? My Grandma has an aide who comes every weekday for a
> couple hours. She cleans, cooks, talks. Family drops by to visit, do the
> shopping, and do the heavy work regularly. When she first started having
> the
> woman come in she wouldn't let her actually DO much but she's since seen
> the
> benefits of laying down the load. :)
>
> Deborah
>

That is a good idea. I think, that right now, with Grandpa's death so fresh,
Grandma just needs someone around for company. She cant bear the emotional
pain of being totally alone.. Especially at night. ..Her health is not
particularly bad... She is diabetic, but that is under control. She's very
active and mobile for her age ( 84) Its just that she wants/needs someone
with in her grief.

Teresa


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