Thank You All!!!
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I just wanted to thank everyone for their answers to all of my posts. I
believe that unschooling is the best way to live. I've been changing how I
relate to my children, not that I was a mean and nasty mom, but I talk to
them in a way that makes them on my level, and not treated like the child.
My children are very close in age (13 months apart), and are very close to
each other. I've seen how they treated each other in the past, which mimiced
how I treated them, and I didn't like it. My children need to show lots of
love and respect for each other and they can learn that from me.
I don't think I've ever introduced myself. I just started butting in on the
converstations. My name is Patti. I have a girl named Natalie and a boy
named Nicholas. I decided when my daughter was about 2 that I was going to
homeschool my children. My husband immediately loved the idea. I started
reading a lot about homeschooling and went to my first conference last
summer. I knew I wasn't going to be a "traditional" homeschooler because the
main reason why I wanted to homeschool was, and is, because children learn
best if they direct their own learning. The thought of using curriculums,
tests, worksheets, etc. and have a set schedule to have my children learn was
never going to be an option, unless my children love that way of learning.
When deciding to homeschool, I realized that I was going to have to let some
things go in order for the family to love each other, respect each other, get
a long, and live together. I've never been one who dictated what my children
can and cannot do in regards to playing. I'm used to the HUGE messes and
most of the time it doesn't bother me. When I started reading about
unschooling, it made me want to learn more about it and talk to families who
live this way. I liked what I heard and decided I want to be an unschooler.
This board has explained it, and has taught me a lot about families and how
they should be. I've already noticed a change in how we relate to each
other, although it's more difficult to help my daughter and son relate to
each other in a respectful manner because they get so mad at each other. I
think in time they'll learn to communicate with each other without yelling,
taking things away from each other, and hitting.
Thanks again for all your help!!!
Patti
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believe that unschooling is the best way to live. I've been changing how I
relate to my children, not that I was a mean and nasty mom, but I talk to
them in a way that makes them on my level, and not treated like the child.
My children are very close in age (13 months apart), and are very close to
each other. I've seen how they treated each other in the past, which mimiced
how I treated them, and I didn't like it. My children need to show lots of
love and respect for each other and they can learn that from me.
I don't think I've ever introduced myself. I just started butting in on the
converstations. My name is Patti. I have a girl named Natalie and a boy
named Nicholas. I decided when my daughter was about 2 that I was going to
homeschool my children. My husband immediately loved the idea. I started
reading a lot about homeschooling and went to my first conference last
summer. I knew I wasn't going to be a "traditional" homeschooler because the
main reason why I wanted to homeschool was, and is, because children learn
best if they direct their own learning. The thought of using curriculums,
tests, worksheets, etc. and have a set schedule to have my children learn was
never going to be an option, unless my children love that way of learning.
When deciding to homeschool, I realized that I was going to have to let some
things go in order for the family to love each other, respect each other, get
a long, and live together. I've never been one who dictated what my children
can and cannot do in regards to playing. I'm used to the HUGE messes and
most of the time it doesn't bother me. When I started reading about
unschooling, it made me want to learn more about it and talk to families who
live this way. I liked what I heard and decided I want to be an unschooler.
This board has explained it, and has taught me a lot about families and how
they should be. I've already noticed a change in how we relate to each
other, although it's more difficult to help my daughter and son relate to
each other in a respectful manner because they get so mad at each other. I
think in time they'll learn to communicate with each other without yelling,
taking things away from each other, and hitting.
Thanks again for all your help!!!
Patti
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ed hodgins
----- Original Message -----
From: <HappyMato2@...>
To: <[email protected]>
Sent: Thursday, January 30, 2003 4:33 PM
Subject: [Unschooling-dotcom] Thank You All!!!
> I just wanted to thank everyone for their answers to all of my posts. I
> believe that unschooling is the best way to live. I've been changing how
I
> relate to my children, not that I was a mean and nasty mom, but I talk to
> them in a way that makes them on my level, and not treated like the child.
> My children are very close in age (13 months apart), and are very close to
> each other. I've seen how they treated each other in the past, which
mimiced
> how I treated them, and I didn't like it. My children need to show lots
of
> love and respect for each other and they can learn that from me.
>
> I don't think I've ever introduced myself. I just started butting in on
the
> converstations. My name is Patti. I have a girl named Natalie and a boy
> named Nicholas. I decided when my daughter was about 2 that I was going
to
> homeschool my children. My husband immediately loved the idea. I started
> reading a lot about homeschooling and went to my first conference last
> summer. I knew I wasn't going to be a "traditional" homeschooler because
the
> main reason why I wanted to homeschool was, and is, because children learn
> best if they direct their own learning. The thought of using curriculums,
> tests, worksheets, etc. and have a set schedule to have my children learn
was
> never going to be an option, unless my children love that way of learning.
> When deciding to homeschool, I realized that I was going to have to let
some
> things go in order for the family to love each other, respect each other,
get
> a long, and live together. I've never been one who dictated what my
children
> can and cannot do in regards to playing. I'm used to the HUGE messes and
> most of the time it doesn't bother me. When I started reading about
> unschooling, it made me want to learn more about it and talk to families
who
> live this way. I liked what I heard and decided I want to be an
unschooler.
> This board has explained it, and has taught me a lot about families and
how
> they should be. I've already noticed a change in how we relate to each
> other, although it's more difficult to help my daughter and son relate to
> each other in a respectful manner because they get so mad at each other.
I
> think in time they'll learn to communicate with each other without
yelling,
> taking things away from each other, and hitting.
>
> Thanks again for all your help!!!
>
> Patti
>
>
> [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
>
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>Thanks my name is Dawna my son is 20 mths and daughter 32 mths 14 mths
apart. He was 2 mths premie. I am intrested in unschooling and looking for
more info. She is very bright. Hiding things she doesn't want me to take
away or books that need to be returned to the Library. She knows her
alphabet and counts to ten. knows shapes and colors. 1+1=2. She tries to
hide what she knows from me. ? is this normal!! One for u one for me is 2.
(oops) She is telling me the shapes of things. Cant keep her occupied.
Her brother and her get along great. She is encouraging him to talk and
walk but the fight only for my attention. Any advice on how to stop this?
What can I do to occupie them ?
What advice can you give me on raising children so close in age. How do I
make her feel like a big girl?
Fetteroll
on 1/30/03 9:30 PM, ed hodgins at ed.hodgins@... wrote:
advantage over the list is that it's arrange by topic and you can go back
and ponder old stuff. The list tends to fly by. (Though some people will put
up with that since they much prefer lists!)
like unimportant reasons, wouldn't you hide it too?
that you already know the answer to?
act? First step is recongnizing that their needs are real and valid and
figure out how to meet those needs.
somewhere without stuff to do. What do they love? What are their favorite
things? What makes their eyes light up?
feel pushed out of being the little girl that she is. Recognize that she's
still little. Recognize that she probably feels even littler because she's
been displaced from being the center of your universe. To her being little
means you get taken care of more.
Joyce
> I am intrested in unschooling and looking forThe best information is on the message boards at Unschooling.com. The
> more info.
advantage over the list is that it's arrange by topic and you can go back
and ponder old stuff. The list tends to fly by. (Though some people will put
up with that since they much prefer lists!)
> Hiding things she doesn't want me to takeIf you knew your husband would take something away from you for what seemed
> away
like unimportant reasons, wouldn't you hide it too?
> She tries toIf you're quizing her it might be. Do you ask her questions about things
> hide what she knows from me. ? is this normal!!
that you already know the answer to?
> but the fight only for my attention. Any advice on how to stop this?Can you stop feeling something just because someone doesn't like the way you
act? First step is recongnizing that their needs are real and valid and
figure out how to meet those needs.
> What can I do to occupie them ?Stop thinking in terms of occupying them as though you were stuck waiting
somewhere without stuff to do. What do they love? What are their favorite
things? What makes their eyes light up?
> What advice can you give me on raising children so close in age.Siblings Without Rivalry by Mazlich (sp?) and Farber. A *very* easy read.
> How do IThe more you try to make her feel like a big girl, the more she's going to
> make her feel like a big girl?
feel pushed out of being the little girl that she is. Recognize that she's
still little. Recognize that she probably feels even littler because she's
been displaced from being the center of your universe. To her being little
means you get taken care of more.
Joyce
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In a message dated 1/31/03 7:49:36 AM, fetteroll@... writes:
<< > How do I
feel pushed out of being the little girl that she is. Recognize that she's
still little. Recognize that she probably feels even littler because she's
been displaced from being the center of your universe. To her being little
means you get taken care of more.
If you tell a little girl to be a bigger girl, she loses her childhood and
she has lost the joy of advancing when SHE wants to.
For one thing, it's not a smooth transition. It will be jumpy and choppy.
If you baby her and let her be little, she will WANT to be bigger sooner than
if you just press for "bigness," I think.
Sandra
<< > How do I
> make her feel like a big girl?<<The more you try to make her feel like a big girl, the more she's going to
feel pushed out of being the little girl that she is. Recognize that she's
still little. Recognize that she probably feels even littler because she's
been displaced from being the center of your universe. To her being little
means you get taken care of more.
>>I liked Joyce's advice there.
If you tell a little girl to be a bigger girl, she loses her childhood and
she has lost the joy of advancing when SHE wants to.
For one thing, it's not a smooth transition. It will be jumpy and choppy.
If you baby her and let her be little, she will WANT to be bigger sooner than
if you just press for "bigness," I think.
Sandra