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In a message dated 1/30/03 6:35:08 AM Eastern Standard Time,
fetteroll@... writes:

> Have him come here and tell us what his fears are.
>

Joyce,
Thanks so much for words of wisdom. I have really considered asking him to
read through some messages. As far as him posting here.. I kind of have to
chuckle.. Oh, I KNOW he would do it.. But, if you guys think I am tough to
deal with... he woud be 10 times worse. He would be VERY aggressive,
probably downright disprectful, argumentative, and plain stubborn. Heck,
he's like this with ME, his own mother, Lord knows he aint gonna give
"strangers" the benefit of a doubt. He thinks you guys have brainwashed me
and he resents the hell out of it. I am afraid getting into confrontations
here might even alientate him further from my efforts. I daresay, if he
came on this group, you would be very surprised to know is just turned 16..
Precocious does not even begin to describe him. Now, let me offer a
"disclaimer" .. Landon is a GREAT kid.. Gosh, for most parents of teens,
they would be thrilled to have a kid like him. He does not drink, do drugs,
smoke, .. hes open and honest and has a job. Our relationship is ideal
and I am so proud of him and I trust him completely. Our recent conflicts
are directly because of the homeschooling/unschooling changes we have made in
our lifestyle. This is another situation ( like the bed time with Dh) that
I cant wait out for months to resolve itself. It affects all of us day to
day. He and I DO have private conversations.. but he still cops his
attitude and lets his opinions be known when he sees something going on that
he feels should be handled differently. What he says REALLY affects Anna
because she idolizes him as a big brother and he has a lot of influence over
her. The boys, they just resent him and avoid him because he hurts thier
feelings. Again, another tough quandry

Teresa


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