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In a message dated 1/11/03 8:14:39 PM Eastern Standard Time,
starsuncloud@... writes:
TWO SNIPS ( from different folks)
> The first time I saw a naked male body
> >>was on my wedding night and I was most definitely not frightened

<My mil hadn't been told anything about sex or male parts and had never seen
a
male body before she got married. I had some conversations with her about how

very frightening the first night was and how she wished someone would have
been more open with her.>

My mother was married for the first time at 17. She had never had sex nor
seen a naked man. AND, ( get this, its unbelievable) She STILL hadn't
actually seen a naked man when they divored a few years later.. ?!?!? She
said he insisted on keeping the lights off.. He undressed in the dark, got
into bed, and well, she never really "saw" him naked. He ended up emptying
her her bank account and stealing her car. She lived with her mil for 6 mos
til he came back.. She went back to him.. and in another few mos, he pulled
the same crap.. cept this time, it wasnt long til he got drafted. She had
learned by the 2nd time that he duped her that he was bad news, but she
wouldnt give him a divorce while he was in the service because she recieved
spousal support. ANYWAY. she also didnt sleep with my Dad ( her husband of
37 years) til they got married.

I was a virgin at 17 when I met my husband. We did sleep together after he
proposed to me. I cant say only having sex with the man I married was the
best thing. I have very mixed feelings about it. Being with only one man
has it definite rewards and lends a very special bond.. But, well, it also
leaves a lot of questions and what ifs that we have both had to work through.
I would definitly not condone "sleeping around" casually with multiple
partners.. And, I also wouldnt want my kids to have sex too young. But, I
wouldnt want them to marry someone just so they could have sex with them.

Teresa


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