Alan & Brenda Leonard

1/5/03 22:11:

> That doesn't sound like a goal to me. That sounds like a
> framework. Iow, I would say that a goal would be to help our kids
> find a meaningful place in the adult world as responsbile,
> competent adults. But I don't know if "trusting that they will learn
> what they need" is a goal in the same way. It is a philosophy for
> achieving a goal.

My son is young yet; he's 6. If I think about it, I can already see where
his current interests could turn into a life should he want to go that way.
But so what, at this age. I'm not in the least bit worried about him living
a productive, meaningful life as an adult. What he's into right now could
turn out to be his life's work, or more likely, it'll be a couple of cool
photos in the scrapbook that he looks at when he's an adult doing something
he's not yet even imagined doing.

I think that some people live to work. They LOVE their work, and it is
their life. Other people work to live. It pays the bills and enables them
to do what they want to do in the world. I won't be upset if my son goes
either of those routes. My goal is that he knows himself and likes himself
for who he is. Anything else he needs can be learned when he decides he
needs it.

brenda