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>Where do people, especially strangers, get the idea that it is OK to be
SO RUDE? Do they believe that their comment is somehow going to change
things?

I think that people are just stupid and many don't really understand that
when they make comments about someone's family, it really hurts people's
feelings. I think they put themselves in someone else's position and are
glad they are not in that position. Then they say it outloud without
thinking. Strangers should never say anything negative about someone else's
family. I have a close friend who adopted a beautiful boy and girl from
Korea and she gets insensitive and rude comments sometimes from strangers in
the store. It's hard for me to understand why anyone would make any comments
to someone they don't know. I think some people are just stupid and nosey.

Patti


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Rachel Ann

I think it depends on the comment; I could never do that (have five children
etc.) doesn't bother me; I think it is kind of a praise: I could never
handle that many children without going crazy...similar to, I don't think I
could ever have the guts to parachute out of a plane. Different from: Only
idiots would skydive (meant, not as a tease or something.)

Many people with one or two children realize how difficult it is for them
with *just* the one, and think people who have more and manage not to end
doing a decent job are something special.

As for adopting a child from another race, or marrying a person for another
race, well, as sad as it is that people so divide others, it is part and
parcel, at least today, of such decisions to get questions. Hopefully some
day that will not be true, but as of yet, it is.



-------Original Message-------

From: [email protected]
Date: Friday, December 27, 2002 09:46:00
To: [email protected]
Subject: Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] Rude Comments (was Three year old running
away in cr...

>Where do people, especially strangers, get the idea that it is OK to be
SO RUDE? Do they believe that their comment is somehow going to change
things?

I think that people are just stupid and many don't really understand that
when they make comments about someone's family, it really hurts people's
feelings. I think they put themselves in someone else's position and are
glad they are not in that position. Then they say it outloud without
thinking. Strangers should never say anything negative about someone else's
family. I have a close friend who adopted a beautiful boy and girl from
Korea and she gets insensitive and rude comments sometimes from strangers in

the store. It's hard for me to understand why anyone would make any comments

to someone they don't know. I think some people are just stupid and nosey.

Patti


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In a message dated 12/27/02 7:47:30 AM, HappyMato2@... writes:

<< I think they put themselves in someone else's position and are
glad they are not in that position. Then they say it outloud without
thinking. >>

I'm kinda changing the subject, but that "outloud" comment reminded me of
something Holly has said a few times.

If she wants to make a kind of snide comment, or wants to indicate that an
opening for a snide comment has come and she has refrained, she pauses
quietly, looks surprised and says "Did I say that out loud?" kinda
innocently, having not said anything but just that.

She's a smart aleck sometimes. <g> But she's not mean, and that's nice.

Sandra