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In a message dated 11/23/02 12:57:13 PM, grlynbl@... writes:

<< I know I act differently in an all
adult setting than I do when my kids are around.. >>

Trying to overcome that would be a huge step toward understanding unschooling.

Sandra

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In a message dated 11/23/02 3:06:52 PM Eastern Standard Time,
SandraDodd@... writes:

> << I know I act differently in an all
> adult setting than I do when my kids are around.. >>
>
> Trying to overcome that would be a huge step toward understanding
> unschooling.
>
> Sandra
>

I dont see that as something to overcome. Kids are not "little adults" Of
course as my children get older, I show much less restraint concerning
"adult"topics. At the risk of getting slammed ( which I know is probably
coming), I must say, I think some topics are inappropiate for children to be
exposed to. My husband and I maybe out for dinner and drinks with another
couple, and the conversations turns to sex, or we may discuss an R rated
movie that we have seen recently. I may have a heart to heart talk with a
girlfriend or sister about marital problems. I may discuss concerns for
over my childrens behavior with another mother. My husband and I may
discuss financial or work related problems or here again, sex. I may act
like I aint got no sense when I am playing with my children or in my own home
goofing off and being silly.. But if I am in church, or a meeting, I dont
behave that way. Don't we all adjust our behavior to the situation and
circumstances that we are in?

Teresa


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On Sat, 23 Nov 2002 15:39:43 EST grlynbl@... writes:
> I dont see that as something to overcome. Kids are not "little
adults" Of
> course as my children get older, I show much less restraint
concerning
> "adult"topics. At the risk of getting slammed ( which I know is
> probably coming), I must say, I think some topics are inappropiate
for
> children to be exposed to.

I try to leave that up to the kid.

No, kids aren't little adults, but they're people.

Rain and I have been going out to dinner after Carousel some nights with
the cast. None of the other kids come, probably because the show ends at
11:15 p.m.. There's some risque conversation, lots of discussions lately
about theater politics and zoning, some swearing (and occasionally the
person will then say "oops" and cover her ears, but it's a joke). She
listens a lot and talks some, and she also always sits next to the 22 yr
old who plays her oldest brother and enjoys goofing with her.

We do adjust our behavior for different situations, but having kids
around doesn't tend to define the situation.

Dar