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My son, soon to be 8, just plainly doesn't want to leave the house much. He
doesn't care if we go anywhere, he doesn't care if he plays outside, he is
such a homebody. When he is in social situations he choses to be in he does
great, every friends house that he has ever gone over to say he is a lovely
child, should I worry about how social he is or allow him to be a hermit if
that is what he wants? I'm new to this and I guess this is on of the areas
that concerns me.

thanks

Heidi

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In a message dated 11/7/2002 4:06:28 PM Eastern Standard Time,
hmsclmyboy@... writes:


> My son, soon to be 8, just plainly doesn't want to leave the house much.

My son age 5 is very much like this. When we go places, he can only take 2
hours or so of being gone before he starts asking if we can go home. Like
your son, he plays well in groups and with friends but he just prefers home.
My thought is just that this is his personality.
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Mary Bianco

>From: hmsclmyboy@...

<<When he is in social situations he choses to be in he does great, every
friends house that he has ever gone over to say he is a lovely
child, should I worry about how social he is or allow him to be a hermit if
that is what he wants? I'm new to this and I guess this is on of the areas
that concerns me.>>


Well he sounds like he's doing just fine to me. Obviously not a hermit as
you said he does fine in social situations of his choosing and also when he
goes over friends homes. It looks like he's happy with his choices and maybe
you think he should be more outgoing. I use to worry about my kids like that
too. Only because you hear so much crap about homeschoolers being shoved in
the house all day. My kids are happy with spending a lot of time at home.
They actually miss it when we have a busy week. I'm open to the idea that it
may change as they get older, but for now, they know what they want. Sounds
like your son does too.

Mary B


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My never want to go anywhere, speak to anyone but family child now routinely stays (overnight sometimes) at a friends house, is is cheerfully anticipating a week long stay with Bubby and Zayde (grandma and grandpa) come March or April....

It does change. And, fwiw, I think by allowing the child to develop their own schedule, they are bette able to go out and face the world, and less likely to have social anxiety as an adult...just my supposition...

be well
Rachel Ann, sociophobe...
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>From: hmsclmyboy@...

<<When he is in social situations he choses to be in he does great, every
friends house that he has ever gone over to say he is a lovely
child, should I worry about how social he is or allow him to be a hermit if
that is what he wants? I'm new to this and I guess this is on of the areas
that concerns me.>>


Well he sounds like he's doing just fine to me. Obviously not a hermit as
you said he does fine in social situations of his choosing and also when he
goes over friends homes. It looks like he's happy with his choices and maybe
you think he should be more outgoing. I use to worry about my kids like that
too. Only because you hear so much crap about homeschoolers being shoved in
the house all day. My kids are happy with spending a lot of time at home.
They actually miss it when we have a busy week. I'm open to the idea that it
may change as they get older, but for now, they know what they want. Sounds
like your son does too.

Mary B


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Christine ONeal

Hi, I'm new, but wanted to weigh in on this. I've always been this way, as a kid and as an adult. I would rather be at my house. I'm social, but I want people to come to my house. Even as a kid I made my friends sleep over at my house, I had no desire to sleep over at their houses. I would encourage your son to have friends over as much as he wants.
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amycats2@... wrote:In a message dated 11/7/2002 4:06:28 PM Eastern Standard Time,
hmsclmyboy@... writes:


> My son, soon to be 8, just plainly doesn't want to leave the house much.

My son age 5 is very much like this. When we go places, he can only take 2
hours or so of being gone before he starts asking if we can go home. Like
your son, he plays well in groups and with friends but he just prefers home.
My thought is just that this is his personality.
Amy Kagey
Christmas gifts:
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kayb85

My 5 year old son is also like this. He loves to be home, and too
much activity that requires him to leave the house very often
stresses him out.

My 9 year old daughter also loves sleepovers but likes them in our
house.

Sheila

--- In Unschooling-dotcom@y..., Christine ONeal
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>
> Hi, I'm new, but wanted to weigh in on this. I've always been this
way, as a kid and as an adult. I would rather be at my house. I'm
social, but I want people to come to my house. Even as a kid I made
my friends sleep over at my house, I had no desire to sleep over at
their houses. I would encourage your son to have friends over as
much as he wants.
> Christy
> I'll do the proper intro thing in a bit.
> amycats2@a... wrote:In a message dated 11/7/2002 4:06:28 PM
Eastern Standard Time,
> hmsclmyboy@a... writes:
>
>
> > My son, soon to be 8, just plainly doesn't want to leave the
house much.
>
> My son age 5 is very much like this. When we go places, he can only
take 2
> hours or so of being gone before he starts asking if we can go
home. Like
> your son, he plays well in groups and with friends but he just
prefers home.
> My thought is just that this is his personality.
> Amy Kagey
> Christmas gifts:
> <A HREF="http://www.ubah.com/ecommerce/default.asp?
sid=Z0939&gid=462366"> </A>U<A
HREF="http://www.ubah.com/ecommerce/default.asp?
sid=Z0939&gid=462366">sborne Books Online Catalog</A>
> and
> <A
HREF="http://hometown.aol.com/amycats2/myhomepage/business.html">Santa
Letters for Your Child!</A>
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