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Okay All,

I can be pretty level headed to a point. It's that point when it get on your
nerves and I start having issues!

Okay, I have this 1 neighbor that has homeschooling issues....he's not for it
or believes in it....

So, they other day he asks my kids again don't they get bored? Do they have
any friends? Do you know any neighborhood kids (mine you that my kids
associate with the neighborhood kids & adults) and do they they think that
they would have more friends if they went to school?

These are among the many constant questions and these questions are repeated
all the time even though they are answered. It's like how many times do you
have to answer the darn question. It's like maybe he is hoping that 1 of
those times, he would get the answer that he is looking for once they change
the answer.

It's just plain driving me nuts!!!!!!!

A.K.


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Betsy

**So, they other day he asks my kids again don't they get bored? Do they
have any friends? Do you know any neighborhood kids (mine you that my
kids
associate with the neighborhood kids & adults) and do they they think
that
they would have more friends if they went to school?**

Cheer up, his kids are probably asking him "Daddy, why do WE HAFTA go to
school?" I'm sure he's struggling to come up with good answers. That
may be why he is rehearsing some of them with you.

Betsy

Mary Bianco

Okay you used the words "constant" and "all the time" in your post. As far
as I'm concerned, that's harrassment. If the guy was concerned or wanted
information, there are other ways to go about it. I don't like people
messing with my kids. But, look at your kids and see if it bothers them. If
it does I would take action. Depending on the age of your children and what
they are comfortable with. Like coming up with some kind of quick not smart
ass remark or approaching the neighbor myself.

I've commented to my relatives about grilling my children on certain things.
Only when I saw it bothered them and they were too young to answer anything
but what the questons were.

I may get some flack for being a hard ass but I don't like people messing
with my kids. (ooh, I said that already!)

Mary B

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Why not send him a letter asking him not to address the issue at all with the
children when you are not there?
When you are just say, where all doing fine thank you or MYOB or whatever.
There is a point when people get too involved with things that aren't any of
their business and they need to have that pointed out.
Elissa


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In a message dated 10/30/02 9:27:22 PM, mummyone24@... writes:

<< Okay you used the words "constant" and "all the time" in your post. As far
as I'm concerned, that's harrassment. >>

Maybe it's just one of those kind of canned conversations, though. When the
kids are in school people say "How are your kids liking school this year?"
and the parents tell a story or two about sports or a play or who knows what.

Maybe he just can't think of something to converse about and has a little
list of boring questions.

Holly complains that the next door neighbor kid asks her the very same
questions every single time they play (which is rare, partly because of that).

"Do you still do homeschool?"
but that's progress from when she used to just say "Where do you go to
school?"

Poor children!!!!! Nothing to discuss but school. Yuck.

Sandra

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In a message dated 10/30/02 7:52:33 PM Central Standard Time,
lurningathome@... writes:

> These are among the many constant questions and these questions are
repeated
> all the time even though they are answered.

I'm teaching my kids that quizzing is a two way street. So far they've just
been tested to see if they know anything. (My brother once expressed in
amazement that he couldn't believe the state wouldn't step in if I ended up
raising a bunch of idiots.) You know, like what color is your boot? Do you
know how many fingers I'm holding up? After a while my kids say "Ok, MY
turn. Why is the blade of the grader in the middle instead of the front of
the machine?" (Or some other burning question. Shuts folks right up.
Sometimes I remind them to take turns with questions.

It might help in your situation. Neighbor: don't you get bored at home? do
you have any friends? can you read? kids: MY turn! How often do you leave
your house? can you fix your own toilet? what did you have for dinner last
tuesday?

Just a suggestion...

Elizabeth

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In a message dated 10/31/2002 1:58:41 PM Eastern Standard Time,
ejcrewe@... writes:


> Sometimes I remind them to take turns with questions.
>
> It might help in your situation. Neighbor: don't you get bored at home?
> do
> you have any friends? can you read? kids: MY turn! How often do you
> leave
> your house? can you fix your own toilet? what did you have for dinner
> last
> tuesday?
>

I loved this, Elizabeth. My son (5) spent the day with my dad and when my dad
brought him about 20 minutes ago, my father said (with a slightly concerned
air) "Amy, he doesn't know where we get milk from. I asked him and he said "I
don't know." I told my dad that I know that he does so know where milk comes
from; he was just saying that he didn't know 'cause he didn't feel like
answering, which is common for him. It made me wonder if he was being quizzed
during his visit.
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Tia Leschke

> So, they other day he asks my kids again don't they get bored? Do they
have
> any friends? Do you know any neighborhood kids (mine you that my kids
> associate with the neighborhood kids & adults) and do they they think that
> they would have more friends if they went to school?
>
> These are among the many constant questions and these questions are
repeated
> all the time even though they are answered. It's like how many times do
you
> have to answer the darn question. It's like maybe he is hoping that 1 of
> those times, he would get the answer that he is looking for once they
change
> the answer.

Tell the kids to just tell him that they answered that question the last ten
times he asked it.
Tia

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In a message dated 10/31/02 12:07:27 PM, amycats2@... writes:

<< "Amy, he doesn't know where we get milk from. I asked him and he said "I
don't know." I told my dad that I know that he does so know where milk comes
from; he was just saying that he didn't know 'cause he didn't feel like
answering, which is common for him. It made me wonder if he was being quizzed
during his visit. >>

Maybe you could say in future instances, "Well if YOU knew where milk came
from why were you asking him?"


And if the person looks totally surprised say, "We don't test our kids, I
don't appreciate you doing it either."

Sandra

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In a message dated 10/31/2002 3:10:13 PM Eastern Standard Time,
SandraDodd@... writes:


> And if the person looks totally surprised say, "We don't test our kids, I
> don't appreciate you doing it either."
>
>

Yeah, I was considering doing that. My dad has just started to come around to
the idea of homeschooling (haven't mentioned unschooling yet!)
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In a message dated 10/31/02 2:12:33 PM Central Standard Time,
SandraDodd@... writes:

> Maybe you could say in future instances, "Well if YOU knew where milk came
> from why were you asking him?"
>
>
> And if the person looks totally surprised say, "We don't test our kids, I
> don't appreciate you doing it either."
>
Exactly! When I get more questions after my kids take their turns, I just
say "I've never met anyone who enjoyed a pop quiz."

If my father had better hearing ( or wore his hearing aids more often) we
would surely get more quizzes. He's an emeritus high energy nuclear
physicist, though, so he's sure to get a LOT of questions thrown his way
pretty soon!

Elizabeth