Julie Stauffer

<<I know a little girl who thought like that. She ended up being sexually
active at a young age>>

I was, am a girl/woman who thinks like that. I had sex at 19 and have only
slept with 2 men. I really don't think you can blame every thing a kid does
or doesn't do on "the parents". The kid isn't some blank slate that simply
reacts to what goes on outside of him/her. Kids think, feel and often act
from their *own* souls.

Julie

Mary Bianco

>From: "Julie Stauffer" <jnjstau@...>

<<I was, am a girl/woman who thinks like that. I had sex at 19 and have
only slept with 2 men. I really don't think you can blame every thing a kid
does or doesn't do on "the parents". The kid isn't some blank slate that
simply reacts to what goes on outside of him/her. Kids think, feel and
often act from their *own* souls.>>


To be perfectly honest, I'm not real sure what I think about that. There was
a time when I felt like there were just bad kids and no matter how loving
and nurturing and "right" parents were, some kids just went bad on their
own. Now I'm more on the side of yes, each one of us has our own way about
us but there is something that we as parents can do to make situations
better or worse. I certainly don't expect any kid to be perfect and make no
mistakes, no matter how good a parent is. But I'm thinking that how kids do
turn out may have a very big part in how we parent. Not 100 % sure on this
though.

Mary B


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Deborah Lewis

***But I'm thinking that how kids do turn out may have a very big part in
how we parent.***

Well I know I've enjoyed blaming my parents all these years and I don't
intend to stop now!!<G>

Deb L

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In a message dated 10/29/02 1:21:24 PM, mummyone24@... writes:

<< I certainly don't expect any kid to be perfect and make no
mistakes, no matter how good a parent is. But I'm thinking that how kids do
turn out may have a very big part in how we parent. >>

There ARE definitely genetic factors, and factors still being discovered
about pre-natal conditions.

Sex shouldn't always be automatically considered "a mistake," I don't think.

Sandra

Mary Bianco

>From: SandraDodd@...

<<There ARE definitely genetic factors, and factors still being discovered
about pre-natal conditions.

Sex shouldn't always be automatically considered "a mistake," I don't
think.>>


Clarifying: I agree with the genetic part and all. And the mistakes I was
referring to was just to mean in general. Not meaning sex was a mistake,
although it could be at times. Just general I'm not perfect stuff.

Mary B




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