question about self regulating
Amie
Ok, I am pretty new to this, but I am wondering about what happens if your 5 year old says he is really interested in a rated R movie, or what if he said he wanted a new video game called Hitman or something like this? Or even how do you all explain some of these nasty things to young kids?
My kids pretty much do whatever they feel the need for. But, when it comes to junk food and tv/movies, I get all anxious and feel horrible about some of the stuff out there.
One of my five year olds is really into movies right now. He looks at the paper everyday to see what is there. And he wants to know about them. I am just not comfortable explaining a violent piece of trash movie. Or, he sees a movie at the video store, and is really curious about it. Again, a really violent nasty movie. I think he is really trying to figure out the rating system. I really don't feel good about them seeing images that to me seem like to much for even an adult. I think I am alittle scared about some things because I saw scary movies years ago. I really worry about images they see, and also the ads.
I really do want them to be able to pick and choose what they want and don't want. But, I feel like the media tries their hardest to capture kids interest, but at what cost to them?
Alot of my questions are hypothetical questions, I have been thinking about this alot lately. My kids are 5 year old boys.
Rambling,
Amie
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My kids pretty much do whatever they feel the need for. But, when it comes to junk food and tv/movies, I get all anxious and feel horrible about some of the stuff out there.
One of my five year olds is really into movies right now. He looks at the paper everyday to see what is there. And he wants to know about them. I am just not comfortable explaining a violent piece of trash movie. Or, he sees a movie at the video store, and is really curious about it. Again, a really violent nasty movie. I think he is really trying to figure out the rating system. I really don't feel good about them seeing images that to me seem like to much for even an adult. I think I am alittle scared about some things because I saw scary movies years ago. I really worry about images they see, and also the ads.
I really do want them to be able to pick and choose what they want and don't want. But, I feel like the media tries their hardest to capture kids interest, but at what cost to them?
Alot of my questions are hypothetical questions, I have been thinking about this alot lately. My kids are 5 year old boys.
Rambling,
Amie
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kayb85
Well, what I do first is ask myself if what he wants really is trash.
Sometimes if I consider things with an open mind I realize they're
not that bad after all. Sometimes I'll figure that a movie is bad
for kids to watch alone but ok if a parent is sitting beside him
discussing it with him. Sometimes I'll tell him that it's trash and
why (at his level). Sometimes you need to have violence to be
realistic--like in a war movie. I don't usually end up having a
problem with violence on movies except that my 9 year old is very
sensitive to it and gets upset by it easily.
There is also a website somewhere that you can order movies and tell
them which scenes to edit out. I'm sorry I can't tell you where it
is, but if you're interested I'm sure you'd be able to find it.
Sheila
Sometimes if I consider things with an open mind I realize they're
not that bad after all. Sometimes I'll figure that a movie is bad
for kids to watch alone but ok if a parent is sitting beside him
discussing it with him. Sometimes I'll tell him that it's trash and
why (at his level). Sometimes you need to have violence to be
realistic--like in a war movie. I don't usually end up having a
problem with violence on movies except that my 9 year old is very
sensitive to it and gets upset by it easily.
There is also a website somewhere that you can order movies and tell
them which scenes to edit out. I'm sorry I can't tell you where it
is, but if you're interested I'm sure you'd be able to find it.
Sheila
--- In Unschooling-dotcom@y..., "Amie" <tcee1@f...> wrote:
> Ok, I am pretty new to this, but I am wondering about what happens
if your 5 year old says he is really interested in a rated R movie,
or what if he said he wanted a new video game called Hitman or
something like this? Or even how do you all explain some of these
nasty things to young kids?
> My kids pretty much do whatever they feel the need for. But, when
it comes to junk food and tv/movies, I get all anxious and feel
horrible about some of the stuff out there.
>
> One of my five year olds is really into movies right now. He looks
at the paper everyday to see what is there. And he wants to know
about them. I am just not comfortable explaining a violent piece of
trash movie. Or, he sees a movie at the video store, and is really
curious about it. Again, a really violent nasty movie. I think he is
really trying to figure out the rating system. I really don't feel
good about them seeing images that to me seem like to much for even
an adult. I think I am alittle scared about some things because I saw
scary movies years ago. I really worry about images they see, and
also the ads.
> I really do want them to be able to pick and choose what they want
and don't want. But, I feel like the media tries their hardest to
capture kids interest, but at what cost to them?
>
> Alot of my questions are hypothetical questions, I have been
thinking about this alot lately. My kids are 5 year old boys.
>
> Rambling,
> Amie
>
>
> [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
Fetteroll
on 10/26/02 2:57 AM, Amie at tcee1@... wrote:
decisions rather than protecting them from what you think might harm them it
might help?
So rather than thinking in terms of telling them no, it will do such and
such to you, give them the information they need to make the decision for
themselves. And then make sure they know it's okay to decide they don't want
to finish the movie at any point.
Joyce
> I really do want them to be able to pick and choose what they want and don'tMaybe if you try looking at the situation as helping them make informed
> want. But, I feel like the media tries their hardest to capture kids
> interest, but at what cost to them?
decisions rather than protecting them from what you think might harm them it
might help?
So rather than thinking in terms of telling them no, it will do such and
such to you, give them the information they need to make the decision for
themselves. And then make sure they know it's okay to decide they don't want
to finish the movie at any point.
Joyce
the_clevengers
--- In Unschooling-dotcom@y..., "Amie" <tcee1@f...> wrote:
with my kids why I think some things might not be what they'd like to
see, or that it might be too scary, or whatever. Sometimes we find
creative ways to make it work.
For instance, both of my kids really, really wanted to see Lord of
the Rings. We didn't take them to it in the theatre (thank God,
because it was so scary on the big screen that my DH had
nightmares!). But after it came out on DVD, we rented it and I had
the kids tell me whenever they were scared and I would fast-forward
through to the next non-scary part. By the third time they watched
it, they did view a few more parts than the first time because they
had gotten used to the story line, but there were still parts that
neither of them wanted to see. This was a good way for us to watch a
movie that was mostly really great for them, but some parts were just
too much.
Blue Skies,
-Robin-
>Well, there's all sorts of different approaches. I like to discuss
> My kids pretty much do whatever they feel the need for. But, when
> it comes to junk food and tv/movies, I get all anxious and feel
> horrible about some of the stuff out there.
with my kids why I think some things might not be what they'd like to
see, or that it might be too scary, or whatever. Sometimes we find
creative ways to make it work.
For instance, both of my kids really, really wanted to see Lord of
the Rings. We didn't take them to it in the theatre (thank God,
because it was so scary on the big screen that my DH had
nightmares!). But after it came out on DVD, we rented it and I had
the kids tell me whenever they were scared and I would fast-forward
through to the next non-scary part. By the third time they watched
it, they did view a few more parts than the first time because they
had gotten used to the story line, but there were still parts that
neither of them wanted to see. This was a good way for us to watch a
movie that was mostly really great for them, but some parts were just
too much.
Blue Skies,
-Robin-