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Well, in the middle of our first week my daughter came up with this one
today......

I asked, "Could you help my out and empty the dishwasher (she is 15).
I was prepared for the no I don't feel like it or don't want to.
She says "I don't have to you'll do anything I don't want to do so why should
I."

I wasnt ready for that one.

I told her she was right she didn't have to do it, but later when she wanted
me to do something for her I may be emptying the dish washer and she would
have to wait till I finished before I could take her to the mall or what
ever.

Her thinking was that at anytime I should drop everything for her (yes she
has a brother I help out too.) when she want that moment. I tried to explain
that I needed to get certain things done around the house before I felt good
about leaving and if she helped it would be sooner if not I would do take her
when I finished.

then later that day she expected her brother to get off the tv so she could
watch a show. I told she could ask him but not demand that he get off, he
was there and when he finished she could have the tv.

it seems we are just starting and everything for her is me me me, is this
normal. My 7 year old is easing into this much better.

Heidi

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<<it seems we are just starting and everything for her is me me me, is
this
normal. My 7 year old is easing into this much better.

Heidi>>

I'm not sure that it ever goes completely away. Lanora still asks for
things that mean someone else has to give up what they are doing. I just
tell her she can ask but it doesn't mean they have to comply and that I
think it would be good to think about what she's asking from the other
person.

Amazingly enough, Jonathan will comply sometimes, no matter unreasonable
I think she's being. Maybe he knows something I don't.

Kris

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Fetteroll

on 10/23/02 10:07 PM, hmsclmyboy@... at hmsclmyboy@... wrote:

> Her thinking was that at anytime I should drop everything for her (yes she
> has a brother I help out too.) when she want that moment.

It can be part of teenage thinking. If she didn't express it before, I
suspect she was still thinking it.

I remember thinking that way. It was like the rest of the world didn't have
needs. Everyone was just doing what they wanted. I was the only one with
needs and was baffled why the world couldn't understand that and tend to
them ;-)

Joyce