Pam Sorooshian

I think you'll improve things by leaving her alone more.

Even really nice positive comments are felt as "pressure," by most people.

Try reading "The Explosive Child," the ideas in there might be really
useful to you.

I can tell you I've been there - done that - and, speaking from experience
(my oldest is about to turn 18) - the greatest gift you can give your
daughter may be to back off - don't coach her and don't observe her. Treat
ALL her activities the way you'd treat it if she was "just" playing with
dolls or something.

At 02:44 AM 10/19/2002 +0000, you wrote:
> When she's
> > practicing, I continually tell her how well she's doing (even when it
> > isn't perfect!)

Pam Sorooshian
National Home Education Network
www.NHEN.org
Changing the Way the World Sees Homeschooling

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luv2unskool

Thank you, Pam, I will get the book. I have considered purchasing
the book before, but not sure why I didn't follow through. Thank you
for your kind, supportive post. :)

--- In Unschooling-dotcom@y..., Pam Sorooshian <pamsoroosh@e...>
wrote:
> I think you'll improve things by leaving her alone more.
>
> Even really nice positive comments are felt as "pressure," by most
people.
>
> Try reading "The Explosive Child," the ideas in there might be
really
> useful to you.
>
> I can tell you I've been there - done that - and, speaking from
experience
> (my oldest is about to turn 18) - the greatest gift you can give
your
> daughter may be to back off - don't coach her and don't observe
her. Treat
> ALL her activities the way you'd treat it if she was "just" playing
with
> dolls or something.
>
> At 02:44 AM 10/19/2002 +0000, you wrote:
> > When she's
> > > practicing, I continually tell her how well she's doing (even
when it
> > > isn't perfect!)
>
> Pam Sorooshian
> National Home Education Network
> www.NHEN.org
> Changing the Way the World Sees Homeschooling
>
> [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]

Tia Leschke

----- Original Message -----
From: luv2unskool <cmr0523@...>
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Sent: Saturday, October 19, 2002 6:57 AM
Subject: [Unschooling-dotcom] Re: Digest Number 2503


> Thank you, Pam, I will get the book. I have considered purchasing
> the book before, but not sure why I didn't follow through. Thank you
> for your kind, supportive post. :)

My library has that one. Maybe yours does. Then you can see whether it's
going to help before shelling out the money.
Tia
ps My daughter found it really helpful with her daughter.