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Hi to all. Speaking of breastfeeding I breastfed all of my kids - 6 -
for various lengths of time. The last child I breastfed for 5 years. My
husband and other kids wanted me to stop so I did.
Four of my kids still live at home and we have two teenaged girls living
with us - so it is 6 again. A week ago a 16 year old - "B" = came to us.
She knew one of my daughters. She told me her mom keeps telling her she
doesn't want her. They have arguements often. In a way it sounds like
the typical teen years. She was adopted at 6 months so these are the
only parents she knows. She is black and they are not. She has a strong,
dominant personality. She is loud. We are usually fairly quiet. I put
together a contract and she signed it. She promptly broke it. It was
about curfew. The 5 eldest went out last night. "B" was confronted by
another teen girl and this girls boyfriend called "B" the "n" word. "B"
Took the girl down after the girl pulled her hair extensions and slapped
her face. This scenario has been building up since the other girl "L"
came to live us. This same girl who hit "B" has had it out for "L" (who
happens to be a Ford model) because whe asked if the girls boyfriend
would buy her a sandwich in a flirtatous manner. The girl was so jealous
that she began a crusade to get "L"- the scanky "b" word. What drama!
Any way there was a football game in our town and they all went and
ended up in the fight in one way or another. The police were called. One
woman who knew little - if at all - said "the black girl started it." I
hope the energy has dissapated from the situation now. The police said
there is no harassment law in Vermont. They lie so often I am not sure
if there is or not.Everyone was told to break it up. That was about it.
My 14 year old son feels the need to defend his sisters and any other
female. He told the 6 foot - very large guy - in a loud way to never
call "B" an "n" name again. The poor kid has been called a "little man"
3 times this summer by 3 other guys he has told to leave his sisters
alone. At this point we could write a play... My son has the personality
of a bull moose in heat at times.:) We talked it all out. I met with
"B's" parents. They said they have been in family counseling. The father
seems to protect his daughter (like my son) and the mother seems a bit
angry and says her daughter feels she can do nothing wrong. I am not
getting in the middle of that. They thanked us for offering her a safe
place to live. She seems to prefer male company. She gets along with her
father, grandfather and has a male best friend. She is listening to me
so far. Someone asked "why are you putting this upon yourself?" It
seemed like the thing to do at the time. The parents are grateful and
the kids are as safe as they choose to be. They are 21, 17 (almost 18),
17, 16, and 14. Michele



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