Virginia Chiasson

Good morning all;
First, thank you all for your responses, both public and private to
my last post. Now that I have decided to keep Chris home, his school
principal sent DSS to my doorstep bright and early Friday morning. I am
being "investigated" for abuse and neglect. They state his abscences(four
doctors visits with notes, a three day suspension at their hands, one day
where he had a doctors appointment but his doctor was having an emergency
tonsilectomy and one day he missed the bus), the fact that I could not get
his meds for a week(thus I was denying him medical attention), and he
supposedly came to school "dirty" twice as proof or suspicion that I am
guilty of neglect.

To make matters worse, they called the investigator in just as soon as
I left their evaluation meeting on Friday and the investigator "interviewed"
my son for about an hour. I did not know this until he told me that the
investigator was his "friend" and upon further questioning Chris told me
about their interview in glorious detail. He said the man kept asking if I
spanked him, if Mike spanked him, if anyone had touched him "someplace
bad"... dolls and puppets included.

I know that I am within my rights and that I am not guilty of anything,
but that does not make any of this any easier. The only mention of
homeschooling during his visit here was to say that he could not tell me who
had sent him but that the school considers Chris "high risk" because he
tested behind grade (He could not sit still long enough to finish the tests.
What he did, he scored a perfect 100...no questions missed), needs
medication and they feel that I lack the resources to educate him properly.
Geez... How stupid do I look? He didn't have to draw me a road map.

I'm not whining guys. No matter how thrilled I am to have Chris at home,
I knew in my heart of hearts that this would happen. I have no regrets, I am
just angry about this. And I am scared, I'll admit it. Anyone homeschooling
in SC has at least heard the rumors of it happening to others if it has not
happened to them. This is harrassment dressed up in the guise of concern for
my child's welfare by people who are running scared.

There was an article in the Goose Creek Gazette this week where the
head of the department of children at risk, Phyliss Thornwaite, lamented the
loss of these children into a system that is not well regulated(read: They
cannot control those of us who pick option number three (accountability
organizations) I am now a proud member of PACESC as of this weekend. We
threaten their bottom line.) and they fear that the children cannot be
properly assessed to return to mainstream schooling. HOW ARROGANT? Why would
I want to put my child back into such a toxic environment now that I have
him out of it?

So I guess there's not much left to do but wait, get my ducks in a
row, and enjoy my child despite the enourmous stress that I am under at the
moment. At least I got to enjoy a short moment of unfettered joy with my
child before the war started. Xena Warrior Unschooling Goddess signing off
for now<G> Take Care.

Brightest Blessings,
Virginia

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Oh Virginia, my heart goes out to you. Keep your chin up! I can't believe that agencies actually take the time to torment families like this. It is so ridiculous. If they could only see that usually the children that are neglected or abused are the ones in school. IMO
Can't they see that people who take their kids out of school are the type of parents who are involved in their childrens education and lives.
I will be sending good thoughts to you from up north.
Love, Kelli T
Virginia Chiasson wrote:Good morning all;
First, thank you all for your responses, both public and private to
my last post. Now that I have decided to keep Chris home, his school
principal sent DSS to my doorstep bright and early Friday morning. I am
being "investigated" for abuse and neglect. They state his abscences(four
doctors visits with notes, a three day suspension at their hands, one day
where he had a doctors appointment but his doctor was having an emergency
tonsilectomy and one day he missed the bus), the fact that I could not get
his meds for a week(thus I was denying him medical attention), and he
supposedly came to school "dirty" twice as proof or suspicion that I am
guilty of neglect.

To make matters worse, they called the investigator in just as soon as
I left their evaluation meeting on Friday and the investigator "interviewed"
my son for about an hour. I did not know this until he told me that the
investigator was his "friend" and upon further questioning Chris told me
about their interview in glorious detail. He said the man kept asking if I
spanked him, if Mike spanked him, if anyone had touched him "someplace
bad"... dolls and puppets included.

I know that I am within my rights and that I am not guilty of anything,
but that does not make any of this any easier. The only mention of
homeschooling during his visit here was to say that he could not tell me who
had sent him but that the school considers Chris "high risk" because he
tested behind grade (He could not sit still long enough to finish the tests.
What he did, he scored a perfect 100...no questions missed), needs
medication and they feel that I lack the resources to educate him properly.
Geez... How stupid do I look? He didn't have to draw me a road map.

I'm not whining guys. No matter how thrilled I am to have Chris at home,
I knew in my heart of hearts that this would happen. I have no regrets, I am
just angry about this. And I am scared, I'll admit it. Anyone homeschooling
in SC has at least heard the rumors of it happening to others if it has not
happened to them. This is harrassment dressed up in the guise of concern for
my child's welfare by people who are running scared.

There was an article in the Goose Creek Gazette this week where the
head of the department of children at risk, Phyliss Thornwaite, lamented the
loss of these children into a system that is not well regulated(read: They
cannot control those of us who pick option number three (accountability
organizations) I am now a proud member of PACESC as of this weekend. We
threaten their bottom line.) and they fear that the children cannot be
properly assessed to return to mainstream schooling. HOW ARROGANT? Why would
I want to put my child back into such a toxic environment now that I have
him out of it?

So I guess there's not much left to do but wait, get my ducks in a
row, and enjoy my child despite the enourmous stress that I am under at the
moment. At least I got to enjoy a short moment of unfettered joy with my
child before the war started. Xena Warrior Unschooling Goddess signing off
for now<G> Take Care.

Brightest Blessings,
Virginia

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At 12:43 PM 9/21/02 -0400, you wrote:

>So I guess there's not much left to do but wait, get my ducks in a
>row, and enjoy my child despite the enourmous stress that I am under at the
>moment. At least I got to enjoy a short moment of unfettered joy with my
>child before the war started. Xena Warrior Unschooling Goddess signing off
>for now<G> Take Care.
>
>Brightest Blessings,
> Virginia
==
SO sorry to hear this about DSS, Virginia :( Sending lots of big <<<HUGS>>>
to help deal w/the stress.

Todd

"If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice.
I will choose Free will" -Rush (and Todd)
http://rambleman.tripod.com/index.html

Betsy

**So I guess there's not much left to do but wait, get my ducks in a
row, and enjoy my child despite the enourmous stress that I am under at the
moment. At least I got to enjoy a short moment of unfettered joy with my
child before the war started. Xena Warrior Unschooling Goddess signing off
for now<G> Take Care.**

I like your approach. When dealing with DSS, speak softly and carry a
large sword. <g>

**
There was an article in the Goose Creek Gazette this week where the
head of the department of children at risk, Phyliss Thornwaite, lamented the
loss of these children into a system that is not well regulated(read: They
cannot control those of us who pick option number three (accountability
organizations) I am now a proud member of PACESC as of this weekend. We
threaten their bottom line.) and they fear that the children cannot be
properly assessed to return to mainstream schooling. HOW ARROGANT? Why would
I want to put my child back into such a toxic environment now that I have
him out of it?**

"Accountability" is a word that really pisses me off. It's
bureacrat-speak for "meddling interference". In California, my choices
for governor in Novemember are the incumbent, a Democrat with close
financial ties to the teachers' union or a Republican who says fairly
nice things about homeschooling but uses the dreaded word
"accountability". Not a very inspiring choice.

I hope everything is resolved in your favor very quickly.

Betsy

mabeitzel

Virginia,
You are in my thoughts!! Keep strong, stand your ground and they'll
back off when they've got nothing else to go on....it is ludicrous
that this is happening, but I for one support you!
Blessings,
Michelle



--- In Unschooling-dotcom@y..., Virginia Chiasson
<silverhuntress@c...> wrote:
> Good morning all;
> First, thank you all for your responses, both public and
private to
> my last post. Now that I have decided to keep Chris home, his
school
> principal sent DSS to my doorstep bright and early Friday morning.
I am
> being "investigated" for abuse and neglect. They state his
abscences(four
> doctors visits with notes, a three day suspension at their hands,
one day
> where he had a doctors appointment but his doctor was having an
emergency
> tonsilectomy and one day he missed the bus), the fact that I could
not get
> his meds for a week(thus I was denying him medical attention), and
he
> supposedly came to school "dirty" twice as proof or suspicion that
I am
> guilty of neglect.
>
> To make matters worse, they called the investigator in just
as soon as
> I left their evaluation meeting on Friday and the
investigator "interviewed"
> my son for about an hour. I did not know this until he told me
that the
> investigator was his "friend" and upon further questioning Chris
told me
> about their interview in glorious detail. He said the man kept
asking if I
> spanked him, if Mike spanked him, if anyone had touched
him "someplace
> bad"... dolls and puppets included.
>
> I know that I am within my rights and that I am not guilty of
anything,
> but that does not make any of this any easier. The only mention of
> homeschooling during his visit here was to say that he could not
tell me who
> had sent him but that the school considers Chris "high risk"
because he
> tested behind grade (He could not sit still long enough to finish
the tests.
> What he did, he scored a perfect 100...no questions missed), needs
> medication and they feel that I lack the resources to educate him
properly.
> Geez... How stupid do I look? He didn't have to draw me a road map.
>
> I'm not whining guys. No matter how thrilled I am to have Chris
at home,
> I knew in my heart of hearts that this would happen. I have no
regrets, I am
> just angry about this. And I am scared, I'll admit it. Anyone
homeschooling
> in SC has at least heard the rumors of it happening to others if
it has not
> happened to them. This is harrassment dressed up in the guise of
concern for
> my child's welfare by people who are running scared.
>
> There was an article in the Goose Creek Gazette this week
where the
> head of the department of children at risk, Phyliss Thornwaite,
lamented the
> loss of these children into a system that is not well regulated
(read: They
> cannot control those of us who pick option number three
(accountability
> organizations) I am now a proud member of PACESC as of this
weekend. We
> threaten their bottom line.) and they fear that the children
cannot be
> properly assessed to return to mainstream schooling. HOW ARROGANT?
Why would
> I want to put my child back into such a toxic environment now that
I have
> him out of it?
>
> So I guess there's not much left to do but wait, get my
ducks in a
> row, and enjoy my child despite the enourmous stress that I am
under at the
> moment. At least I got to enjoy a short moment of unfettered joy
with my
> child before the war started. Xena Warrior Unschooling Goddess
signing off
> for now<G> Take Care.
>
> Brightest Blessings,
> Virginia
>
> "Religion is what you do so that others will think well of you.
Spirituality
> is what you do so you will think well of yourself." - Silver Nolan
>
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Liza Sabater

>At least I got to enjoy a short moment of unfettered joy with my
>child before the war started. Xena Warrior Unschooling Goddess signing off
>for now<G> Take Care.

Virginia,

What state are you in? I am part of the NHEN-Legislative list and I
really think that you should be pointed to the proper support groups
in your area IF NOT the proper lawyer. You have to get these people
to stop harassing you --yes, this is harassment.

So please, let me know because I will help you to the best of my
abilities to get these bastards out of your family's way.

Best,
Liza

Virginia Chiasson

> Virginia --
>
> As much as I admire your gumption - I, personally, would not have ANY
actual
> conversation or contact with DSS unless I had an experienced attorney on
my
> side.

Hi Pam...

Unfortunately, DSS showed up on my doorstep at 8:30 am. We had all slept in
as planned. I was on the phone with the social worker who the school sent
out to "investigate" me a few weeks ago(She called me at 7:30). Mike was
waking up and Chris had been up about twenty minutes. He was watching
Nickeloden. When he heard a car drive up, Chris thought it was my sister in
law. Then he saw the worker, who he already knew. Chris let him in. He was a
"friend" as far as Chris was concerned because he had spent so much time
with the guy the day before. The principal told him that the investigator
was there to "protect" him. Can you believe that? An attorney at that point
was not exactly an option. As you might imagine, we have had a long talk
with Chris about opening doors to people.<G>



If you don't know anybody - ask your state homeschooling organization
> or you can call the trial lawyers association for your state. Ask your
state
> organization for material to provide to your attorney to bring him/her up
to
> speed on your state's homeschooling law.

I am just now begining to know where to start with all this. I have print
outs of the law in my state, in case I need them (which I probably will). At
the moment, a lawyer is out of the realm of my financial abilty. To get a
pro se lawyer in SC, you have to be on a waiting list and it basically has
to be an easy case, from what they told me when I called a few weeks ago,
when the first investigator showed up. But they put me on the waiting list.
It could be months before I hear back from them. Right now we are waiting to
exhale. Mike is applying for social security (He was elcectrocuted on the
job in 1999 by a waffle baker at the Waffle House). If it comes through the
back pay he is owed will be more than enough to pay for a decent lawyer.

DSS has way too much power - far beyond we would normally think is
possible - it is risky to try to face them
> down on your own. You may not need anything except a phone call or a
letter
> from your lawyer -- but you never know.

I hope all I will need is a phone call or a letter. This is my second trip
down this road and my want to homeschool my child was just as big a part of
it then as it is now. I know how risky this is. Unfortunately, so does my
son. We used to whisper in our house until after 3:30pm everyday. That is
when DSS stops sending out people to investigate. We spent our weekends
cleaning house. He had nightmares about being taken away. The school allowed
him to let DSS interview him on three seperate occasions the last time. I
did not know that they can't do that then. Chris had a nightmare last night.
It will be the last one he has and I really do not care who I have to piss
off, mow over or knock out of my way to get all of this to stop.


> They've already interviewed your son without your permission and you've
had
> them at your door. You don't say if you let them in and talked to them at
> that time or what they say the next step is going to be

Mike showed them in, answered all their questions in a manner that I would
call intimidating as hell. Mike is a big guy who looks like Santa Claus
crossed with a Hell's Angel. The investigator was this little wet behind the
ears, just out of school kid who was probably just following orders. I told
him that I had been through this before and that I KNEW he could only make
one more "drop in" visit during the next 45 days. I told him I KNEW that,
when he returned, if he found nothing to substaniate their allegations he
HAD TO, BY LAW, drop the investigation and I had to be sent a letter giving
the dispensation of the investigation. I did not know any of this the first
time. That is how they got away with so much of this BS the first time.

The next step? I mowed my lawn, cleaned my house and washed the rest of the
clothes (Actually Mike did most of it while I read, wrote emails and worked
with Chris.) We are not doing anything wrong and all of the things they are
accusing me are out right lies. Unless DSS in SC honestly wants to be in
court with me accusing them of harrassment, falsification of records, libel,
slander (which ever one applies in this case) and anything else I can get a
righteously indignant lawyer with a heart of gold to come up with, unless
they honestly want all the local news media splashed with the image of a
disabled mom and her beautiful, bright, well taken care of child pleading
for the understanding and sympathy of other parents in the area... I really
think that if these people are smart enough to trump up charges and make my
life hell then they have to be smart enough to figure that I will turn the
tables on them eventually. And God help them if I do because it is going to
get nasty. I am sick of running scared.

--- but if you think
> there is going to be ANY next step, I know that I would want an attorney.
If
> DSS didn't tell you that they were dropping the case, then I think you
need
> one now.

I agree with you. I am furious but not dense <GGG>. I am just trying to
figure out how to pay for one.

Brightest Blessings,
Virginia

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Virginia Chiasson

> What state are you in?
South Carolina

I am part of the NHEN-Legislative list and I really think that you should
be pointed to the proper support groups
> in your area IF NOT the proper lawyer. You have to get these people to
stop harassing you --yes, this is harassment.

I get the newsletter though I have not posted anything yet. I seem to read
more than I sleep lately.

> So please, let me know because I will help you to the best of my
abilities to get these bastards out of your family's way.

Thank you , Liza. I appreciate it.

Brightest Blessings,
Virginia

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linda salb

im sorry you had those problems. join the homeschooling legal defense fund. i am a homeschool vet......12 yrs.......i wish you luck and peace..............blackwolf
Virginia Chiasson wrote:
> Virginia --
>
> As much as I admire your gumption - I, personally, would not have ANY
actual
> conversation or contact with DSS unless I had an experienced attorney on
my
> side.

Hi Pam...

Unfortunately, DSS showed up on my doorstep at 8:30 am. We had all slept in
as planned. I was on the phone with the social worker who the school sent
out to "investigate" me a few weeks ago(She called me at 7:30). Mike was
waking up and Chris had been up about twenty minutes. He was watching
Nickeloden. When he heard a car drive up, Chris thought it was my sister in
law. Then he saw the worker, who he already knew. Chris let him in. He was a
"friend" as far as Chris was concerned because he had spent so much time
with the guy the day before. The principal told him that the investigator
was there to "protect" him. Can you believe that? An attorney at that point
was not exactly an option. As you might imagine, we have had a long talk
with Chris about opening doors to people.<G>



If you don't know anybody - ask your state homeschooling organization
> or you can call the trial lawyers association for your state. Ask your
state
> organization for material to provide to your attorney to bring him/her up
to
> speed on your state's homeschooling law.

I am just now begining to know where to start with all this. I have print
outs of the law in my state, in case I need them (which I probably will). At
the moment, a lawyer is out of the realm of my financial abilty. To get a
pro se lawyer in SC, you have to be on a waiting list and it basically has
to be an easy case, from what they told me when I called a few weeks ago,
when the first investigator showed up. But they put me on the waiting list.
It could be months before I hear back from them. Right now we are waiting to
exhale. Mike is applying for social security (He was elcectrocuted on the
job in 1999 by a waffle baker at the Waffle House). If it comes through the
back pay he is owed will be more than enough to pay for a decent lawyer.

DSS has way too much power - far beyond we would normally think is
possible - it is risky to try to face them
> down on your own. You may not need anything except a phone call or a
letter
> from your lawyer -- but you never know.

I hope all I will need is a phone call or a letter. This is my second trip
down this road and my want to homeschool my child was just as big a part of
it then as it is now. I know how risky this is. Unfortunately, so does my
son. We used to whisper in our house until after 3:30pm everyday. That is
when DSS stops sending out people to investigate. We spent our weekends
cleaning house. He had nightmares about being taken away. The school allowed
him to let DSS interview him on three seperate occasions the last time. I
did not know that they can't do that then. Chris had a nightmare last night.
It will be the last one he has and I really do not care who I have to piss
off, mow over or knock out of my way to get all of this to stop.


> They've already interviewed your son without your permission and you've
had
> them at your door. You don't say if you let them in and talked to them at
> that time or what they say the next step is going to be

Mike showed them in, answered all their questions in a manner that I would
call intimidating as hell. Mike is a big guy who looks like Santa Claus
crossed with a Hell's Angel. The investigator was this little wet behind the
ears, just out of school kid who was probably just following orders. I told
him that I had been through this before and that I KNEW he could only make
one more "drop in" visit during the next 45 days. I told him I KNEW that,
when he returned, if he found nothing to substaniate their allegations he
HAD TO, BY LAW, drop the investigation and I had to be sent a letter giving
the dispensation of the investigation. I did not know any of this the first
time. That is how they got away with so much of this BS the first time.

The next step? I mowed my lawn, cleaned my house and washed the rest of the
clothes (Actually Mike did most of it while I read, wrote emails and worked
with Chris.) We are not doing anything wrong and all of the things they are
accusing me are out right lies. Unless DSS in SC honestly wants to be in
court with me accusing them of harrassment, falsification of records, libel,
slander (which ever one applies in this case) and anything else I can get a
righteously indignant lawyer with a heart of gold to come up with, unless
they honestly want all the local news media splashed with the image of a
disabled mom and her beautiful, bright, well taken care of child pleading
for the understanding and sympathy of other parents in the area... I really
think that if these people are smart enough to trump up charges and make my
life hell then they have to be smart enough to figure that I will turn the
tables on them eventually. And God help them if I do because it is going to
get nasty. I am sick of running scared.

--- but if you think
> there is going to be ANY next step, I know that I would want an attorney.
If
> DSS didn't tell you that they were dropping the case, then I think you
need
> one now.

I agree with you. I am furious but not dense <GGG>. I am just trying to
figure out how to pay for one.

Brightest Blessings,
Virginia

"Religion is what you do so that others will think well of you. Spirituality
is what you do so you will think well of yourself." - Silver Nolan


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im sorry you had those problems. join the homeschooling legal defense fund. i am a homeschool vet......12 yrs.......i wish you luck and peace..............blackwolf
Virginia Chiasson wrote:
> Virginia --
>
> As much as I admire your gumption - I, personally, would not have ANY
actual
> conversation or contact with DSS unless I had an experienced attorney on
my
> side.

Hi Pam...

Unfortunately, DSS showed up on my doorstep at 8:30 am. We had all slept in
as planned. I was on the phone with the social worker who the school sent
out to "investigate" me a few weeks ago(She called me at 7:30). Mike was
waking up and Chris had been up about twenty minutes. He was watching
Nickeloden. When he heard a car drive up, Chris thought it was my sister in
law. Then he saw the worker, who he already knew. Chris let him in. He was a
"friend" as far as Chris was concerned because he had spent so much time
with the guy the day before. The principal told him that the investigator
was there to "protect" him. Can you believe that? An attorney at that point
was not exactly an option. As you might imagine, we have had a long talk
with Chris about opening doors to people.<G>



If you don't know anybody - ask your state homeschooling organization
> or you can call the trial lawyers association for your state. Ask your
state
> organization for material to provide to your attorney to bring him/her up
to
> speed on your state's homeschooling law.

I am just now begining to know where to start with all this. I have print
outs of the law in my state, in case I need them (which I probably will). At
the moment, a lawyer is out of the realm of my financial abilty. To get a
pro se lawyer in SC, you have to be on a waiting list and it basically has
to be an easy case, from what they told me when I called a few weeks ago,
when the first investigator showed up. But they put me on the waiting list.
It could be months before I hear back from them. Right now we are waiting to
exhale. Mike is applying for social security (He was elcectrocuted on the
job in 1999 by a waffle baker at the Waffle House). If it comes through the
back pay he is owed will be more than enough to pay for a decent lawyer.

DSS has way too much power - far beyond we would normally think is
possible - it is risky to try to face them
> down on your own. You may not need anything except a phone call or a
letter
> from your lawyer -- but you never know.

I hope all I will need is a phone call or a letter. This is my second trip
down this road and my want to homeschool my child was just as big a part of
it then as it is now. I know how risky this is. Unfortunately, so does my
son. We used to whisper in our house until after 3:30pm everyday. That is
when DSS stops sending out people to investigate. We spent our weekends
cleaning house. He had nightmares about being taken away. The school allowed
him to let DSS interview him on three seperate occasions the last time. I
did not know that they can't do that then. Chris had a nightmare last night.
It will be the last one he has and I really do not care who I have to piss
off, mow over or knock out of my way to get all of this to stop.


> They've already interviewed your son without your permission and you've
had
> them at your door. You don't say if you let them in and talked to them at
> that time or what they say the next step is going to be

Mike showed them in, answered all their questions in a manner that I would
call intimidating as hell. Mike is a big guy who looks like Santa Claus
crossed with a Hell's Angel. The investigator was this little wet behind the
ears, just out of school kid who was probably just following orders. I told
him that I had been through this before and that I KNEW he could only make
one more "drop in" visit during the next 45 days. I told him I KNEW that,
when he returned, if he found nothing to substaniate their allegations he
HAD TO, BY LAW, drop the investigation and I had to be sent a letter giving
the dispensation of the investigation. I did not know any of this the first
time. That is how they got away with so much of this BS the first time.

The next step? I mowed my lawn, cleaned my house and washed the rest of the
clothes (Actually Mike did most of it while I read, wrote emails and worked
with Chris.) We are not doing anything wrong and all of the things they are
accusing me are out right lies. Unless DSS in SC honestly wants to be in
court with me accusing them of harrassment, falsification of records, libel,
slander (which ever one applies in this case) and anything else I can get a
righteously indignant lawyer with a heart of gold to come up with, unless
they honestly want all the local news media splashed with the image of a
disabled mom and her beautiful, bright, well taken care of child pleading
for the understanding and sympathy of other parents in the area... I really
think that if these people are smart enough to trump up charges and make my
life hell then they have to be smart enough to figure that I will turn the
tables on them eventually. And God help them if I do because it is going to
get nasty. I am sick of running scared.

--- but if you think
> there is going to be ANY next step, I know that I would want an attorney.
If
> DSS didn't tell you that they were dropping the case, then I think you
need
> one now.

I agree with you. I am furious but not dense <GGG>. I am just trying to
figure out how to pay for one.

Brightest Blessings,
Virginia

"Religion is what you do so that others will think well of you. Spirituality
is what you do so you will think well of yourself." - Silver Nolan


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In a message dated 9/22/02 4:05:34 PM, silverhuntress@... writes:

<< Chris had a nightmare last night.
It will be the last one he has and I really do not care who I have to piss
off, mow over or knock out of my way to get all of this to stop. >>

He will have more nightmares if you don't deal with this calmly enough to
have it go away the RIGHT way.

<<if these people are smart enough to trump up charges and make my
life hell then they have to be smart enough to figure that I will turn the
tables on them eventually. And God help them if I do because it is going to
get nasty. >>

More stuff of nightmares.

If you put your concerns calmly in writing with a copy of the homeschooling
laws and send it by mail to DSS it will do you more good than any amount of
writing to us.

If you can't get a lawyer to help you, you should document in CALM writing
and have it on record soon.

Fury will work against you.

Sandra