Jocelyn Vilter

That's the one.

jocelyn
> Is that the one where people wander into the steambath not really knowing
> why they're there? And they interact with the janitor who turns out to be
> .... maybe it was a surprise so I won't say ;-)
>
> That was really cool. I remember seeing that twice on PBS as a kid.

Pam Hartley

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>From: [email protected]
>To: [email protected]
>Subject: [Unschooling-dotcom] Digest Number 2302
>Date: Wed, Aug 28, 2002, 10:40 AM
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> I guess I was just wondering about easing up on swords and arrows, while
> still keeping a "no guns" rule, as I just cannot find any redemptive value
> in pretending to spray someone with bullets.


It's not really about what you find redemptive value in, though -- it's
about what THEY find redemptive value in.

If they want to pretend to spray each other with bullets in the midst of a
game in the living room, I would let them. If I had *any* fear that they did
not realize that real bullets would injure or kill, I'd find ways to bring
that up (just as when my daughters were pretending they could fly by jumping
off the chairs -- if I had had any concerns that they might really think
they could fly and might head up to the roof to try it, I'd have mentioned
the fact).

As with anything else, if I didn't want to play I would just tell them that.
"Please don't shoot me, I don't like to play shooting games." And that would
be respected, just as I respect their desire to do and not do what they like
and don't like.

You talk about "easing up" and a "no guns" rule -- these things *are* doing
what Ren was talking about, which is forcing your views on your children.

Pam