Re: 2239 - measure of success: happiness
Luz Shosie and Ned Vare
on 8/13/02 1:37 PM, [email protected] at
[email protected] wrote:
Tia writes:
Not by any means. What I meant was that his self-education prepared him for
what he chose, which was college, and he did a good job of it...he was
curious about what college was like. He discovered that he was good at it.
If he had chosen to continue either of the jobs he had in his teens or
something else -- it didn't matter to us -- that would have been fine with
Luz and me because we only wanted him to be happy and self-assured.
Unschoolers need the reassurance that NOT studying school subjects does not
mean that there is an absence of education. All kids (and adults) have gaps
in their learning, and the trick is to know that you can learn what you need
by yourself because that's what you've done all along. That is a higher
plane, I think, than always waiting to be told what to learn.
If he had asked me whether I wanted him to go to college or if I thought
college was a good way to spend time and money, I'm sure that my honest
answer would have been no. But he didn't ask and I didn't say, even though I
believe he knew my feelings anyway - I don't hide a lot of my views....as
you might have noticed.
Our goal for him was never college. Now that it's past, the goal is still
his happiness, not any other. His self-government and our trust in him have
so far been the foundation for everything, I believe.
Ned Vare
What schools teach has never had any connection to what children are
interested in. -- I forget who said that, probably Holt
[email protected] wrote:
Tia writes:
> I do hope that you aren't holding up his path into the world as the onlyNed replies:
> measure of success in unschooling.
Not by any means. What I meant was that his self-education prepared him for
what he chose, which was college, and he did a good job of it...he was
curious about what college was like. He discovered that he was good at it.
If he had chosen to continue either of the jobs he had in his teens or
something else -- it didn't matter to us -- that would have been fine with
Luz and me because we only wanted him to be happy and self-assured.
Unschoolers need the reassurance that NOT studying school subjects does not
mean that there is an absence of education. All kids (and adults) have gaps
in their learning, and the trick is to know that you can learn what you need
by yourself because that's what you've done all along. That is a higher
plane, I think, than always waiting to be told what to learn.
If he had asked me whether I wanted him to go to college or if I thought
college was a good way to spend time and money, I'm sure that my honest
answer would have been no. But he didn't ask and I didn't say, even though I
believe he knew my feelings anyway - I don't hide a lot of my views....as
you might have noticed.
Our goal for him was never college. Now that it's past, the goal is still
his happiness, not any other. His self-government and our trust in him have
so far been the foundation for everything, I believe.
Ned Vare
What schools teach has never had any connection to what children are
interested in. -- I forget who said that, probably Holt
Tia Leschke
>ROFL!
>If he had asked me whether I wanted him to go to college or if I thought
>college was a good way to spend time and money, I'm sure that my honest
>answer would have been no. But he didn't ask and I didn't say, even though I
>believe he knew my feelings anyway - I don't hide a lot of my views....as
>you might have noticed.
>Our goal for him was never college. Now that it's past, the goal is stillThat's what I thought. Just checking. I have a hard time with the
>his happiness, not any other. His self-government and our trust in him have
>so far been the foundation for everything, I believe.
attitude of some homeschoolers that doing really well academically is *the*
proof that homeschooling works.
Tia
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
Eleanor Roosevelt
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Tia Leschke
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On Vancouver Island