Luz Shosie and Ned Vare

Sandra wrote:
>Maybe it's just my La Leche League propaganda kicked in, but I still see
>myself as my child's partner, rather than adversary or "trainer."

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>I've seen kids not want to have anything to do with their parents years later
>(if it doesn't start when they're 14) and I'm not interested in going that
>route either, just to teach them "habits." If they missed being invested in
>their own sock supply as teens, they can catch up on that responsibility
>lesson in just the first month they're on their own.

and

>But in truth my kids are NOT irresponsible. I'm backup. And their
>responsibility isn't coming from failures when I stood back, but ...

and later

>>Maybe if you offered him a different container each time? <g> At least
>>he'd be getting the "variety" he seems to want, and you wouldn't be finding
>>surprises. <<

>Oh that would be SO COOL!!! It might serve to make him just want to use the
>potty, too, if you make a list of things you think would be neat for him to
>pee in.

>"A HAT! You've never done it in a hat before. Here's one!"

Yes!! I love the idea of partnership as opposed to the adversarial stuff we
parents can get caught up in.

We can turn almost anything into a power struggle. Hmmm... would it work
with junk food? " You can't have your spinach until you finish every cookie
on that plate!"

Cassidy once asked me "Mom, are you using reverse psychology on me?" Now, we
never had any psycology lessons at our house -- where did he learn that?

And speaking of constipation & oversharing ... I could add another benefit
of medical marijuana, but it's illegal (sigh).

Luz
Or should I say Anonymous?