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In a message dated 6/6/02 9:10:20 AM Central Daylight Time,
SandraDodd@... writes:


> In a message dated 6/6/02 12:41:22 AM, laura90713@... writes:
>
> << Grandpa did offer to pay for our room when we told him we could not
> afford one. Am I being a real pain in the butt? Maybe I take offense
> too easily in regards to our children. Or maybe my reasoning is
> skewed because I know so much family history that's taken place over
> the many years. >>
>
> Let them pay for the room.
> Let them send kids away. Use it as a lesson to the kids about how some
> people feel about kids, so they'll appreciate how you are with them!
>
> Being where people aren't as liberal and child-focussed might be a real
> eye-opener for them that will last them the rest of their lives.
>
> Holly is appalled when she sees people treating kids like totally inferior
> beings. It will color the kind of parent and adult she will be!
>
> Sandra

ITA! If Grandpa offered to pay for the room then go, enjoy yourselves! I
would talk to Grandpa about changing his mind and having the kids stay for
dinner. Explain that you believe the children deserve the same treatment as
the rest of the family, that you don't differentiate between adults and
children. Maybe invite Grandpa over for a meal at your home so he can see
your kids calmly sitting down to dinner and participating in polite
conversation. But if he remains firm about no kids at his special dinner then
make sure the room service for the kids is included in the room. I say this
because I firmly believe that if they can't enjoy a catered meal (Is enjoy
the right word? Catered hotel meals aren't always the best! <beg>) with the
rest of the family, then they should at least get the *same* food. Good luck!
:o)
~Nancy


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